People are complicated! And truthfully, not all of us are great at building bonds with others. But, fear not! We’ve pulled together a few resources to help.
Here are ten of our best quotes to help you understand people and navigate relationships like a pro.
Quotes for Understanding People and Relationships
Quote 1: It’s not our job to fix people. It’s our job to love them even while they are broken. – Dave Willis
Quote 2: Be careful not to dehumanize people you disagree with. In our self-righteousness, we can easily become the very things we dislike in others. – Unknown
Quote 3: “I’m listening” solves more problems than “Here’s how to fix it” ever will. – Unknown
Quote 4: Compliment people. Sometimes you will say something small and simple, but it will fit right into an empty space in someone’s heart. – Unknown
Quote 5: Never forget, the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for the relationships you have with others. If you want to have better relationships with those around you, work on yourself first. – Unknown
Quote 6: Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people. – Carl Jung
Quote 7: When we live with unprocessed trauma, we see everyone’s actions towards us through that lens. – Unknown
Quote 8: Forgiveness is a strange thing. It can sometimes be easier to forgive our enemies than our friends. It can be hardest of all to forgive people we love. Like all of life’s important coping skills, the ability to forgive and the capacity to let go of resentments most likely take root very early in our lives. – Fred Rogers
Quote 9: It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow. – Unknown
Quote 10: Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. – Pema Chodron
Recognize this caring, committed leader? It’s Bill Parisher, Program Manager at Jessie Grant Lodge at the Ranch in Billings.
MSU Billings recently recognized him with an Internship Site Supervisor of the Spring Semester Award.
Mentorship in Action
Here’s what an intern shared about him (edited):
“My site supervisor has been the best boss I have ever had. He is engaging, direct, and holds people accountable while being supportive. I believe he has the greatest character I have ever known in a workplace, and I have never had a bad experience with him. He always checks in with people he supervises — every day if he can. He approaches workplace issues with grace and always speaks his mind… I cannot speak more highly of Damon (Bill) Parisher. He embodies what a boss should be… In the field of mental health, where my site is specifically, I have seen a lot of supervisors and bosses. They all work so hard to make sure that the kids get the treatment that they need… He is what we all hope for when we start at a new position.”
They’re at our core, and the feedback Bill received reflects that they shape how he leads—with integrity and care, creating space for caring people to do their best work and continue showing up for our kids.
Strong teams don’t happen by accident. They’re created by leaders like Bill who show up consistently, with clarity and purpose.
Bill, thank you for your leadership. It’s an honor to have you on our team. We’re grateful for you, your fellow Program Managers, and our entire residential crew at the Ranch.
Behind every strong outcome for kids is a caring adult showing up day after day. In Billings, Anja Whitfield is one of those people. Recently promoted to Lead Mental Health Worker at our STAR Group Home, Anja helps create the kind of environment where kids can begin to heal and grow.
Supporting Kids in Our Group Homes
At STAR Group Home, Anja works closely with kids as they learn to care for themselves and the home they share with others.
She models respect for the space and for each other, helping kids build responsibility and pride in their surroundings. For many of the youth in our care, those everyday routines become an important part of rebuilding stability.
Leadership in Action
When a child is struggling, Anja leans in. Whether it’s stepping outside for fresh air or taking time for a quiet conversation, she creates space for kids to settle and reconnect.
She believes adults must model the kind of home they hope kids will one day create for themselves.
In her new role as Lead Mental Health Worker, Anja also looks forward to working with other leads in the area to streamline processes and strengthen how teams support one another.
Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life
Anja’s work is part of the larger effort happening across our group homes, where caring adults create structure and stability while kids build the skills they need to move forward.
Anja, thank you for the care and leadership you bring to our STAR Group Home each day. Congratulations on your promotion.
Behind every strong outcome for kids and families is a caring person doing the work day after day. In Kalispell, Erika Wilcox is part of that work as a therapist serving through our community-based mental health services.
Through community-based services, she meets kids where they live and learn—helping them develop skills, confidence, and resilience that carry forward into everyday life.
In therapy sessions, Erika focuses on recognizing each child’s strengths while helping them navigate the challenges that come with growing up. By working closely with families, she helps create opportunities for growth and stronger relationships.
This work calls for patience, compassion, and a steady belief in each child’s potential.
Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life
Erika’s work is part of a larger effort across our community-based services programs—where caring people come alongside kids and families to help build the skills and support systems needed to move forward.
Erika, thank you for the work you do each day for kids and families in the Flathead Valley.
At North Skyline Group Home in Great Falls, our kids recently heard from an Olympic torchbearer—and had the chance to experience that moment for themselves.
Each child also had the chance to walk with the Olympic torch, turning Kathie’s story into something they could experience firsthand.
It showed how taking the first step can open the door to new possibilities.
Connecting Stories to Everyday Choices
Brittany Olson, Therapist, built on Kathie’s message by sharing Alysa Liu’s gold-medal performance. Her story reinforced that where you start doesn’t determine where you can go. The choices made along the way matter.
Thank you, Kathie, for sharing your story, and thank you to our North Skyline team for the care you bring each day as you prepare youth for life.
Mental health stigma remains one of the most significant barriers preventing people from seeking care, finding support, and feeling fully accepted in their communities.
Roughly 1 in 5 people live with a mental health condition. Yet despite how common these experiences are, stigma continues to shape how individuals are perceived—often reducing them to a label rather than recognizing them as whole people with strengths and potential.
Mental health stigma doesn’t just affect access to services. It’s associated with:
Increased symptoms and poorer outcomes
Social isolation and withdrawal
Fewer educational and employment opportunities
Reduced self-confidence and hope
In severe cases, the long-term impact of untreated mental health conditions can be life-threatening—not because care isn’t available, but because stigma stands in the way.
Why Labels Matter More Than We Realize
Have you heard of labeling theory? The framework dates back to the early work of French sociologist Emile Durkheim. It proposes that people come to identify and behave in ways that reflect the stigma associated with the labels we stick on them. Essentially, how we label people impacts their behavior.
But it doesn’t stop there. In the 1980s, the theory was revised to help explain the changes that take place in individuals diagnosed with mental health conditions.
According to the modified framework, cultural ideas associated with mental illness become personally relevant to those who struggle. In turn, they foster negative self-beliefs, ultimately leading to secrecy around treatment and social withdrawal from connections they perceive will reject them.
Why a Strength-Based Perspective Matters: Evidence That Challenges Stigma
What if I challenged you to shift your thinking about those with mental illness? Aristotle once wrote, “No great genius has existed without a strain of madness,” and to a certain degree, his words still ring true.
Do your research, and you’ll find a host of well-known minds who grappled with mental illness, including:
Abraham Lincoln—Clinical Depression, Social Anxiety
Ludwig van Beethoven—Bipolar Disorder
Vincent van Gogh—Bipolar Disorder
Isaac Newton—Bipolar Disorder
John Nash—Schizophrenia
Nikola Tesla—Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Leo Tolstoy—Clinical Depression
Edgar Allan Poe—Bipolar Disorder
And that list is far from exhaustive. Perform a simple Google search, and the results will shock you. There are so many bright, creative minds living with mental health conditions.
Putting a Strength-Based Approach Into Practice
Reducing mental health stigma requires changing how we talk about mental health—and what we choose to focus on.
Whether you’re a parent trying to find strategies to guide your child or a social worker attempting to improve outcomes for your clients, people grow best when we build on their strengths rather than focusing on their weaknesses.
And people confronting mental health issues? They’re no different! Mental illness often comes alongside a host of strengths, which too frequently get overshadowed by negative stigma.
Recognizing strengths doesn’t minimize the challenges people face. It acknowledges the full picture—one that stigma often obscures.
Everyone possesses a uniqueness that helps them evolve in their journey. Unique characteristics include:
Potential
Strengths
Capabilities
What receives attention or focus becomes what we strive for, eventually becoming reality.
Be careful with your words and language. Our language creates our (and others’) reality.
Accept change. Life and our world are ever-evolving; don’t resist.
Support others authentically. You will see that your relationships are deeper and more meaningful.
The person is the storyteller of their own story.
Build on what you know to dream of the future.
Capacity building has multiple facets and organizations. Be flexible.
Be collaborative. Be adaptive and value differences.
Common Misbeliefs About People with Mental Illness
There’s a ton of misinformation out there that perpetuates stigma. Here are a few common misconceptions that negatively affect those living with mental health disorders.
Yes, trauma can aid in the underlying expression of genes linked to mental illness, but its presence isn’t always necessary. For instance, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia all have strong biological markers. Their roots often run deep in family lineages, and brain scans reveal structural abnormalities in those afflicted.
Poor parenting is at the root of all mental health conditions.
Indeed, parents influence their children’s behaviors. And without question, abuse and neglect can aid in developing mental health challenges across the lifespan. But many conditions arise despite our best parenting efforts.
For example, years ago, we believed that parents were responsible if their child developed schizophrenia. However, while there is a genetic component—the disorder tends to run in families—there is no evidence that bad parenting causes it. Even if you have a parent with schizophrenia, your chances of getting it are less than 25%.
People with mental health disorders are stupid.
Just look at the list of brilliant minds we noted earlier. Honestly, the idea that people living with mental illness are less intelligent than the general population is a ridiculous notion. Many conditions correlate with genetic markers that show just the opposite.
We’re excited to announce that Leslin Ossoff recently earned her Doctor of Philosophy in Counselor Education and Supervision.
This achievement reflects years of focused study, applied research, and leadership development that strengthens the care we deliver to kids and families across Montana.
Over the past six years, Dr. Ossoff has served in multiple direct-service roles at YBGR and now leads as Regional Clinical Manager in Livingston. She brings clinical expertise, curiosity, and compassion into her work—supporting teams and strengthening outcomes for the kids and families they serve.
Building Strong Foundations Through Leadership
When we invest in leadership, we strengthen care across programs and improve continuity for those we serve. Leaders like Dr. Ossoff help guide our teams with integrity, grounded practice, and a deep belief in people’s capacity to heal and grow.
We’re grateful for the expertise and leadership Dr. Ossoff brings to YBGR and proud to recognize this important professional milestone.
Did you know some of the most impactful leaders are the ones who make room for others to grow? At the Ranch, leadership isn’t about taking the spotlight—it’s about recognizing strengths, building trust, and supporting people as they step into new roles.
That leadership is on full display at Shumaker Lodge through Emily Barnhart, Program Manager, and Fallon Hain, Lead Mental Health Worker.
Creating Space for Growth Through Leadership
Strong teams grow when people feel trusted and supported.
When Fallon transitioned into her role as Lead Mental Health Worker, Emily was quick to deflect credit.
“Whenever someone approaches me about Fallon’s transition to our Lead Mental Health Worker, I often get told I have done well as her supervisor and have helped her grow into this role. However, from my perspective, I didn’t do anything special but allow her to lean into her own strengths and provide her with support and guidance.”
That approach reflects how leadership shows up at the Ranch—by creating space for growth and encouraging people to bring their strengths forward.
Leading From Strength
In her role, Fallon supports and trains other Mental Health Workers, brings thoughtful ideas to the table, and helps work through challenges as they arise.
Emily describes Fallon as a steady presence and trusted collaborator—someone who strengthens both the team and the care provided to youth.
“Fallon has not only helped provide training to other Mental Health Workers, but also to me. She provides great ideas and is extremely helpful at working through challenges as they arise. Fallon is truly my right hand and is a great example of a Lead Mental Health Worker.”
Growth That’s Felt — And Seen
From Fallon’s perspective, that trust made all the difference.
“Emily has by far been a Program Manager I fully trust. She helped me grow more in the last year than I could have ever imagined.”
Feeling seen and supported allowed Fallon to step confidently into her new role—demonstrating what growth can look like when leadership is rooted in trust and people are encouraged to develop their strengths.
When kids come in hot, it can be tempting to match their intensity—raise your voice, react quickly, try to shut things down fast.
But meeting fire with fire rarely helps. It escalates the moment and leaves everyone feeling more overwhelmed than before.
What does help is something quieter and more intentional: a clear, grounded response that slows the moment down instead of turning up the heat. This kind of response supports emotional regulation in kids as they learn how to navigate stress, frustration, and big feelings.
Why Reactions Escalate
All kids experience moments when emotions run high. When that happens, their nervous systems can shift into survival mode, making it harder to think clearly, communicate, or pause before reacting.
If adults respond with urgency, sharpness, or intensity, it can signal that the situation is unsafe or out of control. The result is often more escalation, not less.
A regulated adult response helps bring stability back into the moment—giving kids the space they need to regain control.
What Intention Looks Like in Practice: Boundary, Validation, and Empathy
Responding with intention doesn’t mean ignoring behavior or lowering expectations. It means holding boundaries while staying calm and connected.
Here’s what that can look like in real time:
Each piece serves a purpose.
The boundary provides clarity and safety.
Validation acknowledges the child’s emotional experience.
Empathy helps calm the nervous system by signaling understanding.
Together, they slow the moment down and reduce the likelihood of escalation.
Why This Matters Beyond the Moment
When adults respond this way consistently, kids aren’t just getting through a hard moment—they’re building skills they’ll use throughout their lives.
They’re learning how to pause before reacting.
They’re learning how to communicate when emotions are high.
They’re learning that difficult feelings don’t have to derail relationships or outcomes.
These emotional regulation skills show up at school, in conflict, and later in adulthood. They help frustration slow down instead of turning into shutdown or aggression.
The Power of Modeling
Kids don’t learn emotional regulation because we tell them to “calm down.” They learn it by watching how the adults around them respond when things get hard.
When adults slow themselves down, kids are more likely to do the same.
Meeting intensity with intention isn’t passive. It’s purposeful. It’s choosing responses that protect connection, build skills, and create space for growth.
What we put on kids’ plates plays a fundamental role in their overall wellness.
That’s why kids at the Ranch are now enjoying Montana-raised, grass-fed beef through our Homes for Heifers program. This effort is made possible by generous livestock donors and our partners at The Producer Partnership, who are processing the meat for us at no charge.
About The Producer Partnership
The Producer Partnership is the nation’s first and only USDA nonprofit-owned and operated meat processing facility, based in Livingston, that processes donated livestock into top-quality protein at no cost for nonprofits, schools, and food banks across the state.
Through this partnership, donated livestock is processed, packaged, and delivered directly to the Ranch—helping ensure kids in our care have access to nutritious, high-quality meals sourced right here in Montana.
How to Donate
Interested in donating? You don’t need to be a rancher to take part. Livestock donations can be raised personally or purchased at a local fair or livestock auction.
Here’s how to give:
Step 1: Contact The Producer Partnership
Reach out to Jeri Delys at The Producer Partnership at jeri@producerpartnership.com to submit a livestock donation (beef, pork, or lamb)—raised on your own or purchased at your local fair or livestock auction.
Step 2: Designate the Recipient
Designate Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch as the recipient.
Step 3: Processing & Delivery
The Producer Partnership team coordinates pickup, processing, and packaging.
Thank you to The Producer Partnership for helping turn Montana generosity into meals served right here at the Ranch—and to everyone who supports this effort.
Want to know an easy trick to reduce power struggles, build trust, and teach kids healthy decision-making skills? It starts with saying yes!
That might sound backwards. Parents spend a lot of time saying no to keep kids safe and on track. But the way we say no often sparks the very battles we’re trying to avoid. A slight shift in language can protect the boundary and keep the relationship steady.
Check out the graphic below to see how a simple change in wording can help you set limits while giving kids a path forward.
Why “Finding the Yes” Works
Kids have very little control over their daily lives. Adults decide when they wake up, where they go, what they eat, and how they spend their time. That lack of control can show up as arguing, stalling, or big reactions to small requests.
When we only say no, kids hear a door slam shut—when we “find the yes,” we leave a door open.
The boundary stays the same, but the message changes from:
“You can’t” → to → “Here’s how you can.”
That difference helps kids feel empowered instead of powerless.
What This Teaches Children
This approach does more than stop a meltdown in the moment. It builds skills kids will use for life:
How to handle limits without losing connection
How to make choices within boundaries
How to delay gratification
How to solve problems instead of digging in
How to Try It Today
Here’s how to try the “find the yes” technique today:
1. Hold the boundary.
You don’t need to give in to be kind.
2. Offer a path to yes.
Tell your child what can happen and when.
3. Keep your tone steady.
The magic is in calm, confident delivery.
Remember, even one sentence can change the direction of an interaction.
What happens when caring people show up for kids, day after day, across an entire state? A lot! Our work shows up in homes, programs, and everyday decisions made with the children and families we serve in mind.
Caring for Montana Kids — 2025 Highlights
Below are a few moments from 2025 that show what caring for Montana kids looked like across our work.
During our Council on Accreditation review, families put that impact into their own words:
“We love how they treat our kids. We know when they’re with Yellowstone, they are safe.”
“I couldn’t do this without them. I’m now proud of myself.”
“My kid wouldn’t be alive without them.”
The voices above guide us more than numbers alone ever could.
COA Seal of Excellence Through 2029
In September, the Council on Accreditation (COA) renewed our seal of excellence after a four-day onsite review. COA affirmed the quality of our services and the integrity of how we care for children and families.
This recognition belongs to our team and everyone who walks alongside us.
Each graduate carried a story of perseverance and courage—even when the path was hard.
Hats off to the 2025 Yellowstone Academy high school graduates! 🎓
Investing in the People Who Care for Kids
Our mission doesn’t move forward without our team.
From launching Bucketlist, our peer-to-peer recognition platform, to refreshing core learning, expanding the training team, and strengthening communication channels, 2025 was about investing in culture and in the tools our team needs to prepare youth for life.
We brought all of our locations onto a single telecommunications system through Dialpad, making it easier for families and partners to reach us and for our teams to coordinate in real time.
Better connection means quicker, more collaborative care for kids.
Looking Ahead
As we enter the new year, we want to thank our team for their care and commitment. No doubt, they live our mission, demonstrating what it truly means to be Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life.
And to the families who trust us and the partners who stand beside us—thank you.
Cheers to 2025! And here’s to an even stronger 2026!
The good news? There are practical ways to calm your mind, reduce stress, and regain a sense of steadiness, even in the middle of challenging moments.
How to Tame Anxiety
Here are three simple, effective ways to tame anxiety.
1. Challenge Anxious Thoughts
Anxiety often grows from thoughts that feel true but aren’t accurate.
When worry takes over, the mind tends to jump to worst-case scenarios, assume negative outcomes, and become far more critical than it would be toward anyone else.
Common anxious thinking patterns include:
Seeing situations in black-and-white
Letting one tough moment define everything
Assuming you know what others think
Focusing only on what went wrong
Expecting the worst to happen
When anxious thoughts show up, pause and gently ask:
Is this thought based on facts or fear?
Would this make sense if a friend said it out loud?
Is there another possible explanation?
Questioning anxious thoughts doesn’t make problems disappear, but it can take away some of their power.
For many of the kids in our care, the holidays are spent away from home, making moments of connection and familiarity especially meaningful. That’s why Christmas Eve breakfast at the Ranch remains an important tradition.
From the moment kids arrived to Donald Nutter Memorial Dining Hall this year, they were welcomed by smiling faces, festive décor, and tables set for a special holiday morning. A hot breakfast included cinnamon rolls, sausage links, cheesy eggs, and fresh fruit, followed by a visit to the hot cocoa station with toppings and candy canes.
Some kids arrived in cozy pajamas, others dressed up for the day ahead—but all were met with the same sense of care and belonging.
More Than a Holiday Breakfast
As plates were filled and volunteers poured juice, conversation and laughter filled the room. Tables worked together on Christmas trivia, creating connection throughout the dining hall.
Soon, whispers spread as Santa arrived. Smiles widened as he moved from table to table, bringing a sense of wonder to the room.
Chapel services followed, with voices rising together in familiar Christmas carols—closing the morning with reflection and connection.
Why This Tradition Matters
The Christmas Eve breakfast at the Ranch does more than provide a holiday meal. It creates lasting memories and reinforces a sense of belonging for kids in our care.
Thank You to Our Volunteers
Thank you to the volunteers who made this morning possible. Your generosity and presence made a meaningful difference.
What does community connection look like in action? In Shelby, it looks like showing up, year after year, for families, kids, and neighbors during the Shelby Community Stroll.
This December marked our Shelby community-based services team’s third year hosting cookie decorating as part of the annual holiday event. Their presence has become a familiar and welcomed part of the celebration, creating space for families to gather, connect, and enjoy the season together.
Every detail reflected what matters most in small-town communities—relationships and a shared sense of belonging. From baking to decorating to cheering each other on, the day was rooted in connection.
A Holiday Tradition That Brings People Together
Our participation in this year’s event was made possible by the dedication of our Shelby team, with Jessica Kjos, Administrative Supervisor, baking more than 200 cookies and preparing frosting for kids and families to decorate and enjoy.
Families stopped by throughout the stroll, kids proudly showed off their creations, and the space buzzed with conversation and laughter.
The celebration wrapped up on a high note, with the team taking home first place in the business holiday decorations contest, making it a pretty sweet day all around.
Showing Up Across Our Communities
For the Shelby team, events like this are about more than festivities. They’re about being present, building trust, and staying connected to the community they serve every day.
To our Shelby team and the families who welcomed us into their holiday celebration, thank you. We’re grateful to be part of the Toole County community.
Few are born to lead. Instead, we acquire leadership skills throughout our professional journey. Everything from mindset to emotional intelligence and sound decision-making capabilities play into our capacity to guide others successfully.
Below are fourteen quotes to help you buff up your leadership skills.
Quotes to Grow Your Leadership Skills
Quote 1: Be open-minded. Embrace being wrong. Free yourself of preconceptions. Talk less, listen more. Question everything, even yourself. – Karen Salmansohn
Quote 2: When you hear only what you want to hear, you’re not listening. When you read only to confirm what you know, you’re not learning. Stretch yourself. That’s how you grow. – Marc & Angel
Quote 3: Always be teachable. You are not always right. There is always something to be learned. – Lauren Fortenberry
Quote 4: The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s challenging to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear. – Prasad Mahes
Quote 5: He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. – Lao Tzu
Quote 6: Explain your anger instead of expressing it, and you will open the door to solutions instead of arguments. – Ruth Ghatourey
Quote 7: 10% of conflict is due to differences in opinion, and 90% is due to delivery and tone of voice. – @masteringlawofattraction
Quote 8: I can respect any person who can put their ego aside and say, I made a mistake, I apologize, and I am correcting the behavior. – Sylvester McNutt
Quote 9: The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. – Plato
Quote 10: Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They are compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment. – Brene Brown
Quote 11: When you find yourself in situations of impossible demands, choose relationships first. – Sarah Boyd
Quote 12: Your gifts, leadership, purpose—none of it is about you. Instead, a life of significance is about serving others. It’s about guiding those who need your talents—those gifts, that leadership, and purpose. – Kevin Hall
Quote 13: If we are not a little bit uncomfortable every day, we’re not growing. All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone. – Jack Canfield
Quote 14: There are no limits to what you can accomplish, except the limits you place on your own thinking. – Brian Tracy
When providers collaborate, Montanans experience stronger outcomes.
That’s why we’re proud to announce our partnership with Many Rivers Whole Health, expanding support for youth in Cascade County as they move from children’s services into adult mental health care. This collaboration reinforces our commitment to stability and continuity as youth take their next steps.
Pictured above are Holly Kober and Linda Robbins from Many Rivers alongside Brittany Olson, Therapist, and Mariah Lefebre, Lead Mental Health Worker, from our North Skyline Group Home in Great Falls.
Why Transitional Care Matters
As youth age out of children’s services, the need for support doesn’t disappear—it shifts. Without a coordinated handoff into adult care, young adults can face gaps that increase the likelihood of crisis and instability.
Our partnership with Many Rivers strengthens that handoff and supports transitioning youth into adult mental health care in a way that keeps their progress moving forward.
Building Stronger Foundations for Montanans
Through this partnership, youth in Cascade County enter adulthood with a solid footing—supported by a seamless move to adult services. As we improve how we’re transitioning youth into adult mental health care, we’re strengthening Montana’s system of care and building stronger foundations for Montanans.
Every response reflects what matters most to the kids in our community-rooted residential care: feeling supported, staying connected to family, and having opportunities to grow. Their feedback guides us as we strengthen programs and continue building supportive, relationship-centered environments across our homes.
What Kids Say Makes the Difference
Youth shared what they value most in their experience with us. Here’s a snapshot of their feedback (edited for readability and privacy):
“The staff are very caring.”
“I’m able to see my family every week. Staff also care about us.”
“I like that they give me an opportunity to correct my mistakes and move on.”
Three strengths stood out across our homes:
Nutritious, consistent meals supporting physical and emotional well-being
Trauma-informed, de-escalation-based care
Coaching around prescribed medications to empower youth in their treatment
Strong Results Across Our Residential Programs
Survey scores reflected high satisfaction, with every home and every question averaging above 3.5.
Lewis and Clark (Helena), North Skyline (Great Falls), and our Boulder campus each received scores above 4.0, reinforcing the high-quality, relationship-focused care happening within our therapeutic group homes.
For families served through our community-based services, watch for a survey arriving by email in the weeks ahead.
Are you looking for the secret formula for raising strong kids? You’re in the right place—because the answer is simpler than most people realize.
Parenting is about connection.
The relationship you build with your child shapes the way they learn, grow, and understand themselves. Connection helps kids feel secure and open to guidance—and it becomes the foundation for every future relationship they have.
Below are fifteen powerful quotes about parenting with connection to raise strong, confident kids.
Quotes on Parenting Connection for Raising Strong Kids
Quote 1: The relationship you have with your child shapes the structure and function of their brain. – Dr. Dan Siegel
Quote 2: Kids learn best when they like their teacher and when they think their teacher likes them. – Gordon Neufeld
Quote 3: If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they’re little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they’re big because to them, all of it has always been big stuff. – C.M. Wallace
Quote 4: Our goal with kids is to maintain a connection with their hearts while teaching skills, boundaries, & behavior. If we lose their heart during the process, nothing else will matter. – Sarah Boyd
Quote 5: If kids can trust you with the little stuff, they will come to you with the big stuff. – Dr. Laura Markham
Quote 6: Children don’t just need to be loved. They need to know that nothing they do will change the fact that they’re loved. – Alfie Kohn
Quote 7: Connection is a child’s deepest need and a parent’s highest influence. – Lelia Schott
Quote 8: You can have the best wisdom to share with your child but without a connected relationship, they won’t hear it. When they feel seen, then they can hear. – @The_Therapist_Parent
Quote 9: It turns out that what you’re mostly looking for as a parent is influence, not control. – Ross Greene
Quote 10: What matters most? It’s not the rules. It’s the conversations we have with our kids about the rules we make. – Dr. Lisa Damour
Quote 11: As a child, I just needed to know someone was on my side without having to work so hard to prove myself. – Big Little Feelings
Quote 12: I never want my kids to mess up and think, “Dad’s going to kill me.” Instead, I want their first thought to be, “I need to call my dad.” – Unknown
Quote 13: If your children fear you, they cannot trust you. If they do not trust you, they cannot learn from you. – Lori Petro
Quote 14: When we apologize and repair, we teach our kids how to make amends when they make mistakes in relationships. – Tina Payne Bryson
Quote 15: If children feel safe, they take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share their feelings, and grow. – Alfie Kohn
What brings families back to the same table year after year? A place where they feel supported, welcomed, and connected.
This week, families gathered once again in Kalispell for our annual Thanksgiving dinner hosted by our Child Welfare Prevention and Support Services (CWPSS) team. Local families, CASA workers, and partners from Child and Family Services joined us for an evening of sharing a meal, reconnecting, and strengthening the relationships that help kids thrive.
A Tradition Rooted in Family and Community Connection
This Thanksgiving dinner tradition began years ago in Kalispell with Berni McDonald, CWPSS Program Supervisor, and Tammy Eads, Administrative Supervisor—long before either joined our YBGR family.
Pictured: Tammy Eads, Kalispell Administrative Supervisor, and Berni McDonald, CWPSS Supervisor, at last night’s Thanksgiving celebration for families. This holiday tradition began years ago with Tammy and Berni—long before they joined the YBGR team. The two created it to support Flathead County families.
What began as a simple effort to bring people together has grown into a meaningful tradition for current families, program graduates, and our community partners, who form a critical network of support for the Flathead County residents we serve.
Since becoming part of the YBGR umbrella of care, our Child Welfare Prevention and Support Services program in Kalispell has helped dozens of families find stability and build strong foundations for the future.
Expanding Child Welfare Prevention and Support Services Across Montana
Because of the impact in Kalispell and the growing need statewide, our Child Welfare Prevention and Support Services program is now expanding across our community-based care locations.
The program partners with Child and Family Services—blending parent education, parent coaching, and care coordination to prevent separation, support reunification efforts, and strengthen family systems.
Events like this dinner show what that work looks like in action: connection, consistency, and a community that shows up for families.
To everyone who made this night possible—and to the families who open their lives to us—thank you. Your trust, care, and commitment are valued. We’re grateful for you.
The Lake County team—Anna Paige, Home Support Services Specialist; Siera Chowning, Therapist; and Timothy Sellars, Targeted Case Manager—provides therapy, skill-building, and family support to help youth stay connected to their homes and schools. Their work strengthens family systems and builds the resilience needed for kids to thrive within their communities.
Who doesn’t love the holidays? The shimmering lights, family gatherings, sweet treats, fireworks, and the sparkle of joy on kids’ faces as they tear open gifts on a cold December morning.
But as any parent knows, that magic doesn’t just happen—it takes work. And when you pile holiday preparations on top of an already full plate, caregiver burnout can creep in fast.
What Is Caregiver Burnout?
Caregiver burnout is the emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion that comes from caring for others while neglecting your own needs. It can show up as irritability, fatigue, headaches, sleep issues, or feeling detached from those you love.
Symptoms of Caregiver Burnout
A change in attitude from feeling loving to feeling negative and unconcerned
Withdrawing from friends and family
Losing interest in things you previously enjoyed
Feeling crabby, hopeless, helpless, and exhausted
Changes in eating habits and body weight
Different sleep patterns.
Feeling under the weather or getting sick often
Do any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone.
How to Prevent Caregiver Burnout During the Holidays
Most of us juggle multiple roles—parent, partner, professional, friend—and adding “holiday planner” to the list can feel like too much. Below are a few ways to reduce holiday stress and protect your well-being.
Ask for help.
You don’t have to do it all. Let others lend a hand—whether that’s asking a friend to bring dessert, a partner to take over bedtime, or a grandparent to host one event this year.
Don’t overdo it.
Perfection isn’t the goal—connection is. Simplify traditions, say no when needed, and focus on what truly matters to your family.
Talk it out.
When stress builds, share what’s on your mind. Sometimes a simple conversation with someone you trust can lighten the emotional load.
Take a break.
Rest isn’t indulgent—it’s essential. Step away for a quiet walk, schedule a sitter, or carve out an evening to unwind and recharge.
Seek professional support if you need it.
If your exhaustion lingers for more than two weeks and rest doesn’t help, it may be time to talk with a doctor or therapist. You don’t have to navigate burnout alone.
You’re Not Just a Caregiver—You’re Human
This season, give yourself permission to slow down and savor what really counts. A calmer, more present you is the best gift your family could ask for.
Our Billings Group Home team gathered this week, welcoming crewmates from the Ranch and across the state for a festive, Halloween-themed tour of our homes, including the newly renovated River’s Edge space.
The event brought together caring people from across our network who deliver care through our therapeutic group homes in Billings and beyond. Between laughter, costumes, and reconnecting, the celebration reflected the teamwork and commitment that fuel our mission.
Strengthening Care Across Montana
For youth struggling with behaviors that impact their safety, daily functioning, or ability to attend school, we provide structured, family-style care through our Therapeutic Group Homes in Billings, Boulder, Helena, and Great Falls. Each home offers 24-hour supervision, treatment, and advocacy in a supportive community setting—helping youth find stability and build resilience.
Across Montana, our residential group home and Ranch teams provide care for youth in need of safe, structured environments that support their path toward healing. Every day, they create nurturing spaces where kids grow stronger, build relationships, and move toward brighter futures.
We’re grateful for their dedication and for the life-changing work they do daily with the youth in our care.
Every day, we navigate important conversations—with coworkers, friends, and family members. Some are easy, while others require us to slow down, listen deeply, and respond with care.
Our ability to self-regulate and remain emotionally grounded plays a critical role in how effectively we communicate. To truly be present with others, we need to create a safe emotional climate, both within ourselves and in the environment around us.
How to Create Space for Important Conversations
Below are six ways you can create a safe space for important conversations with others.
Be Transparent About Your Limitations
When people know what to expect, they feel more comfortable opening up. Be upfront about your time or focus so the other person knows you’re present within clear boundaries.
“Thank you so much for coming in. I do have a meeting at 11:00, but that still gives us a good chunk of time to chat. What’s up?”
Transparency builds trust. It communicates that you value the other person’s time while being honest about your own.
Be Consistent and Predictable
Predictability creates safety. When others can anticipate how you’ll respond, they’re less likely to feel anxious or defensive.
Speak in an even, calm tone—what we like to call your “DJ voice.” Steady, low, and measured speech signals that you’re approachable and in control, even in emotionally charged moments.
Mind Your Demeanor
Words matter, but nonverbal cues often speak louder. Notice your body language.
Unclench your jaw, relax your shoulders, and soften your eyes. A calm, open posture communicates empathy and emotional steadiness before you even say a word.
Prepare Before Important Meetings
Take five to ten minutes before meetings or conversations to transition out of what you were working on. Ground yourself with a few deep breaths, clear your mind, and set an intention for the discussion.
That slight pause helps you show up mentally and emotionally present—not distracted or reactive.
Know When to Reschedule
If you’re not in the right frame of mind, it’s okay to hit pause. Going into a tough conversation while stressed or preoccupied rarely leads to connection.
Rescheduling isn’t avoidance—it’s respect. It ensures you can give the other person your full attention when it truly matters.
Creating a Culture of Safety
Emotional safety begins with self-awareness. When we take the time to regulate ourselves first, we make space for understanding, empathy, and trust to grow. Whether at home, in the workplace, or within our teams, safe conversations start with grounded people.
What does “Caring people, preparing youth for life” look like in action? Sometimes, it’s as simple as showing up with a cake.
In Kalispell, a child in our Child Welfare Prevention and Support Services (CWPSS) program recently celebrated their first birthday. When the father couldn’t bring something to mark the day, Michael Palumbo, Family Unification Specialist, stepped in—picking up a smash cake and a candle so the milestone wouldn’t go uncelebrated.
It was a small gesture that spoke volumes about the heart of our mission. Acts of care like this remind us that caring for children and families isn’t only about services—it’s about people who notice the little things and go the extra mile.
Strengthening Families Across Montana
Our CWPSS program partners with Child and Family Services to strengthen families and keep kids safely at home whenever possible. Through parent education, supervised visitation, and care coordination, our team helps prevent separation and supports reunification—building resilient, stable family systems across Montana.
These efforts are part of a broader network of family support services in Montana, helping children thrive in their own homes and communities. Every day, caring professionals like Michael Palumbo show what it means to be caring people, preparing youth for life—meeting families where they are and ensuring that no milestone, big or small, goes unnoticed.
Are you looking for ways to help kids with ADHD thrive? Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurological condition that affects how children think, learn, and connect with the world around them.
Keep reading for ways to support kids living with ADHD, and check out our blog post, 16 Quotes That Illustrate ADHD, for more perspective on the diagnosis.
Quotes on How to Help Kids with ADHD Thrive
Quote 1: Kids do well if they can. If they aren’t doing well, it means there’s a barrier between effort and success that must be addressed. – Dr. Ross Greene
Quote 2: I am always open to communication, but I need to hear positive comments about my son as well. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 3: Ask students to set small achievable learning goals so they can experience success. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 4: The key is pushing kids past their comfort zone but not so far that they feel overwhelmed. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 5: Multi-step directions are counterproductive. There is just too much information to take in and retain. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 6: Research shows that distractible kids need to fidget in order to focus. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 7: The more of my senses you address, the more engaged I will be in learning. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 8: Teach students to write down questions that occur to them during “silent time.” – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 9: Delayed consequences, such as detention, don’t work for kids with ADHD. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 10: Don’t assign homework as a punishment or consequence for misbehavior at school. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 11: Research shows that music helps the ADHD brain organize time and space, aiding in learning and memory. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 13: Provide opportunities for kids to show divergent, creative, and imaginative thinking—and to receive recognition for that originality. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 14: The best teacher for a child with ADHD is one who celebrates and works with their student’s creativity, energy, and curiosity. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 15: Success at school is the single more therapeutic thing a child can experience. – Chris Ziegler Deny, M.S.
The first freeze of fall arrived earlier this month, marking a shift in season and spirit across the Ranch in Billings. Before the chill set in, Josie Brady, Native American Services Coordinator, and Liz Campoy, PR Coordinator, made one final visit to the Indigenous Garden—a space rooted in culture, healing, and connection. Together, they harvested the last of the season’s bounty and prepared the garden for rest.
A Season of Abundance in the Indigenous Garden
The Indigenous Garden radiated life and color—delicata squash, tomatoes, marigolds, pumpkins, sunflowers, corn, tomatillos, cucumbers, peppers, and lemon balm. Each plant carried purpose and meaning.
Tomatoes were simmered into soup served with grilled cheese sandwiches, while marigolds and lemon balm steeped into calming teas. Pumpkins brightened shared spaces with their cheerful hues, and cucumbers and peppers offered fresh, nourishing simplicity.
Using tomatoes and jalapeños from the harvest, homemade salsa brought people together—a gift from the earth shared in community.
Connection, Renewal, and Rest
For Josie and Liz, harvesting in the Indigenous Garden was more than gathering food—it was a spiritual experience, a quiet connection to the ancestors who once tended these same crops for their families. With each seed, root, and blossom, their wisdom was honored, and wellness renewed.
Working the soil grounded the spirit, cleared the mind, and reminded all who helped that healing grows in cycles—just like the earth.
As the beds are cleared and the soil rests, the Indigenous Garden enters a season of renewal—its lessons of gratitude, growth, and connection continuing to nourish all who walk its paths.
Have you heard of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)? It’s a neurodevelopmental condition that affects how a person thinks, learns, and behaves.
Below are details about the condition, the strengths that often accompany it, and quotes that capture what it’s like to live with ADHD.
Hallmark symptoms include:
Inattentive Type
Trouble paying attention (easily sidetracked)
Doesn’t like or avoids long mental tasks (such as homework)
Trouble staying on task during school, at home, or even at play
Disorganized and seems forgetful
Doesn’t appear to listen when directly spoken to
Doesn’t pay close attention to details
Loses things often
Makes careless mistakes
Struggles to follow through with instructions
Hyperactive/Impulsive Type
Blurting out answers before a question is finished
Frequently interrupting others
Trouble waiting for their turn
Talks too much
Fidgeting, tapping, and squirming
Gets up when it’s not appropriate (such as when the teacher is talking or in the middle of dinner)
Running or climbing in inappropriate situations.
Unable to play quietly
Always “on the go.”
Kids with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder present predominantly with inattentive, hyperactive/impulsive, or, most frequently, a combination of symptoms.
It often coexists with learning, autism spectrum, anxiety, and mood disorders, and children exposed to trauma may be misdiagnosed with the condition.
Children with ADHD think differently and have a host of strengths.
16 Quotes Illustrating ADHD
Below are sixteen quotes that paint a portrait of what life is like for kids living with ADHD.
Quote 1: Only a small fraction of children with ADHD demonstrate outwardly hyperactive symptoms. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 2: Anyone who exhibits the classic symptoms of ADHD will have difficulty with all or most of the seven core executive functions. – Russell Barkley, Ph.D.
Quote 3: Even mild stress floods the prefrontal cortex with dopamine, essentially taking it offline. – Adele Diamond, Ph.D.
Quote 4: Many kids with ADHD shut down when overwhelmed. They may act out when confronted with meeting parental expectations, like cleaning their room, as they have no idea how to start and finish. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 5: Repeated bouts of fear, frustration and failure in school create stress that is neurologically damaging. – Jerome Scultz, Ph.D.
Quote 6: A lot of kids will develop poor self-esteem related to the symptoms of ADHD. – Perri Klass, M.D. & Eileen Costello, M.D.
Quote 7: Teens with ADHD often have a deep-seated fear of failure that can look like a problem with motivation. – Rick Fiery, M.S.
Quote 8: Many boys with social anxiety retreat into a virtual world of gaming because it is safer and easier than possibly facing rejection from peers. – Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW
Quote 9: The way ADHD often expresses itself in girls—excessive talking, poor self-esteem, worrying, perfectionism—is seldom read as such. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 10: Executive function challenges are often mistaken for disobedience, laziness, defiance, or apathy. – Chris Zeigler Dendy, M.S.
Quote 11: For kids with ADHD, poor behavior usually blossoms from a skill deficit. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 12: Children with ADHD have lower brain arousal; this decreases their ability to screen out distractions. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 13: For kids with undiagnosed dyslexia, everyday schooling is like being taught in a foreign language. – Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D.
Quote 14: Auditory processing disorder may impair auditory discrimination, listening in noisy environments, and recalling what you’ve heard and the sequence of words spoken. – ADDitude Magazine
Quote 15: Kids do well if they can. If they aren’t doing well, it means there’s a barrier between effort and success that must be addressed. – Dr. Ross Greene
Quote 16: Success at school is the single more therapeutic thing a child can experience. – Chris Ziegler Deny, M.S.
How to Help Kids with ADHD Thrive
Read the blog below for tips on how to support kids with ADHD.
When it comes to Montana youth mental health, one year can change everything. For kids and families across the state, it’s meant more access to care, more stability, and more hope.
This month marks one year since Youth Dynamics (YDI) joined Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR)—a partnership grounded in compassion, collaboration, and commitment to strengthening the continuum of care for youth and families. Together, we’ve expanded our reach, unified our systems, and built a stronger foundation for healing across Montana.
These homes are more than programs—they’re communities where young people build relationships, rediscover purpose, and gain the skills they need for a successful future. This growth reflects not only increased capacity but the heart of our shared mission: helping kids and families thrive close to home.
Strengthening Systems That Support Care
Behind each success is a focus on stewardship and connection. Over the past year, YBGR has implemented streamlined systems that enhance how we work, communicate, and support one another. These improvements allow teams to spend more time where it matters most—caring for youth and families.
Together, we’re building a stronger, more responsive behavioral health system—one that ensures kids receive the right care, at the right time, close to home.
What moves the needle for kids? At this year’s Yellowstone Conference, the answer was clear—we are stronger together.
Under the theme “Stronger Together: Building Strategic Partnerships for Lasting Impact,” leaders from across Montana’s behavioral health, education, and nonprofit sectors gathered to share expertise, strengthen relationships, and explore collaborative solutions that reach beyond any one organization.
The conversations weren’t just inspiring—they were practical, thoughtful, and rooted in action. Every discussion pointed to one truth: lasting change happens when we work side by side.
The takeaway was simple but powerful: none of us can do this alone. Together, we can move the needle in ways that change lives for Montana kids and families.
Building Stronger Systems of Care
Throughout the day, panel discussions highlighted how connection, trust, and shared goals lead to stronger, more resilient systems of care. From deepening partnerships with Native communities to strengthening Montana’s behavioral health workforce, each session emphasized collaboration as the foundation of progress.
These exchanges moved beyond theory to what works in practice: aligning systems, listening to communities, and ensuring kids receive the right care, at the right time, in the right place.
Thank You to Our Yellowstone Conference Participants
Much gratitude to every speaker who brought their expertise, insight, and leadership to this year’s conference. Your voices shaped meaningful dialogue and drove forward a shared vision for Montana’s youth.
Panelists included:
Clint Valandra – Indigenous Education Coordinator, Billings Public Schools
Charlene “Charli” Sleeper – Founder, MMIP Billings Advocacy Project; Mental Health Worker, Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch
Sunny Day Real Bird – Director of American Indian Outreach, Montana State University Billings
David R. Blaine – CEO, Crow Times Youth and Elder Works
James C. Petrovich, PhD, MSW – Professor & Department Chair; Founding Director, Master of Social Work Program, Carroll College
Kate Chapin, MSW, LCSW – Executive Director, Center for Children, Families, and Workforce Development, University of Montana
Becky Lyons, EdD – Director of Career & Employment Services, Montana State University Billings
Jen Chancellor, MBA – University Development Counselor, Grand Canyon University
Matt Leavenworth, PhD, LCPC – Founder, Pay Love Forward; Vice Chair, Yellowstone County Suicide Prevention Coalition
Nina Hernandez – Executive Director, Friends of the Children – Eastern Montana; Nonprofit Leader & Consultant
Special thanks to our conference sponsors, Grand Canyon University and Love INC–Yellowstone County, for helping make this event possible and for their commitment to strengthening Montana’s systems of care.
Moving Forward
The Yellowstone Conference reaffirmed a collective belief: progress happens when people work together. Across every discussion, one message stood out — collaboration builds the foundation for lasting impact.
Together, we’re creating opportunities, strengthening relationships, and preparing youth for life.
Mohini Venkatesh, MPH, joined the National Council in 2007, serving in numerous positions leading quality improvement, workforce, consulting, and business development initiatives before assuming her newly established role as chief of staff within the Office of the CEO in October 2022. A connector of people, ideas, and initiatives, she works closely with the CEO, board of directors, and other leadership in navigating the National Council’s growth and internal changes to better position its impact against its mission and strategic goals.
By building connections with the National Council’s membership over several years, she has seen the impact of those working to improve mental wellbeing and the escalating challenges they face, such as workforce shortages and social determinants impacting access to care. Inspired by the resolve of others to do good, she strives for the National Council — alongside its members — to positively influence the lives of people in the U.S. with mental health and substance use challenges to ensure access to care when and where they need it. She believes in the organization’s vision for the future and using every means possible — policy, training and education; a vast and diverse network; and more — to develop greater understanding of the challenges surrounding mental health and substance use treatment and promote solutions of impact.
Venkatesh’s career has also included work at a hospital-based psychiatric unit, several social service nonprofit organizations, and a state association advocating for community mental health and substance use services. She received her master’s degree in public health from Yale University and her bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of Massachusetts-Amherst.
Mohini Venkatesh’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
As keynote speaker, Mohini Venkatesh will headline the 2025 Yellowstone Conference with the theme Stronger Together: Building Strategic Partnerships for Lasting Impact, highlighting how cross-sector collaboration fuels sustainable change.
Kirsten Smith is Bloom Consulting, LLC’s principal. She has over 13 years of experience working with state and local clients on a wide range of projects. Kirsten is a project manager, researcher, facilitator, writer, and evaluator. She enjoys and has deep experience working with diverse clients and topics.
Kirsten is trained as a facilitator and strategic planner using methods developed by the Institute of Cultural Affairs. She is also a certified Project Management Professional through the Project Management Institute. She holds a Master of Public Affairs from the LBJ School of Public Affairs and a Master of Arts in Russian, East European, and Eurasian Studies from the University of Texas at Austin.
Kirsten is also an active community member, volunteering as a:
Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) for children in the Child Protective Services system
Fundraiser, instructor, and previous board member for the Montana Ballet Company
Kirsten Smith’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Kirsten Smith will join the Bridging Sectors, Building Futures panel, where she’ll share her expertise in public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Meghan Peel is currently the Interim Division Administrator of the Behavioral Health and Developmental Disabilities Division at the Montana Department of Public Health and Human Services (DPHHS). Meghan has also served as the Deputy Division Administrator of BHDD and Director of the Children’s Mental Health Bureau within DPHHS.
Prior to joining DPHHS, she managed the CHIP program and was part of the implementation and operations team for Medicaid Expansion. During her tenure with the department, she has focused on working closely with providers and stakeholders to evaluate and improve services within the continuum of care.
Additionally, Meghan holds a degree in Business Accounting and worked in both public and private accounting for seven years prior to joining DPHHS.
Meghan Peel’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Meghan Peel will join the Bridging Sectors, Building Futures panel, where she’ll share her expertise in public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Matt Bugni joined AWARE in January of 2011, performing various leadership and business development roles prior to becoming AWARE’s Chief Executive Officer in November of 2018.
He pursued his undergraduate education at St. John’s University in Minnesota before returning to Montana. Prior to his time at AWARE, Matt worked as a direct support professional for a psychiatric hospital; he also performed budgeting and finance roles for the State of Montana in the Governor’s Budget Office and Department of Public Health and Human Services.
Matt is a passionate advocate for community-based disability services. Matt and his wife, Katy, have four adult sons of whom they are immensely proud. Matt and Katy’s family has diverse ethnicities and disabilities which drives their passions to be constant learners and active participants in our communities.
Matt is a Montana native. He enjoys daily hikes with his wife, hunting, mountain biking, listening to and playing music, and traveling around the world.
Matt Bugni’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Matt Bugni will join the Bridging Sectors, Building Futures panel, where he’ll share his expertise in public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Erika Purington is a dynamic leader, coach, and changemaker whose career spans nonprofit leadership, executive coaching, and community transformation. Based in Billings, she currently serves as CEO of Allies in Aging: Senior Services, Lifelong Support, where she led the bold merger of two senior service agencies into a unified, future-focused organization.
With a master’s in Rehabilitation and Mental Health Counseling from Montana State University Billings, Erika has held executive roles across youth, family, and senior service organizations—including Tumbleweed, STEP, and Girl Scouts of Montana & Wyoming. She also founded SheLeads and EW Coaching & Consulting, helping leaders and teams thrive.
A certified Presence-Based Leadership Coach, Erika is known for blending empathy and accountability—her “superpower”—to inspire transformation. She is a sought-after keynote speaker and facilitator, offering audiences fresh perspectives, humor, and practical tools for leading through complexity and change.
Erika Purington’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Erika Purington will join the Bridging Sectors, Building Futures panel, where she’ll share her expertise in public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Sierra Riesberg has over 10 years of experience in the social services field, working in both rural and urban communities, as well as within behavioral health, intellectual/developmental, and aging populations.
She is a systems-level thinker and wants to break down barriers for anyone who needs to access services, as well as barriers for service providers to be able to deliver the services that community members need.
Additionally, she believes that complex problems cannot be solved by one person or one agency alone; unique perspectives and collaboration are key to the progression and development of our social services system.
Sierra Riesberg’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Sierra Riesberg will join the Bridging Sectors, Building Futures panel, where she’ll share her expertise in public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Mike Chavers joined YBGR in August of 2016 as the Chief Executive Officer. Born and raised in Idaho, Chavers pursued his education and career in Illinois. Before moving to Montana, he worked at Indian Oaks Academy, Nexus, for 22 years. Most recently, he served as the Executive Director of the organization.
Chavers holds a Master of Arts in Counseling from Olivet Nazarene University and a Bachelor of Arts in Communications from the Moody Bible Institute. He is a fellow at Georgetown University’s Center for Juvenile Justice Reform.
Mike is married to Michelle. They have three daughters—Caroline, Olivia, and Chloe. Besides spending time with his family, Mike enjoys fishing, the outdoors, and supporting the arts, particularly live music.
Mike Chavers’ Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At this year’s Yellowstone Conference, Mike Chavers will moderate the “Bridging Sectors, Building Futures” panel, where he’ll lead a discussion on public-private partnerships for sustainable change.
Sarah Music is the Director of Coordinated School Health at the Montana Office of Public Instruction. With a decade of experience in public health, her work has focused on crucial areas like mental health, suicide prevention, youth resiliency, and substance misuse.
In her current role, she advances initiatives in school safety, mental health, tobacco prevention, and high-quality afterschool programs.
In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family, golfing, hiking, and playing board games.
Sarah Music’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Sarah Music will join the Mission-Driven Collaboration panel, where she’ll share her expertise in uniting youth-serving organizations for greater reach.
Dennis Sulser recently retired after more than four decades of service in education and healthcare. He spent 27 years as a high school teacher and administrator before moving into healthcare leadership, serving as a pediatric clinic administrator, CEO of a development office, and ultimately CEO of Youth Dynamics, where he guided the organization through its partnership with Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch.
Dennis earned his undergraduate degree in education from Dickinson State University, a master’s degree in education from the University of Montana, and an Educational Doctorate from Montana State University.
In retirement, he enjoys small construction projects, riding his motorcycle, and reading. He and his wife, Valerie, are parents of three adult children: Maisie, Randi, and Sydney.
Dennis Sulser’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Dennis Sulser will join the Mission-Driven Collaboration panel, where he’ll share his expertise in uniting youth-serving organizations for greater reach.
Nina Hernandez’s background is in philanthropy, business, and program development in the nonprofit sector. She campaigned for large nonprofits in Texas and Montana, such as the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation in Dallas.
Her Montana roots brought her back to Billings after she and her husband adopted their first child. In Billings, she worked as the Executive Director for the American Heart Association, as the Development Director for Youth Dynamics, and as a consultant primarily working with nonprofit boards and executives.
She is the founding Executive Director of Friends of the Children – Eastern Montana chapter, the community’s first and only long-term, professional mentoring program for children.
Nina is an avid reader (with a degree in English from the University of North Texas) and enjoys skiing, hiking, bicycling, and front-porching with her kids, husband, and dogs.
Nina Hernandez’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Nina Hernandez will join the Mission-Driven Collaboration panel, where she’ll share her expertise in uniting youth-serving organizations for greater reach.
Matt Leavenworth is a licensed mental health counselor and the founder of Pay Love Forward, a nonprofit dedicated to building compassionate communities for at-risk and underserved youth through a mentoring model. Based in Billings, Montana, he serves as vice chair of the Yellowstone County Suicide Prevention Coalition and chairs the county’s Mentoring Work Group, where he helps lead collaborative efforts across schools, nonprofits, and community organizations.
Matt holds a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision and is a certified mentor-coach. He has spent more than a decade designing trauma-informed programs that bridge mental health, leadership, and community resilience. He is also an author and storyteller, with several published works, including To Leap off the Dock, a collection of poems rooted in the healing process of counseling.
Outside of his professional work, Matthew is a father, climber, fly fisherman, and advocate for creative leadership shaped by empathy, imagination, and interconnection.
Matt Leavenworth’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Matt Leavenworth will join the Mission-Driven Collaboration panel, where he’ll share his expertise in uniting youth-serving organizations for greater reach.
As Marketing and Communications Director at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR), Katie Gerten drives the organization’s voice, breathing life into its mission and amplifying its vision. She guided communications through the 2024 unification of YBGR and Youth Dynamics, working alongside a team of leaders to bring together two of Montana’s largest nonprofits to expand access to care and strengthen outcomes for kids.
Katie began her journey in children’s behavioral health in 2013 and has more than a decade of experience in the field, spanning leadership roles in marketing, communications, and program development.
She holds a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, a Bachelor of Social Work, and a Master of Business Administration from the University of Montana. Katie is passionate about sharing YBGR’s mission, Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life, and often says, “The work we do with kids will be carried with them for a lifetime, echoing through future generations.”
In her free time, Katie enjoys working outdoors and spending time with her family.
Katie Gerten’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At this year’s Yellowstone Conference, Katie Gerten will moderate the “Mission-Driven Collaboration” panel, where she’ll lead a discussion on uniting youth-serving organizations for greater reach.
Jen Chancellor, MBA, never imagined her dream of staying connected to college would become a lifelong calling—yet it did. With over 21 years of experience in higher education, including 14 years of dedicated service at Grand Canyon University, Jen has turned her passion into purpose.
Driven by a belief in the transformative power of education, Jen works tirelessly to help individuals unlock their potential. She understands that misconceptions about college can hold people back. Be it affordability, accessibility, or relevance, she and her team are committed to debunking myths and guiding individuals through the maze of academic options.
Whether someone has prior college credits or is starting from scratch, Jen’s team provides clear, personalized degree plans tailored to each person’s goals. With team members based in Missoula, Bozeman, Kalispell, Great Falls, and Billings, they offer one-on-one support to help individuals apply existing credits, navigate admissions, and build achievable educational pathways.
Jen’s mission is simple but powerful: to show that education isn’t just about earning a degree—it’s about changing lives.
Jen Chancellor’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Jen Chancellor will join the Empowering Excellence panel, where she’ll share her expertise in strengthening workforce development through higher education partnerships.
Hello! My name is Becky Lyons, and I serve as the Director of Career & Employment Services at Montana State University Billings. I am originally from a small town in western New York. This means I grew up a Buffalo Bills fan and will always be a huge Bills fan. Go Bills!
While pursuing my B.A. degree in communications at the State University of New York in Plattsburgh, I would spend my summers in Colorado working on a ranch. I knew at that time that I wanted to live in the West. After graduating with my bachelor’s degree, I packed my car and headed west to Montana State University Billings. I told my family that I would be in Montana for just a couple of years. Twenty-two years later, I am proud to still call Billings my home and now raise my own family here.
I earned a Master of Science in Public Relations from MSUB, and then I earned my Doctor of Education degree from MSU Bozeman. I started working at MSU Billings in 2004 as an Academic Advisor. Over the course of 21 years, I have primarily served in leadership roles in the Advising and Career Services areas. In addition to the director roles in Advising and Career Services, I have also overseen programs at MSUB such as orientation, first-year seminar, international studies, and academic support services.
Being the Director of Career & Employment Services at MSUB is my absolute dream job. In my role, I help support students on their career path. Knowing I can help a student connect with the next opportunity on their journey is what inspires me to do what I do every day.
Becky Lyons’ Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Becky Lyons will join the Empowering Excellence panel, where she’ll share her expertise in strengthening workforce development through higher education partnerships.
Kate Chapin, MSW, LCSW, is a social worker, educator, and leader dedicated to strengthening communities through collaboration and innovation. She serves as Executive Director of the University of Montana’s Center for Children, Families, and Workforce Development, where she works alongside a dedicated team of educators, social workers, and public health professionals to support Montana’s systems of care through workforce development, training, research, and technical assistance.
Kate’s background spans clinical practice, academic leadership, workforce development, and program evaluation. She has contributed to statewide and national initiatives, including serving as lead evaluator for the Zero Suicide in Health Systems Implementation grant and the PAX Good Behavior Game. Before her current role, she was the Director of Field Education and Clinical Faculty at the University of Montana School of Social Work and held clinical and administrative roles in nonprofit and healthcare settings.
Kate approaches her work as a lifelong learner and values the partnerships that make meaningful change possible. She’s grateful for the opportunity to contribute to efforts that improve outcomes for children, families, and communities across Montana.
Kate Chapin’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Kate Chapin will join the Empowering Excellence panel, where she’ll share her expertise in strengthening workforce development through higher education partnerships.
James C. Petrovich, PhD, MSW, is a seasoned social work educator, administrator, and researcher with more than two decades of experience in clinical practice, higher education leadership, and applied research.
He currently serves as Professor, Department Chair, and Founding Director of the Master of Social Work program at Carroll College in Helena, Montana. Dr. Petrovich’s academic and professional career has focused on advancing trauma-informed care, housing justice, and the well-being of people experiencing homelessness.
He has authored over 20 peer-reviewed publications and numerous community-based reports and evaluations. A dedicated mentor and collaborative leader, he brings a deep commitment to equity, community engagement, and interdisciplinary innovation in social work education and practice.
James C. Petrovich’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, James C. Petrovich will join the Empowering Excellence panel, where he’ll share his expertise in strengthening workforce development through higher education partnerships.
Kristin Thompson began her career at Youth Dynamics while in college, gaining early fieldwork experience that sparked her dedication to serving youth and families. Over the years, she held a variety of clinical and administrative roles that shaped her professional path and commitment to mission-driven work.
In October 2024, during the coming together of Youth Dynamics and Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, Kristin transitioned into the role of Associate Director of Human Resources at YBGR. The connection to the mission that first inspired her continues to guide her work in this new chapter, carrying forward her deep commitment to supporting staff and strengthening the organization’s ability to serve youth and families.
Kristin holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Montana State University and is a SHRM-CP certified professional.
Kristin Thompson’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At this year’s Yellowstone Conference, Kristin Thompson will moderate the “Empowering Excellence” panel, where she’ll lead a discussion on strengthening workforce development through higher education partnerships.
Panelist | Strengthening Native American Partnerships
David R. Blaine, “Whistles Good,” is a name given to him by his grandfather. David had an outspoken demeanor as a child, and his grandfather recognized early on that his words would carry far, much like the sound of an eagle’s whistle.
David grew up in Bismarck, North Dakota, and attended high school in Solen/Cannon Ball, North Dakota. In 2015, he returned to his home in Crow Country. He serves as the CEO of Crow Times Youth and Elder Works and is the sole proprietor of Crow Times. Additionally, he holds the position of President at the Mighty Few Community Development and freelances for the Missing and Murdered Indigenous People initiative.
David has organized numerous youth projects, with the Movie in the Parks series being particularly notable for his local communities. He is a dedicated volunteer and maintains a non-partisan stance, promoting community unity—a strong community run by the community.
After facing challenges in finding property in Lodge Grass, he has successfully acquired a location and is now working on establishing a community center for youth and elders.
David R. Blaine’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, David R. Blaine will join the Strengthening Native American Partnerships panel, where he’ll share his expertise in leveraging community partnerships for collective impact.
Panelist | Strengthening Native American Partnerships
Sunny Day Real Bird, Akbaaiiwishe-Itchish (Raises Good Children), serves as the Director of American Indian Outreach at Montana State University Billings (MSUB). She is an enrolled member of the Apsáalooke (Crow) Nation and a Gros Ventre descendant. Sunny brings over 15 years of experience in teaching, administration, and advocacy for Native student success across K–12 and higher education.
She holds a Master’s in Educational Leadership from Montana State University Bozeman, a Master’s in Education: Curriculum and Teaching (Secondary Mathematics) from the University of Oregon, and a Bachelor’s in Elementary Education with a Mathematics minor from MSU Billings. She is licensed in Montana to teach both elementary education and secondary mathematics.
Before her role at MSUB, Sunny taught mathematics at Ronan Middle School, where she was also selected as Educator of the Year by the Confederated Salish and Kootenai Education Committee. She later served as the Director of Indian Education for Ronan School District, where she secured major grants, created new partnerships, and raised graduation and attendance rates for Native students. Her teaching career has included positions at Riverside Indian School, Northern Cheyenne Tribal School, St. Labre Indian School, and St. Charles Mission School.
At MSUB, Sunny provides advocacy and support for Native students, leads outreach and retention efforts, and forges partnerships with tribal colleges, communities, and schools. She is active in multiple statewide initiatives, including the American Indian Minority Achievement Council, the City of Billings Chamber Advisory Board, and the Crow Language Club.
Sunny’s leadership and service have been recognized widely, including the University of Oregon’s 2022 Sapsik’ʷałá Outstanding Community Service Award. She is deeply committed to data-driven, culturally responsive education and to strengthening opportunities for Native students.
Sunny Day Real Bird’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Sunny Day Real Bird will join the Strengthening Native American Partnerships panel, where she’ll share her expertise in leveraging community partnerships for collective impact.
Panelist | Strengthening Native American Partnerships
Charlene “Charli” Sleeper is a Billings-based Missing & Murdered Indigenous Peoples (MMIP) advocate and mental health worker at Yellowstone Boys & Girls Ranch (YBGR). Their Indigenous name is Axpe Hisshe Bia (Red Eagle Fan Woman). They are a descendant of the Crow Tribe and Chippewa-Cree Tribe and are enrolled in the Southern Cheyenne & Arapahoe Tribes of Oklahoma.
Inspired by the 2018 Billings Women’s March, which highlighted the Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women’s (MMIW) Movement, Charlene began researching the scope of the MMIW crisis. That same year, eastern Montana experienced several high-profile missing juvenile cases. As a grassroots response—with an emphasis on the safe recovery of missing juveniles—Charlene developed the Missing & Murdered Indigenous Peoples Billings Advocacy Project (MMIP Billings). The group provides a range of volunteer services, including: sharing missing persons information with the public, supporting MMIP victim families, consulting on contributing issues, promoting MMIP resource information, and coordinating nonprofit fundraising. MMIP Billings also organizes and collaborates on awareness, intervention, and prevention projects.
Charli’s grassroots work spans tribal, local, state, and federal levels. They have supported Montana’s MMIP policy work since 2019, provided homicide and missing persons field observations to the FBI, and testified to both the Trump Administration’s Operation Lady Justice and the Biden Administration’s Not Invisible Act Commission. In 2025, MMIP Billings’ focus is on the intersection between human trafficking, missing persons, and homicides.
At YBGR, Charli notes that youth are at the highest risk for becoming missing juveniles, domestic violence-related homicide victims, and/or victims of human trafficking. They are grateful for the support found at YBGR, which has enabled the continuation of youth-specific MMIP prevention projects tailored to serve all youth in care.
Charli Sleeper’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Charli Sleeper will join the Strengthening Native American Partnerships panel, where they’ll share their expertise in leveraging community partnerships for collective impact.
Panelist | Strengthening Native American Partnerships Panel
Clint Valandra, “Crow Feather,” a name given to him by his Lakota grandmother to commemorate his great-grandfather’s feat, is of Blackfeet and Lakota descent, with French and Irish roots. Born in Rosebud, South Dakota, and raised in Browning, Montana, he grew up as one of ten siblings.
His education began at Cut Bank Boarding School and continued through earning a bachelor’s degree from Troy University.
In 2023, he established Willow Creek Productions to provide cultural presentations and training in traditional games for youth and adults, demonstrating his dedication to preserving Indigenous traditions and educating others.
Clint has served as the Indigenous Education Coordinator for Billings Public Schools at Skyview High School for the last 15 years. He has become a vital source of strength by advocating for and promoting Indigenous perspectives. Through his work, he inspires students to honor their heritage while embracing their futures. Additionally, he plays a key role in facilitating the Elk River Tribal Youth Council.
Clint Valandra’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At the 2025 Yellowstone Conference, Clint Valandra will join the Strengthening Native American Partnerships panel, where he’ll share his expertise in leveraging community partnerships for collective impact.
Moderator | Strengthening Native American Partnerships Panel
Named after her great-grandmother, Josephine Pine, a Northern Cheyenne tribal member, Josie Brady serves as the Native American Resource Coordinator at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch. She works to create a supportive environment for Native American youth, focusing on cultural connection and engagement in treatment programming.
Josie has initiated a weekly Wellbriety talking circle to support those dealing with chemical dependency, collaborating with the chemical dependency team to facilitate the group. She also brought Mustang Nation to life—a club where Native American youth can gather to learn about their cultures and traditions. Josie incorporates smudging into the weekly schedule and encourages all youth and staff to participate.
She also worked with Yellowstone Academy staff to create an Indigenous garden and helps facilitate engaging, educational presentations that promote cultural awareness for both youth and staff.
Previously, Josie gained experience with Billings Public Schools, leading initiatives at the elementary and middle school levels. These included organizing events such as Family Night and Grandparents’ Night, as well as coordinating summer programs designed to bring cultural education to students across grade levels.
Josie Brady’s Role at the 2025 Yellowstone Conference
At this year’s Yellowstone Conference, Josie Brady will moderate the “Strengthening Native American Partnerships” panel, where she’ll lead a discussion on leveraging community partnerships for collective impact.
Did you know June marked our 68th year of caring for kids?
In June of 1957, after purchasing the old O’Rourke Farm west of Billings, we welcomed the first child into our care—planting the roots of what would become Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch.
It all began with a bold response to injustice: At the time, young boys—some barely old enough to ride a bike—were being housed alongside adult criminals at the Montana State Industrial School. Franklin Robbie saw it and said, not on our watch. There has to be a better way.
What started as a safe haven soon grew into a therapeutic residential treatment center for youth.
A Legacy of Caring Takes Root
By the fall of 1973, we had already served 400 youth. In 1977, we began transitioning from long-term custodial care to short-term therapeutic treatment, launching our first Pilot Assessment and Treatment programs in Orth Lodge.
In June 1980, The Wrangler announced a historic milestone: the decision to admit girls to our Brekkeflat Assessment and Treatment Lodge. That edition also marked the first time we were referred to as Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch.
The 1990s brought another important step forward. We were approved by the State of Montana to pilot Medicaid reimbursement for Psychiatric Residential Treatment Services—ensuring access to critical care for youth with significant mental health needs.
And in 1999, we expanded into community-based services, stepping outside the walls of the Ranch to meet kids where they live, learn, and grow.
Visit our History page to explore the story—and the caring people—who gave birth to our mission. Their vision continues to touch the lives of thousands of youth across Montana and beyond each year.
Want to dive deeper? You can also find A Legacy of Caring, written by our founder, Franklin Robbie, on Amazon.
Suicide is a tragedy of epic proportions. To paint a picture, in 2023, 49,316 Americans took their own life. Overall, it’s the 10th leading cause of death in the United States and the 2nd for youth between the ages of 10 and 24.
September is Suicide Prevention Month, and we want to shed light on this critical topic because education saves lives. Today, we’re taking a deep dive into prevention strategies.
Addressing Suicide Through Systemwide Prevention
Preventing suicide requires more than individual action—it takes coordinated efforts across communities and systems. Below are key strategies that can make a life-saving difference.
Identify & Assist Persons at Risk
The first step in preventing suicide is to identify populations at risk. Then, educate the people who work with them on suicide warning signs and intervention strategies, so they’re empowered to save lives.
Public awareness campaigns and education can reduce barriers to seeking treatment, ultimately helping individuals receive life-saving support.
Organizational Linkages & Seamless Transitional Care
There’s no question that when organizations communicate and work together to wrap around the people they serve, it equates to excellent client care. In essence, it serves as a buffer, ensuring no suicide warning signs are missed and that people move seamlessly between different levels of care.
Create Systems to Respond to People in Crisis
Putting systems in place for those in crisis is essential and is not limited to mental health. Everything from emergency shelters to food stamps, and of course, mental health crisis call centers play a critical hand in preventing suicide.
Encourage Social Connectedness
Social isolation is a significant risk factor for suicide. Thus, communities that create systems to foster social connections can significantly reduce risk. Free community events, volunteer programs, and support groups are all great ways to bring people together.
Together, We Can Save Lives
Suicide prevention isn’t just about one program or one conversation—it’s about building communities where no one falls through the cracks. When we dismantle stigma, strengthen support systems, and foster connection, we create the conditions where hope has a chance to grow.
Join Montana Psychiatry & Brain Health Center in the exploration of innovative approaches to treating depression and suicidality at this continuing education event for mental health professionals at the Ranch.
Date & Time:
Wednesday, October 15th, 2025 5:30 – 7:30 PM MDT
Location:
Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch Chapel 1701 Ray of Hope Lane, Billings, MT 59106
When traditional interventions fall short, what’s next? Beyond Medication is a 1.5 CE Hour professional development event bringing together experts in psychiatry and counseling to explore practical, evidence-based strategies for depression and suicidality.
Attendees will:
Learn practical skills for supporting clients in crisis
Explore emerging alternatives such as ketamine therapy, TMS (transcranial magnetic stimulation), and psychedelic-assisted therapy
Engage in an interactive panel discussion with leaders across the mental health field
CE Credit Information
This event offers 1.5 CE Hours, eligible for: LCSW, LAC, LCPC, LMFT, LMSW, LBSW, and CBHPSS
Why Attend?
With one in five adults in the U.S. experiencing a mental health condition each year, equipping providers with effective, innovative tools is more important than ever. Join us for an evening of collaboration, learning, and practical takeaways to strengthen mental health care and build resilient communities.
In the United States, roughly 135 people die by suicide every day. And for every life lost, countless others are left in the wake, making the magnitude of grief and loss at the hands of this tragedy astronomical.
September is Suicide Prevention Month. To honor it, we’re exploring the topic of suicide because education saves lives. Today, we’re taking a closer look at how to support suicide survivors.
Listen to the TED Talk below, where psychologist Erica Lennon brings attention to suicide and shares her experience of losing a client to it.
The truth is, nearly all of us have been affected by suicide. It’s a common tragedy that we don’t often speak openly about.
Intimate survivors are often riddled with guilt and complex feelings of grief, which makes navigating support all the more difficult for people closely involved.
What Sets Suicide Grief Apart from Other Losses
In addition to typical feelings associated with grief and loss, survivors of suicide often grapple with the following:
Stigma & Isolation
Talking about suicide can be challenging for survivors because of differing cultural and religious viewpoints, leading to conflicting emotions and difficulties navigating conversations on the topic.
Mixed Emotions
When death is by suicide, people often mourn the loss and hold intense feelings surrounding the circumstances of the death. Emotions such as anger and feelings of abandonment and rejection can all occur after a suicide, alongside positive feelings about the deceased. Sorting through all of these various emotions can make the healing process more challenging.
Needing to Understand Why
Searching to understand the circumstances of losing someone to suicide can lead to the question of “Why?” As a result, people may second-guess actions, hold feelings of guilt, and wonder if they missed signs or could have done something different to prevent the tragedy.
Loss by suicide increases the risk for suicide among survivors.
5 Ways to Support Someone After a Suicide Loss
Below are five ways you can support someone who’s experienced loss by suicide.
Promote Self-Care
Healing takes time and starts with self-care. Encourage those grieving to engage in activities that promote wellness.
Offer Resources
Be prepared to provide resources such as local support groups, mental health professionals, and self-help options.
Parenting is a journey filled with challenges, growth, and meaningful moments. To support you along the way, we’ve gathered eighteen powerful quotes on purposeful parenting—designed to guide, inspire, and encourage you no matter where you are on the path.
Purposeful Parenting Quotes
Quote 1: Children don’t say, “I had a hard day, can we talk?” They say, “Will you play with me?” – Lawrence Cohen
Quote 2: Too often, we forget that discipline really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipient of behavioral consequences. – Daniel J. Siegel
Quote 3: If you want your child to improve, focus on their strengths more than their weaknesses. – Unknown
Quote 4: Every child’s behavior is telling us something. Our job is to see the behavior as information, not aggravation. – Unknown
Quote 5: If your children fear you, they cannot trust you. If they do not trust you, they cannot learn from you. – Lori Petro
Quote 6: Children behave best when they feel most loved. Shame isn’t a strategy to encourage good behavior; it leads to compliance and then to rebellion. – Sarah Boyd
Quote 7: A parent’s voice becomes a child’s self-talk. Let’s wire our kids for self-compassion, not self-criticism. – Unknown
Quote 8: Respond to your children with love in their worst moments, their broken moments, their angry moments, their selfish moments, their lonely moments, their frustrated moments, their inconvenient moments. Because it is in their most unlovable human moments that they most need to feel loved. – L.R. Knost
Quote 9: Our kids are counting on us to provide two things: consistency and structure. Kids need parents who say what they mean, mean what they say, and do what they say they are going to do. – Barbara Coloroso
Quote 10: Parents who pay attention can avoid power struggles, even with strong-willed kids, by empathizing as they set limits, give choices, and understand that respect goes both ways. – Dr. Laura Markham
Quote 11: “No” is not a complete thought. If we want our children to learn to think like adults, we need to explain our adult thinking. Don’t command. Communicate. – L.R. Knost
Quote 12: We teach our kids how honest they can be with us based on how we react when they tell us things we don’t want to hear. – Susan Stiffleman
Quote 13: If we want to stop our child’s aggression, we have to stop focusing on the behavior and respond to their feelings. – Sarah Rosensweet
Quote 14: Hitting a child doesn’t teach them that the stove or the road or the outlet isn’t safe. It teaches them that the person hitting them isn’t safe. – L.R. Knost
Quote 15: When a child is upset, logic often won’t work until we have responded to the right brain’s emotional needs. – Dr. Dan Siegel
Quote 16: Our children need to know that mistakes are okay, imperfections are normal, and failure is just a step on the path to success. – L.R. Knost
Quote 17: It’s not our job to make our kids happy. They’re allowed to be upset, sad, and feel however they feel. It’s our job to hold space for all their feelings so they don’t feel alone in their distress. – Blimie Heller
Quote 18: Being harder on our children doesn’t make them stronger. People are strengthened through compassion and understanding. No matter their age or gender. – Lelia Schott
Every story has a first chapter. For Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, Orth Lodge is a cornerstone of that chapter.
In 1959, what began as a leftover machine shed on the old O’Rourke Farm in Billings became something more. Through the generosity of our first donors, that humble structure was transformed into the Ranch’s first building, complete with sleeping quarters, a dining hall, a schoolroom, a kitchen, and staff housing.
It was more than just a place to live and work. Orth Lodge embodied a bold new vision: that Montana’s most vulnerable youth deserve safety, structure, and the chance to heal.
Today, Orth serves a new purpose: it’s a family life center, providing a welcoming space for families to stay while visiting their children in our therapeutic residential care at the Ranch.
What’s endured isn’t just the structure, but the spirit of compassion, stability, and human connection that has lived within it for decades.
As we prepare for this year’s “Living the Legacy” celebration to honor our founding, we’ll be sharing stories from our past that have shaped who we are today.
We invite you to join us on the journey.
Learn More About Our History
Visit our History page to explore the story—and the caring people—who gave birth to our mission. Their vision continues to touch the lives of thousands of youth across Montana and beyond each year.
Want to dive deeper? You can also find A Legacy of Caring, written by our founder, Franklin Robbie, on Amazon.
For kids at the Ranch, time in Montana’s wilderness is more than a day outdoors—it’s a chance to find joy, build confidence, and create lasting memories. Earlier this summer, a group set out on the trails of the Absaroka-Beartooth Wilderness, many experiencing its beauty for the very first time. It was a powerful reminder of how healing outdoors can help kids see new possibilities for themselves.
Experiencing Montana’s Outdoors for the First Time
Some hiked rocky paths, others spotted wildlife, felt the spray of a rushing river, or paused to take in breathtaking mountain views. For many, it was an adventure that showed not only the wonder of Montana but also the strength and resilience within them.
Why These Moments Matter
These simple but profound experiences give kids a sense of belonging and remind them that joy is possible. They help kids feel connected to the world around them and confident in what they can achieve. With the encouragement of caring professionals, the memories made on these trails will last long after the hike ends.
At YBGR, we believe healing outdoors is just as vital as the work we do indoors—thriving under the wide-open skies of Montana.
Have you ever witnessed the storm—the choppy waters of a child’s big emotions? Of course! Like us, our little ones are human—experiencing the full spectrum of emotions. But unlike us, their brains are still developing the skills to navigate and cope.
In moments when kids are experiencing immense, turbulent feelings, they look to us for safety. To be the calm gently guiding them through their storm—the anchor in their waves.
Children learn emotional regulation through our regulated presence. Simply put, we learn to self-soothe through thousands of instances of being soothed by someone else.
Below are seventeen quotes on emotional regulation—on being the calm in our kids’ storm.
Quotes on Being the Calm in Our Kids’ Storm
Quote 1: A child can’t think logically when they are anxious, and they definitely can’t learn. Helping them calm has to be the priority. – Inspired by Krysten Taprell, @the_therapist_parent
When kids become flooded with emotion, logical thinking takes a backseat. Our primary focus must be to soothe—sharing our calm.
Hold space and validate feelings. Then, once strong emotions such as anxiety have subsided, we can effectively teach.
Quote 2: When kids’ emotions are high, their logic and language are low. So, in a meltdown, don’t reason with them. Connect. Hold space. Be. – Stephanie Pinto
When children are experiencing big emotions, it’s not the time for reasoning or a lecture. Attend to their feelings first. Then, after they have calmed, you can effectively coach them.
Quote 3: We go into the fear zone when a child is dysregulated, self-harms, or makes threats. When afraid, we back-peddle and give kids more choices and power. But in these moments, kids need the opposite. They need to feel safe, secure, and contained. – Inspired by Krissy Pozatek
When dysregulated, kids need safety, security, and boundaries that provide comfort. Be their safe haven—the anchor in their storm.
Quote 4: As a mom, I could feed my child’s anxiety, or I could feed their peace. We set the temperature for our kids. – Beth Moore
We hold the power to shape our children’s emotional well-being. Remember—we set the tone. Feed their peace.
Quote 5: Your child can’t lead you into their chaos. You must lead them out of theirs. – @dr.siggie
Our children need us to be a calm, steady force—especially during times when they are experiencing turbulent emotions.
Quote 6: When I’m not sure how to support my child, I focus on my own regulation. – @responsive_parenting
When you don’t know how to best support your kids, try turning inward.
By noticing, understanding, and regulating our emotions, we can better provide the calm and stability our children need—approaching parenting with a more centered, grounded perspective.
Quote 7: My job as a parent isn’t to control my child’s emotions. My job as a parent is to control my own. – Shelly Robinson
We can’t control our children’s feelings, but we can teach them how to navigate them by how we navigate our own. And in doing so, we can better provide a safe, supportive environment for them to grow.
Quote 8: Children pick up on our emotional tone milliseconds before processing our words. And that emotional tone conveys cues of safety or threat, regardless of what we’re trying to communicate. – Adopted from Dr. Dan Siegel
Our kids are always listening, not just to our words but to the emotions behind them. Create a safe, nurturing environment—one where children feel loved and protected.
Quote 9: If you want to support your child’s emotional health, you need to take care of your own emotions. Your tone, energy, and overall emotional presence serve as your child’s emotional guidepost. – Inspired by Angela Pruess
Our wellness shapes our children’s wellness. Caring for ourselves is an act of love—for both us and our little ones.
Quote 10: Our responses influence our children’s behavior. A slight shift in our communication from defensive to proactive can make all the difference in shaping their stress response. – Lori Petro
Parenting isn’t just about our kid’s behavior; it’s also about our own. The energy we put out can either fuel their fire or calm their storm. Emotions feed off emotions.
Quote 11: Our confidence has the power to weaken the fear that our children experience. – @parenting_pathfinders
Our confidence is a mighty force—weakening the grip of fear our kid’s experience. When we embody self-assurance, we impart a sense of safety and security.
Quote 12: The goal is NOT to never get triggered. You’re human. You will get triggered sometimes. The goal is to learn to regulate and respond to those triggers with intention. – @the.peaceful.mother
A trigger is anything that sets you off emotionally and activates memories of trauma. It’s particular to you and what your experiences have been.
Triggers may include feeling:
Powerless
Judged
Unheard
Unsafe
Disrespected
Unloved
Controlled
Our ability to navigate triggers and the emotions springing from them is tied to our ability to understand feelings, where they come from, and tolerate the sensations that arise when we experience them.
When we create space for ourselves to do this, we’re better able to create space for our kids.
Quote 13: Teaching a child to shut down their emotions does not make them calm. It makes them numb. Calmness is a skill that develops after a child has learned to feel their emotions, not ignore them. – Inspired by Eli Harwood
Calmness is not achieved by shutting down our feelings but by learning to navigate and regulate the storm within.
Quote 14: Peaceful parenting isn’t about your ability to stop feeling what you feel. It’s about separating your feelings from your actions. Letting the feelings come. Acknowledging them. Letting them go. Then, responding with intention. – @loveandletgrow
Feel the feeling but don’t become the emotion.
Quote 15: We don’t need to get rid of anxiety. What we need is to practice noticing the sensations in the body, naming the feelings under the anxiety, and nurturing our capacity to still do brave, challenging things even when we feel anxious. – Inspired by Lelia Scott
Instead of trying to rid ourselves of big feelings like anxiety, let’s shift our focus toward developing the skills to navigate them gracefully.
One skill for navigating emotions, particularly anxiousness, is mindfulness—becoming aware of the sensations in our body. By tuning in, we can identify the feelings beneath the surface—acknowledging and naming them without judgment.
Foster self-compassion, and remember, it’s not about eradicating our emotions but developing skills to coexist with them.
Quote 16: Mindfulness means bringing your focus to the present and accepting your thoughts and feelings for what they are without judging them, trying to change them, or expecting them to be different. – Inspired by Renee Jain
To be mindful is to bring your focus to the present moment—accepting your thoughts and feelings for what they are without judgment or trying to change them.
In a world that often pulls us in different directions, mindfulness offers a sanctuary of peace and acceptance, inviting us to notice the beauty in the simplest moments and cultivate deeper self-awareness.
By taking a moment to:
🧘♀️ Pause 🧘♀️ Breathe 🧘♀️ Embrace the present
We can better anchor ourselves during waves of emotion, support our kids during their storms, and live with clarity, authenticity, and gratitude.
Quote 17: Practicing how to anchor ourselves as our children navigate the ocean of emotions will help them grow to anchor themselves more naturally. – Inspired by Lelia Scott
When we practice grounding ourselves alongside our children’s turbulent emotions, we teach them the art of anchoring themselves. Through our self-awareness and regulation, we create safety—modeling inner stability and guiding toward emotional resilience.
It’s National Suicide Prevention Month, and we’re on a mission to spread knowledge to save lives. Today, we’re exploring suicide warning signs and equipping you with the tools to help.
To start that journey, take a second to watch this brief video released shortly after actor Robin Williams’s death.
Robin fit the criteria for many suicide risk factors, including depression, bipolar disorder, a chronic health condition, and a history of substance abuse.
Warning Signs That Someone May Attempt Suicide
You can’t always see how people are feeling on the inside, which can make it hard to identify when someone is struggling. However, there are often outward suicide warning signs when people are grappling with thoughts of suicide.
Talking about:
Wanting to die
Great guilt or shame
Being a burden to others
Feeling:
Empty, hopeless, trapped, or having no reason to live
Extremely sad, more anxious, agitated, or full of rage
Unbearable emotional or physical pain
Changing behavior, such as:
Making a plan or researching ways to die
Withdrawing from friends, saying goodbye, giving away important items, or making a will
Taking dangerous risks, such as driving extremely fast
Displaying extreme mood swings
Eating or sleeping more or less
Using drugs or alcohol more often
What to Do if You Think Someone May Be Considering Suicide
If you suspect that someone may be considering suicide, talk to them about your concerns. Begin the conversation by asking questions in a non-judgmental and non-confrontational way.
Talk openly and don’t be afraid to ask direct questions, such as “Are you thinking about suicide?”
Be prepared with resources to help, and don’t hesitate to assist them in utilizing the tools you’ve provided.
Putting their affairs in order or giving away their possessions
Saying goodbye to friends and family
Having a mood shift from despair to calm
Planning, looking to buy, steal, or borrow the tools to complete suicide, such as a firearm or medication
Check out the graphic below for information on what to do in case of an emergency.
If someone has an immediate plan for suicide and means to exercise it, they need to go to the ER and be evaluated by a mental health professional for a higher level of care. And until that happens, they mustn’t be left alone.
Are You or Your Child Struggling?
You don’t need to bear the heavy weight of sadness without support. It might feel like you’re alone, but there are people out there who care about you and want to help. Call a friend or family member, and don’t be afraid to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988.
For Native youth in foster care, healing is about more than stability. It’s about belonging—being connected to culture, tradition, and community. Without that, children risk losing not only their sense of place but their sense of self.
That’s why Josie Brady, Native American Services Coordinator, and Kayla Goble, Family Resource Specialist, recently attended the Circle of Keepers Train the Trainer event in Billings, held alongside the Rocky Mountain Tribal Leaders Council’s Walking the Sacred Path Conference. The training provided them with new tools to ensure that Native youth in foster care feel seen, valued, and supported in ways that honor their identity.
A Deeper Understanding of Cultural Healing
The sessions, led by Rita Hart, MSW (Jicarilla Apache and Choctaw) and Kelly Tannehill, MSW, centered on the sacred meaning of the circle in Native traditions—symbolizing protection, belonging, and strength without end. Participants explored how trauma histories intersect with cultural healing practices, gaining insight into the unique challenges Native youth face.
Through this training, Josie and Kayla strengthened their ability to help create natural, protective circles of care for Native youth in foster care. Their commitment reflects YBGR’s promise to walk alongside every child, ensuring each one feels embraced by a community of caring people. Because when both stability and culture surround Native youth in foster care, they don’t just survive—they thrive.
September is Suicide Prevention Month, and we’re exploring suicide risk factors.
Below is Alexandra Valoras’ story, told in her family’s words. Alexandra was a straight-A student, class officer, and robotics whiz. Her death is a heartbreaking reminder that even those who seem to be thriving can be at risk.
Understanding suicide risk factors helps us see what isn’t always visible on the surface.
Losing a friend or loved one to suicide can increase personal risk.
Protective Factors
Protective factors are personal or environmental characteristics that reduce risk and help people cope with life’s challenges.
Below are several protective factors that can mitigate risk of suicide.
Access to effective behavioral health care
Strong connections with family, friends, and community
Life skills such as problem-solving, coping, and ability to adapt to change
Self-esteem and a sense of meaning or purpose in life
Cultural, religious, or personal beliefs that discourage suicide
What to Do if Someone Is Struggling
If you’re concerned about someone, don’t be afraid to ask directly about suicide. You won’t “put the idea” in their head—many people feel relief when someone cares enough to ask.
If someone shares that they’re considering suicide:
Stay with them if they have immediate plans and means.
Take them to the emergency room to be evaluated by a mental health professional.
You don’t have to carry the weight alone. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member, and don’t hesitate to call 988 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Support is just a call away.
Join us for a day of inspiration, learning, and collaboration designed to strengthen partnerships and spark lasting impact.
Yellowstone Conference 2025 at a Glance:
Topic: Stronger Together, Building Strategic Partnerships for Lasting Impact Date: Thursday, October 2, 2025 Time: 8:30 AM – 4:30 PM Location: 1701 Ray of Hope Lane, Billings, MT. Tickets: Click here to purchase tickets on Eventbrite
Credits: 5.75 CEUs & 6 OPI credits available Format: In-Person or Virtual | Lunch & Snacks Provided
This annual gathering unites leaders, innovators, and changemakers from across sectors to exchange ideas, celebrate successes, and spark new opportunities for growth. Through dynamic panel discussions and interactive networking, participants will gain practical tools, fresh perspectives, and stronger connections to drive meaningful, lasting impact in our communities.
Panel Topics & Descriptions
Strengthening Native American Partnerships: Leveraging Community Partnerships for Collective Impact
This panel emphasizes the importance of building strong, respectful, and mutually beneficial relationships with Native American communities. By fostering authentic partnerships, the effort seeks to honor cultural traditions, elevate community voices, and collaborate on shared goals. Leveraging cross-sector partnerships enhances access to resources, supports sustainable solutions, and drives collective impact. The focus is on long-term trust, equity, and shared decision-making to strengthen outcomes for Native youth in their communities.
Empowering Excellence: Strengthening Workforce Development through Higher Education Partnerships
A strong, mission-aligned workforce is the backbone of effective nonprofit impact. This panel explores how strategic partnerships with higher education institutions can help build and sustain a pipeline of skilled, passionate professionals. These partnerships not only enhance organizational capacity but also ensure that services remain responsive, community-centered, and future-focused. Together, we can cultivate a workforce that’s ready to meet today’s needs—and tomorrow’s possibilities.
Mission-Driven Collaboration: Uniting Youth-Serving Organizations for Greater Reach
When youth-serving organizations unite around a shared mission, their impact multiplies. By combining strengths and resources, partners expand reach and deepen support for kids and families. These collaborations close gaps and build stronger systems—especially in under-resourced areas—creating a more connected, resilient network of care that ensures youth get the support they need, when they need it.
Bridging Sectors, Building Futures: Public-Private Partnerships for Sustainable Change
When government, business, and community organizations come together, the results can be transformative. This panel explores how cross-sector collaboration sparks innovation, drives sustainable solutions, and strengthens communities for the long term.
What does it mean to parent when triggered? Often, our kids meet us with big emotions and behaviors that can stretch us and activate an in-kind response, particularly when we’re stressed or worn thin.
And at that moment, we’re challenged to slow down. To create space between our reaction and response so we can respond in love.
Below are fourteen quotes to help you with parenting when triggered.
Quotes on Parenting When Triggered
Quote 1: Kids don’t “make” us yell. They reveal to us where we have room to grow, where we have wounds to heal, and where we still have unresolved trauma from our own childhoods. – Inspired by Shelly Robinson
Quote 2: When the milk is splattered all over the floor, and those little eyes are looking at you for your reaction, remember what really matters. It takes 5 minutes to clean up spilled milk; it takes much longer to clean up a broken spirit. – Rebecca Eanes
Quote 3: Unless there is a risk of your child hurting themselves and you need to step in, when your child is having a meltdown or “tantrum,” your first step should be to calm yourself down. Very rarely does effective parenting happen when you are triggered, angry, or stressed. – @australianpsychologist
Quote 4: Your capacity to have empathy for your child in difficult moments is directly related to your capacity to have empathy for yourself in difficult moments. – @drnicolebeurken
Quote 5: In the heat of the moment, first, attend to how your child’s behavior makes you feel, so you can then attend to how your child feels without the interference of your own emotions. – @dr.siggie
Quote 6: When I calm myself first, I protect my kids from things that have nothing to do with their behavior. – Inspired by Dr. David Erickson
Quote 7: When your child is having a meltdown, your number one priority is to stay in control of your own emotions. – @dr.siggie
Quote 8: Your child’s state of reactivity will often mirror your own state of reactivity. – Inspired by Caley Kukla
Quote 9: Meeting a child’s hostility with adult aggression only adds fuel to the fire. To extinguish hostile behavior, meet it with calm and compassion. – Rebecca Eanes
Quote 10: It doesn’t make sense that adults lose control with children for losing control. And then expect children to be able to control themselves when the adult in front of them can’t even control themselves. – Inspired by Jessica Martin-Weber
Quote 11: My kids aren’t to blame for triggering me, pushing my buttons, or driving me up the wall. It’s on me to work through those triggers, remove those buttons, and tear down the wall instead of expecting my kids to change their behavior before I change mine. – Inspired by Iris Chen
Quote 12: If we want our kids to stop and think before reacting, then we need to show them how. That means we need to practice pausing, keeping ourselves regulated, and then responding—not just with them, but in all areas of life. – @drnicolebeurken
Quote 13: Peaceful parenting isn’t about your ability to stop feeling what you feel. It’s about separating your feelings from your actions. Letting the feelings come. Acknowledging them. Letting them go. Then responding with intention. – @loveandletgrow
Quote 14: Respond to children with the same connection and empathy for all their behaviors, and they’ll know your love isn’t conditional. That’s how you become their “safe space.” – Sarah R. Moore
Trauma-informed communication isn’t just about what we say—it’s about how we say it. It’s about presence, intention, and connection, especially in moments that feel charged or difficult.
That’s where L.O.V.E. comes in.
It’s a simple framework that reminds us to slow down and center ourselves when communicating—whether with kids, colleagues, or loved ones. And in high-stress moments, that pause can make all the difference.
The L.O.V.E. Approach to Trauma-Informed Communication
When emotions run high, try using the L.O.V.E. approach:
L – Listen (“I hear you.”)
Give your full attention. Put away distractions, pause your inner dialogue, and truly listen—without interrupting or planning your response. Feeling heard is the foundation of connection.
O – Observe (“I see you.”)
Notice more than words. Body language, tone, and facial expressions often speak louder. Observation helps us tune in to what might be happening beneath the surface.
V – Validate (“I accept you.”)
Validation isn’t agreement—it’s acknowledgment. It means recognizing someone’s feelings as real and important, even if you don’t fully understand or share them.
E – Empathize (“I understand you.”)
Empathy invites us to step into another’s shoes and connect with their experience. It’s how we show care, build trust, and respond rather than react.
We can avoid so many problems when we respond with L.O.V.E. instead of reacting in haste.
In trauma-informed communication, timing matters. When emotions are high, it’s okay—even wise—to pause. Whether you’re parenting, leading a team, or resolving conflict with a friend, take a moment to check in with yourself before diving into tough conversations.
Give yourself permission to delay. The goal isn’t just to get through it—it’s to move forward in a way that builds connection, not tension.
In today’s fast-paced world, building meaningful relationships isn’t always easy—but it’s essential for both mental and physical health.
If you’re looking for practical ways to feel more connected, here are four simple strategies to help you create stronger, healthier bonds with others.
#1: Spend Time with the People Who Matter
In the busyness of everyday life, it’s easy to overlook the people who mean the most. But even fifteen minutes of intentional time with someone you care about can have a powerful impact.
Prioritize presence.
#2: Eliminate Distractions
To truly connect, be all in. Put down your phone, turn off notifications, and focus on who you’re with. We build meaningful relationships when we listen fully and show others they matter.
#3: Embrace Solitude to Strengthen Self-Connection
To connect deeply with others, we must first know ourselves. Spend time alone in ways that feel fulfilling, whether it’s walking in nature, journaling, or listening to music.
A healthy relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other connection.
#4: Be Kind—and Take the First Step
Kindness creates space for trust. Share encouragement, check in on someone, or offer help when it’s needed. Strong relationships grow when we let others know they’re seen and valued.
Building meaningful relationships takes effort, but it’s worth it. Small steps can lead to deeper, more fulfilling connections with others and with yourself.
When YBGR group homes collaborate, the impact goes beyond logistics—it strengthens teams, improves communication, and enhances the care we provide to Montana kids.
That collaboration was on full display this month as staff from River’s Edge and STAR Group Homes in Billings traveled to connect with the team at North Skyline Group Home in Great Falls.
A Day of Purposeful Collaboration—and Tacos
Hosted by the North Skyline crew, the gathering included therapeutic discussion, relationship-building, and a taco lunch that brought everyone together. From shared care strategies to laughter over homemade fry bread, the event reinforced the value of taking time to connect as a united team.
Moments like these show how YBGR group homes collaborate not only to solve challenges, but to support one another and align around our shared mission: caring people, preparing youth for life.
Strengthening Teams & Care Across Montana
Teammates in attendance included: Jessie Wilson, Michelle Mouat, Lori Kapphan, Chloe Foster, Dani Miller, Brittany Olson, Zander Mathis, Richard Heusel, Jennifer Hawks, Alycia Hall, and Mariah Lefebre.
As YBGR continues to grow across the state, collaboration between group homes plays a critical role in maintaining consistency, trust, and mission-focused care. When we invest in each other, everyone benefits—especially the youth we serve.
Empathy is more than kindness—it’s the ability to understand and share in what someone else is feeling. Whether you’re leading a team, raising a child, or simply navigating day-to-day interactions, communicating with empathy builds trust, eases tension, and strengthens relationships.
Below are 15 quotes to inspire deeper connection through communication with care.
How to Connect with Empathy
Quote 1: It’s extremely powerful to hear someone say, “I get you. I understand. I see why you feel this way.” This kind of empathy disarms us. – Inspired by Daniel J. Siegel
Quote 2: People will hear you better if you speak from a voice of compassion instead of authority. They long to be understood more than to be lectured. – Inspired by Dodinsky
Quote 3: Sometimes, the most influential thing we can do is listen. – Bob Burg
Quote 4: What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgment and control. – Unknown
Quote 5: Connection: The power that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued. – Brene Brown
Quote 6: When someone is struggling, they already know. They don’t need advice. They don’t need solutions. They don’t need judgment. What they need are a smile and grace. And to be reminded that the person behind the battle can still be loved. – Lauren Fortenberry
Quote 7: Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message “you’re not alone.” – Brene Brown
Quote 8: I judge others less when I judge myself less. – Unknown
Quote 9: When someone shares a difficult situation they are facing, don’t respond as though life is simple and there’s an easy solution. Life is complex, and often there are no simple solutions. – Rachel Samson
Quote 10: What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they’re experiencing. – Adele Faber
Quote 11: Trauma happens and harms us. But I often wonder if the worst trauma is the second wave—when your story is disbelieved, mistrusted, and maligned. May your story find safe harbor in the presence of people who will honor both your vulnerability and resilience. – @kjramseywrites
Quote 12: To empathize with someone’s experience, you must be willing to believe them as they see it and not how you imagine their experience to be. – Brene Brown
Quote 13: Client: I know I probably shouldn’t have these feelings. Therapist: What you are feeling in this situation is perfectly okay. – Rachel Samson
Quote 14: Do not try to reason with someone who is not regulated. – Inspired by Rachel Samson
Quote 15: One of the most effective strategies for regulating emotion is cultivating an attitude of acceptance towards your emotions and the emotions of others. – Rachel Samson
When Amazon brings pizza to the Ranch, it’s more than just a delivery—it’s a show of noteworthy support for the kids at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR).
During a recent visit, six Amazon employees arrived on campus with 42 pizzas, drinks, and snacks in hand, ready to make the day unforgettable for students at Yellowstone Academy.
Delivering Pizza and Encouragement
Fresh off a four-day regional tour, the Amazon team made a stop at YBGR to deliver an afternoon of fun and food. Every classroom was included, from our youngest learners to high school students. They offered each child as much as they wanted—yes, even seconds and thirds.
Amazon didn’t stop there. They also stocked the chapel with extra snacks, extending the impact of their visit beyond the day itself.
A New Partnership Making a Difference
While new to supporting YBGR, Amazon is already making a measurable impact through monthly in-kind donations and campus visits. When Amazon brings pizza to the Ranch, it’s not just about the food—it’s about showing up for kids in meaningful ways, even if just for the day.
Thank you, Amazon, for your generosity and commitment to Montana youth. Your contributions help meet daily needs and strengthen the foundation of care we provide.
Want to give your kids a strong foundation for life? Parenting with empathy is linked to everything from healthy attachment to emotional intelligence and solid relationship skills!
But it’s not always easy, particularly when we’re stressed or our children display challenging behaviors. Below are sixteen quotes to help you master parenting with empathy.
Quotes to Guide You in Parenting with Empathy
Quote 1: When we don’t understand a behavior, we tend to assume a child is doing it on purpose. – @raisinghumankind
Quote 2: The more we can look underneath a child’s behavior to understand it, the more compassion we’ll have. – Unknown
Quote 3: Beneath every behavior, there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. – Ashleigh Warner
Quote 4: When a child is upset, logic often won’t work until we have responded to the right brain’s emotional needs. – Dr. Dan Siegel
Quote 5: When kids believe your first goal is to empathize and understand rather than to admonish and correct, you leave the door open for future conversations. – Philip Daniel De Jesus
Quote 6: Kids will hear you better if you speak from a voice of compassion instead of authority. They long to be understood more than to be lectured. – Inspired by Dodinsky
Quote 7: Our kids want us to give them a safe space to process their hard feelings more than they want us to fix all their problems. – Shelly Robinson
Quote 8: As a parent, the coolest tool I learned a while back was when one of my kids started complaining to me about something was to say, “do you need me to get involved, offer advice, or just listen?” 9/10, they just want my ear. – Inspired by Tobias Buckell
Quote 9: It’s crucial to keep in mind that no matter how nonsensical and frustrating our child’s feelings may seem to us, they are real and important to our child. It’s vital that we treat them as such in our response. – Daniel J. Siegel
Quote 10: What people of all ages can use in a moment of distress is not agreement or disagreement; they need someone to recognize what it is they’re experiencing. – Adele Faber
Quote 11: Children don’t need to have their feelings agreed with; they need to have them acknowledged. The more you try to push their unhappy feelings away, the more they become stuck in them. The more comfortable you can be accepting the bad feelings, the easier it is for kids to let them go. – Inspired by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Quote 12: Sometimes parents avoid talking about upsetting experiences, thinking that doing so will reinforce their children’s pain or make things worse. But telling the story is often exactly what children need to make sense of the event and move on to a place where they can feel better about what happened. – Unknown
Quote 13: By acknowledging our children’s emotions, we are helping them learn skills for soothing themselves, skills that will serve them well for a lifetime. – John Gottman, Ph.D.
Quote 14: The goal is for children to express their wants and needs with us openly. That doesn’t mean they always get what they want. It means they feel safe enough to share—even when the answer is no. – Inspired by @dr.siggie
Quote 15: The next time you lock horns with your child and tempers are flaring, remember this… It is likely a head-on collision of both parent and child not feeling seen or heard in that moment. As the adult with more power and resources, it is our job to recognize this and remove our egos from the equation so we can parent from a place of calm, curiosity, and compassion. – Shelly Robinson
Quote 16: Don’t normalize pain or neglect by refusing to be a safe haven for your child because the “real world won’t coddle them when they grow up.” Show them what love and respect look like so they’ll recognize when they’re being mistreated. – Amanda Erickson
Kids in YBGR’s community-based services in Butte recently took a special trip to the Museum of the Rockies to celebrate the progress they’ve made in their treatment plans. The outing blended learning, exploration, and was a powerful reminder of how far they’ve come.
For many, it was their very first museum visit. As the kids explored towering dinosaur fossils, hands-on science exhibits, and interactive displays, their curiosity sparked in real time.
This wasn’t just a field trip; it was a meaningful experience that promoted healing, connection, and a sense of accomplishment.
First-Time Experiences That Matter
For the kids in our care, experiences like a day at the Museum of the Rockies can be especially meaningful. This field trip became a milestone moment filled with awe, discovery, and the kind of wonder that makes learning come alive.
Each exhibit explored was a reflection of the progress they’ve made. Each question asked showed just how far they’ve come on their journey, and how much possibility still lies ahead.
Gratitude for an Experience That Inspires
We’re deeply grateful to the Museum of the Rockies for welcoming the kids in our care and helping create a day they’ll never forget. Experiences like this are one of many ways YBGR’s community-based services helps kids build confidence and discover what’s possible.
Parenting a foster child with trauma history can be challenging.
Trauma profoundly influences brain development, impacting children’s behaviors, ability to regulate emotions, and even their capacity to form healthy relationships.
And for many, it’s coupled with attachment issues, rooted in everything from abuse and neglect early on in life to repeated moves due to broken-down placements.
Here are some signs that may indicate a child is struggling with attachment.
Parenting children with attachment issues rooted in a history of trauma can be a formidable task. To put it simply—it’s not easy to be a foster parent.
But the work is so critical. The bonds foster parents build with kids help them heal and serve as the foundation for healthy connections in adulthood.
We want to guide you on the path to parenting kids with trauma history. So, here are a few tips to help build trust and influence children’s behavior.
Tips on Parenting Kids with a History of Trauma
Meet Needs
Your #1 goal is to find out your foster child’s needs and meet them. And the best way to find out is to ask. When doing so, be direct, using exact language. For example, “What’s going on?” “What are your needs?” “How can I support you?”
Say “Yes”
Kids in foster care have little power over their lives. So, often that manifests in a desire for control.
You can go miles when it comes to building trust with children by focusing on dishing out “yes” more than “no.” The optimal ratio is 7:1, saying “yes” 7 times for every “no.”
Be a mirror. Secure attachment is characterized by a healthy rhythm between children and their caregiver’s behavior. For instance, if a baby coos, their mother will coo back, or when a toddler laughs, their father laughs too.
When emotions run high, your ability to regulate—to effectively manage your emotions, energy levels, and behaviors—makes all the difference. It’s an essential skill, not just for your own well-being, but for navigating relationships with others in a way that builds trust and connection.
We all have moments when our feelings take over—when frustration builds or someone hits a nerve. In those moments, it’s easy to react. But when we pause, reflect, and respond with intention, we strengthen our relationships and model emotional balance for those around us.
How to Regulate Emotions & Respond to Others
Here are five simple, powerful tips to help you regulate in the moment and respond with clarity—not overwhelm.
Identify Your Triggers
Start by paying attention to the patterns—those moments that consistently spark strong emotional responses. Do certain situations, tones, or topics light a fuse? Recognizing your triggers isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness. When you understand what’s setting you off, you’re better equipped to respond instead of react.
Pause and Breathe
When you notice your body or mind getting activated, give yourself a beat. Pause. Breathe. That tiny gap between stimulus and response? It matters. It’s where self-control lives. The goal isn’t to ignore what you’re feeling—it’s to create just enough space to choose how you want to respond.
Notice What You Feel
Emotions often show up in the body before the brain fully catches on. A tight chest. Clenched jaw. Restless legs. Be curious about those signals—they’re information. Tuning in to what you feel physically can offer insight into what’s happening emotionally.
Accept Your Emotions
There’s no “bad” emotion. Anger, sadness, fear—these are all natural parts of being human. Accepting your emotions doesn’t mean letting them run the show. It means acknowledging what’s present without judgment. Practicing self-compassion in tough moments helps us show up better for others and for ourselves.
Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness doesn’t need to be complicated. It’s simply about noticing what’s happening—inside you and around you. Use your senses. What do you hear? Feel? See? Returning to the present helps you stay grounded when emotions feel big.
The Bottom Line
Regulating emotions isn’t about stuffing them down or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about building awareness, creating space, and responding with intention. Whether you’re parenting a child with big feelings or navigating the complexities of professional life, these small shifts can have a big impact.
You won’t get it perfect every time—and that’s okay. But with practice, you’ll start to notice moments of calm where there once was chaos. And those moments matter.
Great things come to those who put in focused, strategic effort. And that requires keeping it simple—to practice discipline and say no much more than saying yes.
Below are sixteen quotes illustrating the power of focused effort.
Quotes on the Power of Focused Effort
Quote 1: Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort. – Paul J. Meyer
Quote 2: Juggling, multitasking, and other forms of “attention shifting” are highly inefficient. Simply, the brain works much faster and more accurately when attention is focused, for a stretch of time, on one thing at a time. – Harvard Business Review
Quote 3: The concept of always being reachable makes us present nowhere. – Peter Arvai
Quote 4: Multitasking takes a toll. At home or at work, distractions lead to poor choices, painful mistakes, and unnecessary stress. – Gary W. Keller
Quote 5: The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s challenging to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear. – Inspired by Prasad Mahes
Quote 6: Complexity means distracted effort. Simplicity means focused effort. – Edward De Bono
Quote 7: Simplicity of approach is always best. – Charlie Chaplin
Quote 8: Doing less is often harder than doing more. – Inspired by Carolyn Rubenstein
Quote 9: You can do anything—but not everything. – David Allen
Quote 10: The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes. It is very easy to say yes. – Tony Blair
Quote 11: Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do. – Steve Jobs
Quote 12: Time and energy are limited. Any successful person has to decide what to do in part by deciding what not to do. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 13: It’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important. – Steve Jobs
Quote 14: You have to say no to a lot of good things in order to be able to say yes to a lot of great things. – Steve Jobs
Quote 15: You can’t do big things if you’re distracted by small things. – Unknown
Quote 16: Focus is about saying no. And the result of that focus is going to be some really great products where the total is much greater than the sum of the parts. – Steve Jobs
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, we’re committed to transparency and the well-being of the youth in our care. Please see the statement below from CEO Mike Chavers addressing recent media coverage involving former employee John Whiteside:
“Protecting the safety and well-being of the youth in our care is our highest priority at YBGR. Mr. Whiteside was employed by YBGR on April 21, 2025, and was terminated on May 23, 2025.
Mr. Whiteside’s last contact with youth as a YBGR employee was on May 19, 2025. YBGR cooperated fully with all investigative efforts by law enforcement and Child and Family Services. We support appropriate legal action in response to unlawful behavior, particularly when it involves youth.
On May 20, 2025, youth at the ranch made reports indicating that Mr. Whiteside made inappropriate comments. YBGR ensured that Mr. Whiteside would have no other contact with YBGR youth and reported the incident to the appropriate authorities and guardians, per all requirements. We are grateful that the youth felt safe and empowered to report, for the quick action by YBGR staff to ensure safety, and for the thorough investigation by law enforcement.
Prior to employment, Mr. Whiteside was cleared by the Montana Department of Public Health and Human Services, a national criminal background check, and received positive references, as required for all YBGR employees. Mr. Whiteside’s 32 days as a YBGR employee included 15 days without any youth contact, and five (5) days of on-the-job shadowing.”
Quotes on Having a Gentle Response to Kids’ Mistakes
Below are fourteen quotes to guide you in having a gentle response to your child when they make mistakes.
Quote 1: Parents have two primary jobs when it comes to keeping their kids safe and making them feel safe. The first is to protect them from harm. The second is to avoid becoming the source of fear and threat. – Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
Quote 2: Parenting is not about raising children who never make mistakes. It’s about being a safe place for them when they do. – @simplyonpurpose
Quote 3: I think it’s really, really important that our home is not another place where our kids feel like they are failing—like they aren’t enough. – Rachel Macy Stafford
Quote 4: I often wonder if we speak so harshly to ourselves when we make a mistake because that’s how we were spoken to when we messed up as kids. – Shelly Robinson
Quote 5: The patience and kindness you offer your child when they’ve made a mistake will be the patience and kindness they offer themselves when they make a mistake as an adult. Be kind and intentional with your words. – @loveandletgrow
Quote 6: We teach our kids how honest they can be with us based on how we react when they tell us things we don’t want to hear. – Susan Stiffelman
Quote 7: Getting angry and yelling at kids for making mistakes doesn’t teach them not to make mistakes—it teaches them to hide their mistakes. – @simplyonpurpose
Quote 8: I never want my kids to mess up and think, “Dad’s going to kill me.” Instead, I want their first thought to be, “I need to call my dad.” – Unknown
Quote 9: When we make a mistake while attempting to learn a new skill, we don’t like to be isolated and made to feel ashamed for what we did wrong. Neither do children. – Shelly Robinson
Quote 10: When my child has made a poor decision that has led to a painful lesson, the last thing they need is a side of belittlement and condescension from me. – Unknown
Quote 11: When my child makes a mistake, and I feel tempted to scold them, I try to remember how I want to be treated when I make mistakes in my own life—with compassion, curiosity, and grace. – Shelly Robinson
Quote 12: Kids cannot persevere unless they know mistakes are part of life. Talk about your child’s mistakes without criticizing, showing anger, or shaming. Then give constructive feedback on how to improve. – Inspired by Michele Borba
Quote 13: Look for solutions rather than punishments. Children need to learn how to fix their mistakes, not just pay for them. – Rebecca Eanes
Quote 14: One day, your child will make a mistake or a bad choice and run to you instead of away from you. And in that moment, you will know the immense value of peaceful, positive, respectful parenting. – L.R. Knost
A Community Partnership That’s Building More Than a Shelter
It began with a simple goal: to help build a shelter and dog park that would serve the community and provide care for animals in need. But long after the construction wrapped up, the connection remained.
Now, each week, youth return to ASCJeffco—not because they have to, but because they want to. They walk dogs, clean kennels, and comfort animals still waiting for a home. Their steady presence has become a source of support that the shelter can count on.
Building Skills at Boulder Group Homes Through Service
This isn’t just about volunteering—it’s about growth. Through their work, youth are learning responsibility, showing up with consistency, and experiencing the power of care in action.
Preparing Youth for Life Through Purposeful Engagement
This is what our mission, “Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life,” looks like in practice.
By creating space for service, our kids are not only supporting the community—they’re discovering who they are and what they’re capable of. This partnership with ASCJeffco is a powerful example of what can happen when care is consistent and purpose-driven, both for the animals and for the youth in our Boulder Group Homes.
Conflict! For many, the word insights extreme discomfort. I mean, hats off to those who navigate relationship tension like a pro. I know I don’t. And I’m not alone.
Friction, particularly in the workplace, is inevitable. Work is where people with diverse backgrounds, values, and personalities congregate. And disputes often arise where differences meet.
Here’s the kicker. While Gottman’s research focused on marriage, his findings ring true for relationships across all settings. Understanding the four horsemen and developing the skills to overcome them is priceless in navigating conflict.
Below is a breakdown of John Gottman’s four horsemen and tips on how to conquer them at work.
Criticism
When we criticize others, we state complaints as a defect in their personality or character. As a result, our communication comes across as a personal attack, causing the other party to become defensive and shut down their desire for mutual resolution.
Frequently, criticism is characterized by universal statements, such as “You never” or “You’re too lazy.”
How to Counter Criticism
Of course, the best counter to criticism is to complain without dishing out blame. To do so, gently express your needs using “I” statements, rather than resorting to “you” statements. Try describing how you feel as neutrally as possible while still making your point.
Before walking into an interaction, think to yourself:
“What emotions do I feel?”
“What do I need from the other person in this situation?”
When countering criticism in the workplace, try to be as general as possible, asking questions such as “Can you tell me what brought you to that approach?”
Contempt
What’s contempt? It’s general meanness, mocking, condescension, and sarcasm. Some examples include eye-rolling, sneering, and name-calling.
Contempt can come across as any statement or nonverbal behavior aiming to elevate you to a higher ground than another person. It’s the ultimate sign of disrespect, and according to John Gottman, it’s the number one predictor of relationship failure.
When we engage in contempt, it often causes the other party to counter with defensiveness and stonewalling, spiraling both parties further down the rabbit hole of conflict.
How to Counter Contempt
Counter contempt by creating a culture of appreciation. For instance, if you admire something about a teammate, tell them. And when they do something great, let them know.
Moreover, try to avoid sarcasm, even through humor. It’s often taken out of context and can result in hurt feelings.
Note for Supervisors
Don’t wait for formal performance reviews to communicate a job well done to your people. Instead, catch them doing good and call it out whenever possible.
Defensiveness
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like feeling attacked, rejected, or criticized. And my first reaction to it, like most of us, is to defend myself.
But that reaction? It can be damaging! And why is that?
Because when we’re defensive, it signals to the other party that we aren’t able to take a hard look at our behavior and execute actions to correct it.
When we act defensively, we counter a perceived attack with a counterattack. Frequently, we take the victim role and refuse to take responsibility for our part in destructive communications.
And that behavior only escalates and spins the interaction out of control.
How to Counter Defensiveness
The counter to defensiveness is straightforward—take responsibility. We can’t mitigate conflict with others unless we take accountability for our part in it.
Yes, you heard me right. You play a role in the negative interactions you have with others. It’s inevitable. We all do.
So, next time you feel attacked, take responsibility by openly acknowledging your part in the exchange. And even if you slip up in your communications, you can still clean it up.
Here’s an example: “Let’s start that again. I might not have expressed that thought very well. I apologize.”
Stonewalling
Stonewalling involves avoiding contact with another person with the intent of making them feel ignored or invalidated. When we stonewall, we shut down and emotionally withdraw from conflict.
Essentially, we close ourselves off from those we’re in discord with, which often leads to noncooperation.
Stonewalling can look like:
Ignoring what the other person is saying
Changing the subject to avoid an uncomfortable topic
Storming off without a word
Coming up with reasons not to talk
Refusing to answer questions
Making accusations rather than talking about the current problem
Using dismissive body language such as rolling or closing eyes
Engaging in passive-aggressive behaviors such as stalling or procrastinating to avoid talking about a problem
Refusing to acknowledge the stonewalling behavior
Here are some reasons why we respond to conflict by stonewalling:
We have a hard time expressing feelings & needs.
We feel pressured or threatened to get our point across
We are flooded with emotion
It’s hard to open up and be vulnerable with feelings, so we push those feelings inward.
We use the “silent treatment” as a control tactic to punish or get back at the person we’re upset with.
We feel the other person won’t understand where we are coming from, so we think, “what’s the point?”
We grew up in an environment where feelings were not openly discussed, and caregivers modeled avoidance.
The thing with stonewalling is we never address conflict when we do it. Instead of fixing the problems at the root of relationship friction, we let them rot, only perpetuating negative feelings.
How to Counter Stonewalling
Stonewalling is tricky. Sometimes, we get so flooded with emotion that we know we’ll become highly agitated or even enraged if we confront conflict head-on. And that’s not good. But disengaging isn’t a solution either.
So, what’s the answer? First, practice open communication by letting the other party know you need a break. Then, use that time to distract yourself from the conflict, explore your feelings, and calm down.
Remember, decompress, but always come back to the interaction when you’re in a space to navigate it constructively. When you return, use empathy and convey that you are listening to understand the other party’s experience, even if you disagree with their viewpoint.
Get ready for an evening full of flavor, fun, and real country music—Yellowstone Foundation is bringing the heat to the Jones Equestrian Center for the 4th Annual Chili Cook-Off at the Ranch!
Put your chili-tasting skills to the test while enjoying live music from www.Twang—authentic country sound at its finest.
When:
Thursday, September 25th | 5–8 PM
Where:
Jones Equestrian Center, Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch 1732 72nd St W, Billings, MT 59106 (on Hesper Rd, West of 72nd St. on the North side)
Your ticket includes:
🍲 Chili, sides, soda, and water 🎶 Live entertainment 🎟️ Access to games and festivities
Available for purchase:
🔥 Collector chili bowls 🐎 Horse rides 🍻 Adult beverages 🎉 Heads/tails game & silent auction fun
As parents, navigating tricky behaviors can be challenging. But with a positive approach built on a foundation of curiosity and intention, we can help our little ones learn, grow, and thrive.
Below are seventeen quotes to help you decode and coach kids through behaviors.
Quotes on Coaching Kids Through Behaviors
Quote 1: When we don’t understand a behavior, we tend to assume a child is doing it on purpose. – @raisinghumankind
When we don’t understand behavior, it’s easy to assume it’s intentional.
The talking back. The shutdown. The meltdown in the grocery store. Without context, it can feel personal—even defiant.
But most of the time, it’s not about us. It’s about a child trying to cope with something they can’t yet manage, express, or explain.
Assuming intent closes the door to understanding. Curiosity cracks it open.
Quote 2: There’s usually an “inside” story to every “outside” behavior. Though we may not be able to know that “inside story,” there’s generally some inner reason for what children do. – Fred Rogers
Every behavior tells a story—even if we don’t know the full plot.
What we see on the outside is often just the surface: the outburst, the shutdown, the refusal. But underneath? There’s almost always a reason—stress, confusion, fear, or needs that haven’t been met.
We don’t have to excuse the behavior to understand it. When we lead with that mindset, we respond with more patience, clarity, and compassion.
Quote 3: One of the most important tools for parents is the power of observation. Often, we act before considering the underlying meaning of kids’ behaviors, focusing on managing or correcting it instead of reflecting on what it means for the child. – Inspired by @monadelahooke
Before we correct, it helps to observe. Behavior isn’t random—it’s often a clue.
Kids may not say, “I’m overwhelmed” or “This is too much for me.” But their behavior might be trying to tell you just that.
One of the most powerful tools we have as parents is curiosity. When we pause long enough to notice, we shift from reacting to understanding. That shift helps us respond in ways that support our kids.
Quote 4: Beneath misbehavior often lies a struggling child who is aware that they are not meeting expectations but unaware or unequipped on how to do so. – Inspired by Sarah Boyd
Kids usually want to meet expectations. But under stress, the skills that help them do that—like calming down, thinking ahead, or stopping to consider their choices—can fall apart.
That’s because the part of the brain responsible for planning, focus, and self-control (called executive function) is still developing—and even more so when emotions run high.
It’s not about motivation. It’s about brain development. And kids need coaching, not criticism, to build those skills over time.
Quote 5: Challenging behavior occurs when the demands placed on a child outstrip the skills they have to respond adaptively to those demands. – Dr. Ross Greene
Challenging behavior doesn’t mean a child won’t—it often means they can’t. At least not yet.
When the demands placed on a child exceed the skills they have—whether it’s managing emotions, thinking flexibly, or navigating social situations—behavior becomes the signal.
And if they can’t? They don’t need more pressure—they need support to build the skills they’re missing.
Quote 6: Children do not enter this world with bad intentions. They do not come to wear us out, test our patience, or push us over the edge. They come to us with a need for love, connection, and belonging. – Rebecca Eanes
From the very beginning, kids are wired to seek connection and safety—it’s how they survive, and how they grow.
So when behavior gets loud or hard to manage, it’s usually not about manipulation. It’s a signal. A sign that something isn’t working, and a child is struggling to get their core needs met.
When we see behavior as a call for connection—not control—we’re more likely to respond with the guidance and support kids truly need.
Quote 7: Every child wants to succeed. Every child wants to have a good relationship with others. Every child wants to have a sense of belonging and significance. When we remember this, we will give misbehaving children the benefit of the doubt. Instead of assuming they want to be difficult, we will assume they want positive results and are simply confused about how to achieve them. – Jane Nelsen
At the core, every child wants to do well. They want to connect. To feel seen. To belong.
When behavior misses the mark, it’s rarely because a child wants to cause problems—it’s usually because they’re struggling to get their core needs met—and working to meet them in the only way they know how.
Giving kids the benefit of the doubt doesn’t mean lowering expectations. It means recognizing their intentions are good—even when their behavior isn’t—and showing them how to get to the outcome they’re really after.
Quote 8: Too often, we forget that discipline really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipient of behavioral consequences. – Daniel J. Siegel
Discipline at its core is about helping kids learn what to do next time—not just making them pay for what went wrong.
When we shift from reacting to teaching, we give kids the tools to build better behavior over time.
Quote 9: Repeatedly telling a child what they’re doing wrong won’t help them learn what to do differently. – @parenting_pathfinders
Pointing out what’s wrong doesn’t teach what to do instead.
Kids need more than correction—they need coaching. When we only tell them what not to do, we leave a gap. A blank space where the skill should be.
Real growth comes when we help them fill that gap—with guidance, modeling, and practice. It’s not about lowering expectations—it’s about giving them the tools to reach them.
Quote 10: Before telling a child to stop doing something, imagine them asking you, “What should I do instead?” Then, skip telling them to “stop” and tell them this. – @parenting_pathfinders
What if, before saying “stop,” we paused to consider what a child could do instead?
Most kids aren’t trying to misbehave—they’re trying to navigate a situation with the tools they have. When we only tell them what not to do, we leave them without a way forward.
So next time, imagine them asking, “What should I do instead?” And lead with that.
Giving clear direction helps kids build the skills they need to succeed.
Quote 11: Affirmation is powerful! When you encourage kids with their small successes, they are usually eager to do more. – @connectedfams
Kids grow where they’re encouraged.
A small win—a kind word—a moment of progress noticed. That’s often all it takes to spark motivation. Affirmation builds confidence, and confidence fuels growth.
As @connectedfams puts it: “When you encourage kids with their small successes, they are usually eager to do more.”
What we choose to highlight matters. Catch them doing well, and watch what happens next.
Quote 12: Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. Often, we get so focused on how to respond when kids cross boundaries that we forget to ensure our boundaries are clear to begin with. – @helpingfamiliesthrive
“Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.”
We often focus on how to respond when kids cross boundaries—but sometimes, the real issue is that the boundary wasn’t clear to begin with.
Kids aren’t mind readers. They’re learners.
When we set limits with calm, consistent clarity, we make it easier for them to succeed.
Quote 13: Punishing a child forces them to focus on how their behavior affects them. Communicating with a child helps them to focus on how their behavior affects others. To parent effectively, focus on communication instead of retribution. – Inspired by L.R. Knost
Punishment makes kids think, “I’m in trouble.” Communication helps them think, “I made a mistake—and here’s how it affected someone else.”
One pushes kids into self-protection. The other invites growth, accountability, and connection.
It’s not about making kids pay for what went wrong—it’s about helping them understand, repair, and grow.
Quote 14: If controlling another human being is the goal, then force is necessary. Fear, intimidation, threats, power-plays, physical pain—those are the means of control. But, if growing healthy humans is the goal, then building trust, relationships, encouraging, guiding, leading, teaching, and communicating are the tools for success. – Inspired by L.R. Knost
The way we respond to challenging behavior says a lot about what we’re aiming for.
If the goal is short-term compliance, we might lean on control or fear to get it. But if the goal is long-term growth—raising thoughtful, capable humans—we have to take a different path.
That means leaning into connection, not coercion. Teaching instead of punishing. Holding boundaries and holding space.
It takes more time, more intention—but it builds something stronger.
Quote 15: You won’t be able to always control your child. But with a relationship with trust and connection, you will be able to influence them for years beyond childhood. Focus on connection & influence instead of power & control. – Dr. David Erickson
Control is temporary. But connection? That lasts.
You won’t always be able to control your child’s choices—and you shouldn’t have to. What carries real weight over time is the relationship you build.
When trust and connection are strong, your influence lasts far beyond childhood. Not because you demanded it—but because you earned it.
Quote 16: Never miss an opportunity to make a kid feel better about themselves. When they feel good, their whole demeanor changes. They learn better, behave better, and act better toward others. – Christine Derengowski
It’s easy to focus on what needs correcting. And yes—kids need guidance, limits, and clear expectations. But if that’s all they hear, they can start to believe they’re only as good as their mistakes.
Encouragement shifts that narrative. When we reflect back their effort, growth, and small wins, we help them see themselves differently—and that changes everything.
A child who feels seen and capable is more open to feedback, more willing to try again, and more likely to grow—not because we demanded it, but because they believe they can.
Quote 17: When children perceive that they belong and that they are capable, they feel encouraged and behave in socially acceptable ways. – Jane Nelson
When kids feel like they belong and that they matter, their behavior often starts to shift.
Belonging isn’t just a warm feeling—it’s a basic need. And when kids see themselves as capable contributors, they’re more likely to show up in ways that reflect that belief.
That sense of belonging fuels motivation. It builds resilience. It gives kids a reason to care—not just about how they’re doing, but about how they’re impacting others.
Instead of trying to earn their place, they begin to live into it—taking ownership, showing empathy, and stepping into who they’re becoming.
Need Support?
We’re here to help! With everything from therapy to in-home caregiver support and more, we provide a wide range of behavioral health services tailored to each child’s unique needs—designed to empower families in treatment.
Every hour counts—and YBGR employees are proving it in powerful ways! In just a quarter’s time, our team spent 4,238 hours volunteering across Montana. From coaching youth sports to mentoring kids, delivering meals, serving on boards, and so much more, they’re making a real difference far beyond the workday.
This is what it looks like when caring people come together. We don’t just serve our communities—we’re part of them.
More Than Numbers: The Heart Behind the Service
What makes these hours so meaningful isn’t just the total—it’s the spirit behind them. Whether it’s firing up the grill for a crowd, helping a neighbor in need, or quietly mentoring a young athlete, our team shows up with commitment, care, and humility. These moments build lasting connections and communities that thrive.
Take Leslin Ossoff, Regional Clinical Director, and Alexis Freydenfelt, Administrative Supervisor, for example. In May, they volunteered at a Kenyon Noble event in Bozeman, where they grilled hot dogs for kids and helped families build flowerpots in time for Mother’s Day. It’s a snapshot of the kind of hands-on care and connection our staff bring into their communities every day.
Why Volunteering Matters at YBGR
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, we believe community involvement is part of who we are, not just what we do. When our staff give their time, they’re helping create the positive connections that kids, families, and neighbors need to succeed. Together, we’re helping youth grow stronger and communities grow closer.
To every employee who gives so generously—thank you. Your time and heart make a lasting difference.
Dr. Gillette has served on the Board since 2021 and was Vice Chair from July 1st, 2024, through June 30th, 2025. A Montana State Legislator, she is a recognized leader in primary disease prevention, health disparities, and evidence-based healthcare.
Her past leadership roles include serving as Chair of the American Dental Association’s Council on Access, Prevention, and Interprofessional Relations and Media Spokesperson for the ADA on Evidence-based Dentistry. She is a recipient of the ADA/American Association of Dental Research Evidence-based Practice Award and the HRDC IX Future Generations Award.
Dr. Gillette has also served on nonprofit healthcare and research boards, including Save the Mothers USA, the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, the Mountain Health CO-OP, and the NIH-funded NW PRECEDENT research network.
Would you build a house on unsteady ground? Probably not. So why overlook a child’s strengths when guiding them?
Every child possesses an inherent set of strengths. And when we lean into them rather than focusing on weaknesses, we empower—laying a solid foundation for kids to thrive!
Below are thirteen quotes illustrating the power of building on children’s strengths.
Quotes Illustrating Building on Strengths
Quote 1: If you want your child to improve, focus on their strengths more than their weaknesses. – @ybgr_cares
Kids who feel capable are more likely to try new things, persevere through setbacks, and tackle areas they struggle with because they have proof their effort matters.
Quote 2: There needs to be a lot more emphasis on what a child CAN do instead of what they cannot. – Temple Grandin
When we point out what kids can do, we help them build a sense of competence that drives learning. Studies on motivation show that children are more willing to take on difficult tasks when they feel capable in at least one area—it fuels persistence, curiosity, and a willingness to take risks.
It’s not about empty praise or inflating self-esteem. It’s about reflecting back real strengths and effort, so kids learn to trust their abilities and stretch beyond their comfort zone.
Quote 3: The best way to teach our kids is by building them up. Not tearing them down. – @renewedhopeparenting
Research on positive reinforcement shows that kids learn better when they feel safe and valued. Encouragement reinforces desired behaviors and creates conditions where kids stay open to learning.
Harsh criticism or punishment may stop behavior temporarily, but it often triggers shame or fear—shutting down growth and effort.
Quote 4: What you say about your child is what they think about themselves. You are the first person to give them a hint about their identity. Your words are powerful—be selective. – @ybgr_cares
Children form their sense of self partly through the repeated feedback they hear from trusted adults. When we highlight strengths, we help them build an inner voice that says, “I am capable,” “I am kind,” or “I can try.” Over time, this shapes identity and self-esteem, influencing how they approach challenges.
Quote 5: Speak to people as if all you see is their potential. Not everyone gets someone like that in their life. Be that someone. – Unknown
The Pygmalion effect demonstrates that children often rise or fall to meet the expectations adults have of them. When we communicate belief in a child’s potential, we help them envision a future they might not dare consider otherwise—and that belief can motivate them to strive toward it.
Quote 6: When we believe in our kids, they start to believe in themselves. – @atparentingsurvival
Children build confidence through the belief and encouragement of trusted adults. Our belief acts as a kind of scaffolding—support that helps kids take steps they might not risk alone. Over time, that borrowed confidence helps them build their own self-efficacy.
Quote 7: To inspire people, don’t show them your superpowers. Show them theirs. – Alexander Den Heijer
It’s not about praise—it’s about giving them meaningful chances to contribute, succeed, and feel the impact of their effort. That’s what drives lasting motivation and a belief in their ability to handle what comes next.
Quote 8: Every kid has strengths. Sometimes they’re obvious, like the kid who is a good athlete. But some strengths can be harder to notice—like the kid who is a kind person who accepts others. Both deserve equal praise. – Inspired by Living Full
Character development studies show that praising traits like kindness, fairness, or perseverance is just as important as praising achievement. Both help kids build self-worth and guide how they contribute to the world.
Quote 9: The teachers who we remember from childhood are the ones who saw us for who we really were and inspired us toward who we could become. – Sarah Boyd
Kids internalize the reflections they hear from trusted adults. When we name strengths—kindness, creativity, courage—it helps shape how they see themselves.
Over time, these early reflections form the foundation of identity, confidence, and motivation to develop into their full potential.
Quote 10: Never miss an opportunity to make a kid feel better about themselves. When they feel good, their whole demeanor changes. They learn better, behave better, and act better toward others. – Christine Derengowski
Self-esteem research shows that when children feel valued, they’re more likely to engage positively with learning, peers, and adults.
Quote 11: Look for the good things in your child today, and you’ll find that they’re even better tomorrow. Good things grow when they’re brought out into the light. – L.R. Knost
Quote 12: Inclusion is when the strengths of every child and young person are recognized, encouraged, and fostered. – Inspired by Beyond Blue
Research on belonging shows that when kids feel their unique strengths are valued, they’re more motivated to participate, learn, and connect. Inclusion isn’t about treating kids the same—it’s about helping each contribute in ways that build confidence and connection.
Quote 13: Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity to grow into the healthiest of people. – Inspired by Mr. Rogers
Attachment theory suggests that unconditional acceptance fosters the emotional security children need to explore, try, and grow. When kids feel loved as they are, they’re more willing to take healthy risks and bounce back from setbacks.
Did you know that every June, Walmart steps up to support kids at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch by donating unsold seeds, pots, soil, and gardening supplies? Their contributions play a vital role in keeping Yellowstone youth gardening programs thriving — helping maintain the Ranch gardens and supporting horticultural activities at Yellowstone Academy.
Through these programs, youth engage in meaningful, hands-on learning that teaches responsibility, patience, and growth.
How Yellowstone Youth Gardening Builds Skills and Confidence
Yellowstone youth gardening isn’t just about planting seeds; it’s about planting the roots of resilience. Thanks to Walmart’s generosity, youth at Yellowstone Academy and the Ranch experience the full cycle of care, from preparing the soil to seeing the first sprouts. Along the way, kids learn the value of hard work, gain a sense of responsibility, and build patience as they nurture their plants.
The donated supplies help our gardens flourish all season, creating spaces where youth connect with nature, experience the calming benefits of outdoor work, and see the results of their dedication. For many, it’s a chance to build confidence and discover new interests they might not have explored otherwise.
Mitch Burns from Yellowstone Academy met with April from Walmart to pick up this year’s donation for our youth gardening program—a reminder of how local partnerships strengthen our ability to serve youth.
Thank You, Walmart!
We’re deeply grateful to Walmart for their ongoing support of Yellowstone youth gardening projects and programs. Their generosity helps make a difference in the lives of the kids we serve, giving them opportunities to grow, learn, and heal in new ways.
The Silent Epidemic: Why Men’s Mental Health Struggles Are Overlooked
Mental health challenges among men are sometimes called a silent epidemic because they’re rarely discussed openly. Society tends to sweep men’s emotional struggles under the rug, driven by stereotypes about masculinity and strength. From an early age, boys are taught, directly or indirectly, that showing emotion is a sign of weakness, that they should “tough it out” no matter what they’re feeling inside.
But men aren’t machines. They’re human—with real emotions, struggles, and limits. Yet stigma and unspoken expectations often prevent them from expressing vulnerability or seeking help.
Even public figures are speaking out to help change that narrative.
“We need to feel like we can speak about it. The only way we can beat the stigma is by talking about it.” — Prince Harry
“Anyone can suffer from mental health issues. No matter how rich you are or how famous or powerful.” — Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
Shattering Stigma, One Conversation at a Time
Men’s mental health struggles are common. Men, like women, grapple with trauma, loss, anxiety, depression, and grief. But societal expectations often block them from reaching out—and that silence can be deadly.
Imagine what might change if we let go of frameworks that equate manhood with emotional suppression.
“Depression is something that just happens. You don’t have to be ashamed of it.” — Michael Phelps
“There’s no shame in talking about your feelings and asking for help.” — Ryan Reynolds
Breaking down stigma could save lives—encouraging men to seek help, healing, and hope.
Whether you’re a man working through life’s challenges, a parent raising a boy, a partner, a sibling, or a friend, we all have a role to play in creating space for these critical conversations. The time is now. Together, we can change the narrative and help future generations grow up knowing it’s okay to ask for help.
Meet Alissa Brady, Behavior Specialist at Yellowstone Academy, and the heart behind many of the gardening projects happening across campus! Thanks to Alissa’s leadership, the Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch garden beds are bursting with life — filled with plants that youth started from seed and recently transplanted into the soil they’ve spent weeks preparing.
How Yellowstone Academy Gardening Builds Lifelong Skills
Alissa has led the charge in bringing gardening to life at the Ranch. Through her guidance, youth are discovering the therapeutic value of growing something from the ground up. From planting seeds to nurturing seedlings and watching them thrive, kids are building patience, resilience, and quiet confidence through hands-on care.
But what’s growing here goes far beyond flowers and vegetables.
Yellowstone Academy gardening allows youth to connect with nature, experience the calming benefits of outdoor work, and learn important life skills. Each day spent in the garden helps them practice consistency, responsibility, and teamwork—all while creating something beautiful and nourishing.
Yellowstone Academy Gardening Supports Healing and Growth
At Yellowstone Academy, caring people like Alissa and her teammates are committed to creating learning experiences that support healing and personal growth. Gardening projects are just one example of how the Academy blends academics, therapeutic support, and real-world skills to help prepare youth for life.
We’re grateful for the heart Alissa and the Yellowstone Academy team bring to their work with the kids entrusted to our care. Together, they’re planting seeds of hope, healing, and strength.
What is trauma? Look it up in the dictionary, and you’ll find it defined as “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” And you know what? It’s painfully common.
June is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Awareness Month—a time to shine a light on trauma, its lasting effects, and the importance of healing. Here are thirteen powerful quotes to inspire strength, resilience, and hope.
Quotes on Trauma and Healing
Quote 1: To live in the body of a survivor is to never be able to leave the scene of the crime. I cannot ignore the fact that I live here. – Blythe Baird
Quote 2: Someone once asked me, “Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?” I replied, “Why do you assume I see two roads?” – Unknown
Quote 3: Childhood trauma can lead to an adulthood spent in survival mode, afraid to plant roots, to plan for the future, to trust, and to let joy in. It’s a blessing to shift from surviving to thriving. It’s not simple, but there is more than survival. – Unknown
Quote 4: There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. – Laurell K. Hamilton
Quote 5: Trauma in a person, decontextualized over time, looks like personality. Trauma in a family, decontextualized over time, looks like family traits. Trauma in a people, decontextualized over time, looks like culture. – Resmaa Menakem
Quote 6: An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does. A healed person understands that the actions of others have nothing to do with them. Each day you get to decide which one you will be. – Unknown
Quote 7: Heal, so you don’t have to give a sarcastic tone to uplifting messages. Heal, so you never have to make anyone else the object of your own frustration. Heal, so when someone tells you they love you, you may allow yourself to believe them. – Banff Wellness Retreat
Quote 8: If you continue to carry bricks from your past, you will end up building the same house. – Unknown
Quote 9: Your trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility. – Unknown
Quote 10: As every therapist will tell you, healing involves discomfort. But so is refusing to heal. And over time, refusing to heal is always more painful. – Resmaa Menakem
Quote 11: Trauma creates change you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose. – Michelle Rosenthal
Quote 12: Now, every time I witness a strong person, I want to know: What darkness did you conquer in your story? Mountains don’t rise without earthquakes. – Katherine Mackenett
Quote 13: Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful. – Unknown
What if healing didn’t have to start with words? Across Montana, SMART rooms are offering kids who’ve experienced trauma a new way to reset, reconnect, and heal. These spaces use sensory experiences and are thoughtfully designed to support their unique needs.
Leading this effort is Charise Lemelin, Clinical Director of Community-Based Services, whose vision is bringing SMART rooms to life in communities across the state.
What Are SMART Rooms?
SMART rooms (Sensory Motor Arousal Regulation Treatment) are therapeutic spaces that help children and teens regulate emotions and behaviors in ways that go beyond traditional talk therapy. Developed by clinical experts at the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute, the SMART model integrates sensory and motor activities to support youth who have experienced complex trauma.
These rooms use tools like:
Weighted blankets for comfort and grounding
Fitness balls to promote body awareness and self-regulation
Other sensory tools that help kids manage emotions and build resilience
Each space gives youth a place to pause, engage their senses, and practice healthy ways to navigate difficult moments.
Expanding SMART Rooms Across Montana
Thanks to Charise’s leadership, SMART spaces are becoming a vital part of our community-based services. Each new room reflects our commitment to trauma-informed care — helping youth access practical tools that support healing and growth.
Did you know June is PTSD Awareness Month? It’s a time to shed light on post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) — a serious mental health condition that can affect people of all ages and backgrounds.
What Is PTSD?
Post-traumatic stress disorder develops after exposure to highly stressful or traumatic events. This may include violence, abuse, accidents, natural disasters, or combat. It affects roughly 8 million Americans annually, including children, caregivers, and adults in our communities.
Check out the video below from Vietnam veteran Ron Whitcomb, where he shares his powerful story of navigating life with PTSD after returning from the war in the late 1960s.
PTSD Symptoms
PTSD symptoms can vary but often fall into these key categories:
Intrusive Memories
Intrusive memories can look like:
Recurring, unwanted, distressing memories
Flashbacks (reliving the traumatic event)
Nightmares about the trauma
Emotional or physical distress when reminded of the event
Avoidance
Avoidance can manifest as:
Avoiding thoughts, feelings, or conversations about trauma
Steering clear of places, people, or activities that bring back memories of trauma
Negative Changes in Mood and Thinking
Negative changes in mood and thinking can look like:
Negative beliefs about self, others, or the world
Feelings of hopelessness
Memory gaps about trauma
Feeling detached or estranged from loved ones
Loss of interest in once-enjoyed activities
Emotional numbness
Changes in Physical and Emotional Reactions
Changes in physical and emotional reactions can manifest as:
Yesterday’s Yellowstone Academy graduation ceremony at the Ranch marked a powerful milestone—one that was years in the making for seven incredible students.
Some spent nearly their entire educational journeys as day school students at Yellowstone Academy, while others completed the final stretch of high school while in our care.
No matter their path, each student earned far more than a diploma. They walked away with a hard-won victory—a testament to perseverance, growth, and the power of care and connection.
Staff Reflections Highlight Growth, Resilience, and Strength
The 2025 Yellowstone Academy graduation ceremony opened with heartfelt remarks from John Boeder, Chaplain, and Cass Cole, Principal. Their words set the tone for a moving celebration grounded in hope and achievement.
We can’t heal what we don’t allow ourselves to feel. The emotions we bury don’t disappear; they build up, quietly impacting our health, relationships, and sense of peace. Left unaddressed, they can become a heavy weight that we pass down through our parenting—rippling through future generations.
Below are fifteen quotes on generational patterns, trauma, and the journey to emotional healing.
Quotes Exploring the Path to Emotional Healing
Quote 1: That which is left unresolved from our childhood will land on the lap of our romantic partnerships + our parenting. – Inspired by Dr. Erika Velez
What remains unsettled within us finds its way into our parenting and relationships. Through self-awareness and compassion, we can break free from the patterns that no longer serve us. By nurturing our emotional well-being, we pave the way for a brighter, more connected future.
Quote 2: When children have big feelings, and we use toys, treats, or activities to distract them from what’s upsetting, we show them how to escape uncomfortable feelings rather than how to cope and move through them. – @aparentingpath
When children experience big emotions, it can be tempting to resort to toys, treats, or activities as a quick fix to help them feel better. But when we choose this path, we unintentionally teach them to evade rather than confront their discomfort.
Instead, embrace the opportunity to teach kids how to sit with and process their emotions. By holding space, validating feelings, and gently guiding children through challenging moments, we equip them with the tools to cope, grow, and thrive.
Quote 3: Addiction begins with the hope that something “out there” can instantly fill the emptiness inside. – Jean Kilbourne
Addiction is often born from a pattern of seeking external comforts to escape internal discomfort. When we distract kids from their feelings, we unintentionally teach them to avoid or suppress their emotions rather than develop healthy coping mechanisms to navigate through them.
Early patterns of seeking instant relief set the stage for addiction as we learn to seek external sources to fill our inner void. We must teach kids how to recognize, express, and process their emotions, providing them with the tools to cope, heal, and build resilience in facing life’s challenges.
Quote 4: If we never let children go through the full wave of emotions when the emotion hits, there won’t be the assurance that it will pass. That is scary. – Krysten Taprell
Emotions are like waves, rising and falling in intensity. We must allow kids to experience the entire spectrum of the waters.
If we shield them from the waves, they may not grasp the temporary nature of emotions—which, for a child, can be scary. But when we courageously guide them through the storm, we assure them that feelings pass, bringing strength and comfort.
Quote 5: Numbing is a very human defense mechanism. It is a disconnect to protect ourselves from what has been emotionally and relationally too vulnerable, overwhelming, hurtful, or unsafe. – Inspired by Lelia Schott
Numbing acts as a disconnect, offering temporary respite from the intensity of our emotions—but while momentarily comforting, it prevents healing.
We must allow ourselves to experience emotions, embracing our discomfort with courage and compassion. By facing our vulnerabilities head-on, we create space for healing and lay the path to resilience.
Quote 6: Research on emotional suppression shows that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored, they get stronger. Psychologists call this amplification. – Inspired by Susan David
We have to feel it to heal it. By embracing our emotions, we open the door to self-regulation—cultivating greater self-awareness, healthier responses to others, and a more balanced journey.
Quote 7: Yes, your emotions are valid, but that is not permission to react to those emotions in any way you feel like it. We are all connected, and words and actions are impactful, so use them responsibly. – Inspired by Dr. Caroline Leaf
Yes, our emotions are valid, and it’s important to honor and acknowledge them. But it’s equally essential to recognize that our emotions don’t permit us to react without considering the impact on others.
Our words and actions hold power. Even in the face of intense emotions, we have the capacity to respond thoughtfully. We can choose words that heal rather than harm—actions that uplift rather than tear down.
Quote 8: A lot of our explosive emotional reactions aren’t actually a response to the present moment. They’re a build-up of all the times we were in a similar dynamic and did not stand up for ourselves, use our voices, or express our emotions. – @haileypaigemagee
Our emotional reactions often trace back to unresolved echoes of our past, reverberating through our present experiences. By acknowledging our feelings, we grant ourselves the space to understand their origins—unraveling the threads of past experiences that continue to weave into our present reactions.
As we cultivate a deeper understanding, we unlock the power of healthier responses to others, fostering empathy and compassion in our connections.
Quote 9: Never let your emotions overpower your intelligence. – Drake Taylor
Have you heard of the term “emotional hijacking?” It refers to a sudden and intense emotional response that bypasses our ability to process situations logically.
Our amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions and triggering the fight-or-flight response, takes over the rational thinking processes of the prefrontal cortex, resulting in impulsive behaviors, exaggerated emotional reactions, and difficulty in making sound decisions.
It can occur in response to perceived threats, stressful events, or triggers of traumatic experiences, leading to outbursts of anger, fear, or sadness that may be disproportionate to a situation.
Recognizing when emotional hijacking is taking place is essential to responding effectively. Techniques like deep breathing, mindfulness, and taking a step back to assess can help us regain control over our emotions and allow for more thoughtful responses.
Quote 10: It’s not about managing your emotions. It’s about managing your reaction to your emotions. – Inspired by Yung Pueblo
Emotional intelligence is not just about controlling our emotions but leveraging them as a source of strength. More than managing our feelings, it’s empowering ourselves to manage our reactions to them effectively.
Quote 11: Identifying the pattern is awareness; choosing not to repeat the cycle is growth. – Billy Chapata
Growth starts when we consciously decide not to perpetuate old cycles—a journey that begins with self-awareness. By identifying patterns woven into our interactions and tuning into our emotions, we can understand ourselves and others more profoundly.
Once we start this trek, we’re better able to respond intentionally to those in our lives rather than simply reacting—a transformative step towards greater well-being and more harmonious relationships.
Quote 12: We cannot be more connected to others than we are to ourselves. – Brene Brown
True connection to others begins with cultivating a deep connection to ourselves. Through self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-compassion, we create the foundation for meaningful and authentic relationships.
When we prioritize nurturing our own well-being, we unlock the capacity to understand and empathize with others on a more profound level. By tending to our own emotional landscape, we gain the tools to navigate the intricate terrain of human connection.
Quote 13: Our ability to tolerate anger, frustration, and behavior we don’t like is a skill we can strengthen by investigating the source of our discomfort. – Lori Petro
We can’t meet others more deeply than we’ve met ourselves.
By delving into the root causes of our discomfort, we open the door to strengthening our emotional resilience. As we gain insight into our triggers and patterns, we empower ourselves to respond with empathy and understanding to others.
Remember, our capacity to navigate anger, frustration, and behaviors that challenge us is a skill we can hone. Through self-reflection and curiosity, we expand our ability to tolerate + hold space for others, fostering healthier relationships.
Quote 14: Practicing how to turn toward ourselves with curious compassion when we are having a hard time is a big step towards softening our reactions. – Lelia Schott
In challenging moments when emotions are high and patience is low, we can respond instead of react.
By cultivating the ability to pause and tune into our emotions, we create space for understanding and acceptance. When we extend compassion to ourselves, we open the door to softer, more empathetic responses to others.
Quote 15: Look at yourself through the lens of compassion and understanding. Only then growth is possible. – Anna Aslanian, LMFT
Self-awareness is a powerful tool that allows us to evolve and thrive—both personally and professionally. By looking at ourselves through a lens of compassion, we open the door to endless opportunities for growth.
May is MMIP Awareness Month, a time to honor Missing and Murdered Indigenous People (MMIP) and raise visibility around the violence impacting Native communities. At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, youth and staff gathered for a powerful vigil on Wednesday, May 14th, that brought this national crisis close to home.
Youth-Led Vigil Brings Focus to MMIP Awareness
Led by Mustang Nation—a youth-led cultural club through our Native American Services program—the event was held in the Chapel on campus. Youth and staff came together to reflect, learn, and take action.
The vigil raised awareness about MMIP, the risks of human trafficking, and the growing dangers of illicit fentanyl in Indigenous communities. To close the gathering, participants joined in a Red Sand activation—filling sidewalk cracks with red sand to symbolize those who have fallen through the cracks of systems meant to protect them.
Standing in Solidarity, Amplifying Awareness
Among those present were Mike Chavers, CEO; Josie Brady, Native American Services Coordinator; Charlie Sleeper, Mental Health Worker; Eric Thorson, Licensed Addiction Counselor; and MMIP advocates Yolanda Fraser and Justin Ras. Their presence reflected a shared commitment to standing with Indigenous communities and amplifying youth voices.
As we observe MMIP Awareness Month, we recommit to listening, learning, and taking action. Events like this remind us that awareness is only the beginning—what follows must be ongoing support, advocacy, and change.
Shirts Now Available to Support MMIP Efforts
Youth at the Ranch designed a T-shirt to raise awareness and funds in support of MMIP efforts. Proceeds from shirt purchases go directly toward advocacy and outreach.
This spring, we’re celebrating teammates who put in the work—earning everything from professional certificates to master’s degrees, including our MSW crew at Carroll College.
Each of these professionals balanced full-time jobs, family responsibilities, and challenging academic coursework—all while continuing to serve youth and families with heart and perseverance.
Their achievement is a testament to what’s possible when education is supported and aligned with purpose. At YBGR, we believe in investing in the people delivering critical youth mental health services across Montana. By creating opportunities for professional development, we expand access to care in our rural communities and strengthen our workforce from within.
Our “Grow Your Own” Program: Advancing MSW Careers & More
YBGR and Yellowstone Academy offer several pathways to pursue an MSW or other academic goals through our “Grow Your Own” initiative:
Student loan repayment grants support therapists currently practicing at YBGR or the Academy.
These supports help our team grow while expanding the care we provide to kids across Montana.
Grow Your Career While Giving Back
Looking for a meaningful career where you can grow professionally and make an impact? Join our team of caring people, preparing youth for life! Navigate to our Careers tab to explore our open positions.
Trauma triggers can be easy to miss—especially in children. But recognizing them is key to understanding behavior, offering meaningful support, and helping kids feel safe.
What’s a trauma trigger? A trigger is a reminder of past trauma. It can set off an emotional alarm system, causing feelings of overwhelming sadness, anxiety, or panic.
A good indicator that trauma has been triggered is when response intensity doesn’t match the intensity of stressors or when behaviors seem confusing or inexplicable.
Look for Emotions Driving Behaviors
When navigating triggers, get curious. Look for the emotions driving behaviors and use mirroring as a tool for supportive conversations.
When we acknowledge we’re aware of children’s feelings & experiences, it’s normalizing. We don’t need to talk them out of their feelings—this kind of recognition is healing.
In April, we had the privilege of welcoming tribal chairmen and council members from across Montana to the Ranch for a closer look at our Native American Services programming—a vital piece of how we deliver on our mission: Caring people, preparing youth for life.
Native American Services — Cultural Connection in Practice
Our Native American Services program weaves cultural connection into treatment at the Ranch—supporting healing, strengthening identity, and fostering belonging. From weekly smudging and cultural activities to classroom integration, Native heritage is part of everyday life for youth who choose to participate.
We welcomed guests with a smudge prepared for the occasion using a custom blend from Lunar Brambles, a small herbal business that provides ongoing support, free of charge, to Mustang Nation—a key part of our programming.
Shared Conversation and Commitment
The visit was led by Josie Brady, our Native American Services Coordinator, whose work anchors the program and creates meaningful opportunities for cultural connection at the Ranch. Under her guidance, the day included space for honest conversation, shared insight, and reflections on how we can continue to strengthen our work moving forward.
We’re grateful for the time spent together—and for the opportunity to walk alongside youth in ways that honor their culture and identity.
Do you have a child who struggles with anxiety? If so, you know that anxious feelings can shine through in several less-than-straightforward ways—making them, at times, tricky to navigate.
Common Missed Signs of Anxiety
Quotes Illustrating How to Help Kids Navigate Anxiety
Below are seventeen quotes illustrating childhood anxiety, its trajectory, and how to support kids.
Quote 1: Anxiety doesn’t always look like a nervous child. Sometimes it looks like a quiet, angry, or difficult child. – Unknown
Anxiety in kids can be easy to miss if we’re only looking for signs of nervousness. More often than not, it hides behind behaviors we misread—like refusal, irritability, or silence.
What looks like “bad behavior” is often the language of distress. Kids who feel out of control inside will try to find control in the only ways they can.
Anxiety is the brain’s alarm system working overtime—scanning for danger and often misfiring.
Quote 2: Anxiety is often masked by aggression. – @raisinghumankind
Aggression can be anxiety’s armor. When a child feels emotionally cornered, they may fight their way out by yelling, hitting, or pushing limits.
This isn’t defiance—it’s protection. Many children don’t yet have the language to express what they’re feeling, so their body speaks for them.
Quote 3: Consistent anger from a child is often a sign of overwhelm and anxiety. – Sarah Boyd
When a child seems angry all the time, it’s easy to assume they’re just being difficult. But anger, especially when it becomes a pattern, is usually a sign that something deeper is going on.
Here’s what’s actually happening: Their nervous system is overwhelmed.
Instead of moving through stress and returning to calm, their body stays on high alert—stuck in a state that feels unsafe, even if there’s no obvious danger. That constant tension builds, and it often spills out as anger. It’s not about bad behavior. It’s about a body and brain that can’t reset.
What kids need isn’t harsher consequences—it’s support. Tools that help them feel safe, calm, and connected.
Without intervention, that stress response pattern can hardwire itself, following kids into adulthood and shaping how they respond to the world. Understanding this doesn’t mean we excuse the behavior—but it does change how we respond to it.
Quote 4: Frustration, anger, and fear shut down the thinking parts of our brain. When your child is dysregulated, they cannot access the smartest part of the brain until their emotions are calmed. – Institute of Child Psychology
Ever tried reasoning with a child mid-meltdown? It’s like trying to explain taxes to someone whose house is on fire. The brain literally can’t take in logic when it’s in panic mode.
Psychologist Daniel Goleman called this an “amygdala hijack”—when the emotional center of the brain (the amygdala) senses threat and takes over, sending the body into fight, flight, or freeze.
When this happens, the thinking part of the brain—responsible for decision-making and problem-solving—goes offline. At that moment, our job isn’t to fix the behavior with words. It’s to help their body feel safe again.
Fewer words. Slower breath. Calm presence.
You’re not teaching—they’re not ready to learn. You’re just helping the storm pass.
Quote 5: Young kids can feel big emotions or think with logic and reason. But they can’t do both at the same time. Connect first. Then reason. – @loveandletgrow
Picture the brain like a ladder. At the bottom are survival instincts—big emotions, impulsive reactions, fight or flight responses. At the top is logical thinking. When a child is upset, they’re down on the bottom rungs.
We can’t ask kids to think clearly if their body still feels under threat. Connection—eye contact, empathy, calm presence—is how we help them climb back up the ladder.
Quote 6: Remember, nobody (child or adult) thinks clearly when emotions are high. Wait for the wave to pass before working through the issue. – Inspired by Krysten Taprell
There’s a time to teach, and it’s not mid-meltdown. Kids need the emotional wave to pass before they can reflect, reset, and try again.
Be patient.
Patience doesn’t mean ignoring the behavior—it means picking the right moment to address it. When a child is dysregulated, their thinking brain goes offline. Giving them a chance to settle first helps bring that part of the brain back online—so they can hear you.
Quote 7: Few adults are comfortable in the presence of a child’s anger. We see it as disrespectful, embarrassing, or threatening. That’s a problem because these outbursts are often nested in worry, confusion, loneliness, anxiety, jealousy, or insecurity. What would happen if we trained ourselves to see children’s anger as an invitation to get curious? What if we practiced stepping toward our kids rather than sending them away until they’ve pulled themselves together? – Deborah Farmer Kris
Big feelings in kids tend to stir up big reactions in adults. But attachment research tells us that when children are dysregulated, they don’t need space from us—they need space with us. Step in, not back.
Your calm presence shows them that emotions aren’t something to be ashamed of—and that they don’t have to face them alone.
Quote 8: When we try to talk kids out of their emotions, they feel like we don’t understand. So their anxiety will then “fight” to be heard. – Unknown
Telling kids to “calm down” or “don’t worry” can feel invalidating—even if we mean well. What they hear is, “You’re overreacting.” When kids don’t feel heard, their anxiety gets louder.
A simple “That sounds really hard” can go a long way in helping them settle. Emotional validation helps the brain feel safe, which is a prerequisite for problem-solving.
Quote 9: If you punish a child for what was actually a stress-induced behavior, all you’ll do is add to the child’s stress load and your own. – Dr. Stuart Shanker
If a child could do better in a challenging moment, they would. Behaviors driven by stress or fear aren’t calculated—they’re reactive. Responding with punishment often makes it worse. What helps is recognizing the signal and responding with regulation. This approach doesn’t remove accountability—it creates a pathway to it.
Quote 10: Children never choose the meltdown or any anxiety-related behavior in the same way that you never choose to have a meltdown in front of your family, colleagues, or friends. A meltdown is not a choice; it’s a byproduct of a brain that isn’t coping with something. And that brain needs to be showered in love, compassion, and safety. Not punishment, fear, or shame. – Allison Davies
No one wants to lose control—not kids, not adults. When a child is melting down, their system is overwhelmed. What they need is an anchor. Someone calm. Someone steady. Someone who reminds them that they’re still safe. The goal is to co-regulate first—only then can reflection and repair happen.
Quote 11: Rhythm and ritual decrease the unknown in a child’s day, which soothes the nervous system and results in fewer meltdowns and less hard-to-navigate behaviors. – Inspired by @raisinghumankind
Kids thrive on knowing what’s next. Ever notice how a breakdown is more likely when plans change at the last minute or routines get skipped?
This is why rituals and routines—like a morning goodbye hug or a nightly story—aren’t just nice traditions. They help calm the body and create the sense of safety anxious kids need to function well.
Quote 12: During high-stress moments or those of transition, provide kids with as much certainty and control as possible to reduce anxiety and increase their ability to cope emotionally. – Unknown
Transitions are fertile ground for anxiety. Offering small choices—what to wear, what book to bring—restores a child’s sense of control. When kids feel like they have a say, their stress load drops. And when they feel prepared, they feel safer.
Quote 13: Feeling out of control as a child creates a need to control as an adult. – @breakthecycle_coaching
When a child grows up in chaos—never sure what mood the adults will be in, or whether they’ll be praised or punished for the same behavior—they learn to brace themselves. Their nervous system stays on high alert, always scanning for what might go wrong. Over time, that constant tension can show up as anxiety, hypervigilance, and a deep need to control the world around them—because control feels like safety.
But here’s the powerful part: when we give kids voice and choice—when we let them feel heard and offer safe, predictable care—we help their nervous systems learn that not everything has to be a threat. We teach them that the world can be safe, and they do get a say.
Quote 14: People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty. – Virginia Satir
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy teaches us something important about anxiety: it feeds on unpredictability. When things feel uncertain or out of control, anxiety ramps up. That’s why kids often cling to what’s familiar—even if it isn’t working. The known feels safer than the unknown.
Virginia Satir’s words above couldn’t be more true for anxious kids. That’s why they may resist change, avoid new situations, or freeze when things feel uncertain. It’s not about defiance—it’s about survival.
The work isn’t to force them out of their comfort zone. It’s to stretch it gently. When we help kids tolerate discomfort—rather than avoid it—we expand their window of tolerance and help them build confidence.
Over time, they learn they can do hard things. And that’s when anxiety starts to loosen its grip.
Quote 15: If we allow kids to avoid the things they fear, they’ll enjoy the short-term relief of staying close to home and the long-term problem of continuing to feel fearful. – Dr. Lisa Damour
Avoidance brings relief—but only for a moment. Long-term, it feeds the fear. Supporting kids in facing fear in small steps helps them realize they’re more capable than they think.
Bravery isn’t fearlessness—it’s fear walked through. And every step builds the belief: “I can do hard things.”
Quote 16: If we want to help our children manage anxiety, we need to celebrate their bravery, not just their success. -Krysten Taprell
A child might not finish the race—but for some, showing up at the starting line takes everything. When we celebrate courage, not just outcomes, we reinforce what matters most: effort, resilience, and the belief that trying again is always worth it.
Highlight the process, not just the performance.
Quote 17: Feeling capable is a natural antidote to anxiety and depression in children and teens. – @drnicolebeurkens
Research on self-efficacy tells us that confidence is built through doing. Kids don’t need to be rescued from struggle—they need support while they move through it. The more capable they feel, the quieter their anxiety becomes.
In April, our YBGR Butte team came together to mark a pivotal moment—celebrating the rebranding of their Community Office and two legacies now serving under one roof.
In a simple ceremony, we laid the old Youth Dynamics signage to rest—paying respect to the decades of care, connection, and hard work that built the foundation we stand on today at 775 W Gold Street.
YBGR Butte Honors Decades of Service
For years, 775 W Gold Street has been a steady presence for kids and families. Generations have walked through these doors—seeking support, finding connection, and building hope.
What we celebrated was not the beginning but the continuation of that work—stronger, together, and reaching more youth and families than ever before.
The work started here is part of a much larger story—one still being written through every youth we serve and every family we support.
Expanding Our Reach Across Silver Bow County and Beyond
Today, our reach is more expansive, and our roots are deeper. From the Ranch to group homes to community-based services, our teams stand with kids at every step—building resilience, delivering hope, and creating strong foundations for the future.
We’re grateful to every team member who makes this work possible. Together, we’re making an impact that will ripple through future generations of children and families.
Does your child wrestle with fearful or anxious feelings? If so, they’re not alone! Anxiety is common. In fact, it’s one of the most frequent mental health issues children face.
Here are some signs of anxiety in children to look out for:
Do any of the signs above sound familiar? If so, we want to help! Here are a few tips on coaching your child through anxious feelings.
How to Help Kids with Anxiety
Tip #1: Relax their environment
Anxiety is a powerful emotion, and kids who grapple with it can easily get overwhelmed. One of the best things you can do when your child is feeling anxious is to reduce sensory stimulation, activity commitments, and pressure on their performance.
So, how does labeling emotions work? When kids name their feelings, it reduces the physiological stress response and shame attached to them. It also normalizes the human experience and helps them develop a healthy EQ.
Tip #3: Coach them to be brave
The only way to overcome fear is to face it. If we consistently run away from what makes us anxious, our anxiety only grows.
Support your child in confronting their fears, but make sure to move at a pace that feels comfortable and remind them – “You can do hard things.”
Tip #4: Reach out for support
Is your child struggling? If so, we’re here to help! With everything from therapy to in-home caregiver support and more, we provide services tailored to the unique needs of each child we serve designed to empower families in treatment.
Did you know that April is Strengthening Families Month? It’s a reminder that building a strong, resilient tomorrow starts with investing in families today.
At YBGR, strengthening families is at the heart of everything we do. Every service we offer—whether it’s delivered in the community, our group homes, or at the Ranch—is designed to strengthen connections, build resilience, and equip kids and caregivers with the tools they need to thrive.
Last year, we showed up for more than 3,600 youth and their families—delivering critical care that touched lives across nearly every corner of Montana. Behind each number is a story of hope, healing, and strength—the result of a community rallying around kids and families when it matters most.
Every connection we build today creates a stronger foundation for tomorrow. When kids have stable relationships, practical skills, and caring support systems, they’re better prepared to navigate challenges, achieve their goals, and contribute to stronger communities.
How We Strengthen Families Across Montana
From crisis intervention to ongoing skill-building and beyond, our continuum of care is built to meet families where they are—walking alongside them every step of the way.
Whether we’re supporting a family through a challenging time or helping kids develop skills that last a lifetime, the focus stays the same: strengthening families to strengthen futures.
Our teams work in homes, schools, and communities across Montana, delivering care that helps families stay connected, build resilience, and move forward with confidence.
Earlier this month, our Butte community-based services crew brought Easter to life for the youth and families they serve.
The team organized egg hunts at the park, hosted crafts and games at the office, and even made hand-dyed eggs—courtesy of Madelin Speer, Targeted Case Manager, and her chickens. Our kids spent the day laughing, creating, and connecting with each other and the caring adults around them.
Simple moments like these leave a real impact. They build positive memories, strengthen trust, and remind kids they are seen and valued.
Celebrating Connection and Community
In Butte, our team creates spaces where youth feel connected, supported, and seen.
Activities like these give kids a chance to experience joy, connection, and moments of celebration. They strengthen trust, build resilience, and help youth keep moving forward with confidence.
Beyond the holidays, our Butte community-based services team works daily to strengthen families, build skills, and support youth in staying connected to the people and communities that matter most.
Thank You to Our Butte Community-Based Services Team
We’re grateful to our Butte team for bringing heart, joy, and connection to the kids and families we serve. No doubt, their care and commitment makes a difference.
Feeling the pressure to be a perfect parent? Mindful parenting offers a better path—one grounded in research showing that practicing presence, connection, and emotional awareness can lower family stress, strengthen parent-child bonds, and support healthy emotional development.
At its core, mindful parenting means bringing intentional, nonjudgmental awareness to your interactions with your child—staying open, present, and compassionate, even when things get tough. It’s not about perfection. It’s about embracing imperfection, navigating difficult emotions, and choosing to respond with intention instead of reacting on autopilot.
Practicing mindfulness deepens your bond with your children—and strengthens every relationship in your life.
7 Ways to Practice Mindful Parenting
Here are seven ways to bring mindfulness into your parenting—and beyond.
Make space for your emotions.
You’ve likely heard the phrase, “what we resist persists”—and it’s true. Emotions that we push away tend to grow stronger.
Mindful parenting starts with allowing yourself to sit with your feelings without judgment. When big emotions surface, take a moment to pause, name what you’re feeling, and move through it with compassion.
The more we make space for our own emotions, the more space we create for others’ too.
Practice acceptance.
Life isn’t perfect. Some days you’ll burn dinner, your kids will act out, and everything will feel off track. Mindful parenting is about releasing the illusion of control and meeting each moment as it is—not as you wish it would be.
Practicing acceptance with your kids builds your muscle to practice it with partners, friends, and coworkers too.
Stay flexible.
Plans fall apart. Routines get disrupted. Kids—and adults—struggle with change. Mindful parenting invites you to stay flexible, pausing before reacting and responding thoughtfully instead.
Flexibility not only eases conflict with kids—it makes all your relationships more resilient.
Lead with compassion.
When kids are hungry, tired, or overwhelmed, their behavior often spirals. Instead of focusing only on the behavior, mindful parenting invites us to look beneath it—to the need underneath. Compassion doesn’t eliminate boundaries; it makes them more human.
In every relationship, compassion opens doors that criticism never can.
Forgive often.
Parenting offers daily lessons in forgiveness—for yourself and for your children. Mindful parenting reminds us that mistakes aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to repair and reconnect.
Learning to forgive in small moments with your child lays the groundwork for deeper forgiveness with everyone in your life.
Practice gratitude.
Mindfulness and gratitude go hand in hand. When you intentionally notice the good—the moments of laughter, connection, and growth—you nurture a mindset of joy and abundance.
Gratitude naturally spills into how you show up with everyone, from your family to your community.
Stay present.
The past is behind you, and the future isn’t guaranteed. All you truly have is this moment.
Mindful parenting is about showing up fully—whether you’re reading a bedtime story, cooking dinner together, or simply listening.
Presence transforms relationships, creating the trust and connection we all crave.
Who said raising teens was easy? I don’t know about you, but I always thought things would get easier as my kids got older. But once they reached puberty, parenting became a whole new playing field.
Raising teens means your people skills need to be on point. Empathy, mindful communications, patience—all are essential for guiding your soon-to-be adult.
Below are twelve quotes on raising teens.
12 Quotes to Guide You in Raising Teens
#1: Don’t ever pass over an opportunity for connection with your teen.
Quote: No matter what kind of day you had today, if your teen comes to you and wants to talk or hang out, drop everything and do it. Don’t miss a golden opportunity to connect on their terms. – Raising Teens Today
#2: Let your teen talk and really listen.
Quote: Take the time to listen to your teenager, no matter how emotional or ridiculous their statements sound to you. When someone doesn’t feel valued or heard, their desire to participate in a relationship disappears. – Parenting Teens & Tweens
#3: Sometimes, your teen doesn’t want you to fix anything. They just want to be heard.
Quote: Sometimes, when our teens open up to us, they are not looking for us to fix their problems. They are just looking for a safe place to share their pain. – Parenting Tweens & Teens
#4: Don’t meet your teen’s aggression with aggression. Squash it with good communication, empathy, and kindness.
Quote: The louder your teen gets, the quieter you should be. The angrier your teen becomes, the gentler you should become. The meaner your teen behaves, the kinder you should be. – Eva Rito
#5: Read between the lines and look for the communication behind the behavior.
Quote: I knew I was finally becoming the kind of parent my teen needed when I stopped taking everything they said personally and started becoming compassionately curious about what they were really trying to communicate. – Raising Teens Today
#6: Sometimes, natural consequences are the best teacher. No lectures are needed.
Quote: When my child has made a poor decision that has led to a painful lesson, the last thing they need is a side of belittlement and condescension from me. – Raising Teens Today
#7: Your teen will learn to navigate relationships based on the one they have with you. Teach them healthy conflict resolution skills.
Quote: Setting an example for healthy conflict resolution skills and modeling forgiveness is better than never having conflict. – Inspired by Sarah Boyd
#8: Your teen needs unconditional love and acceptance.
Quote: Most teens need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice. – Bob Goff
#9: Help them develop a healthy sense of confidence.
Quote: Nothing can shake our teen’s confidence more than being fed the notion that something’s wrong with them simply because they don’t measure up in our eyes. – Raising Teens Today
#10: EQ is critical! Foster it in your teen! Studies show that emotional intelligence is one of the single most significant contributing factors to success in adulthood.
Quote: If a child can do advanced math, speak three languages, and receive top grades, but can’t manage their emotions, practice conflict resolution, or handle stress—no amount of education is going to matter. – Unknown
#11: Mistakes are part of the learning process. Don’t make your teen’s acceptance conditional on achievement.
Quote: Children who are too obsessed with perfection can become hard on themselves, have unreachable expectations, and avoid challenges. Work with them to develop a healthier attitude about achievement. – Benjamin Mizrahi
#12: Your teen needs to know that nothing will make you love them anymore or less.
Quote: Teenagers long to know that there’s nothing they can do to make us love them more, and there’s nothing they can do to make us love them less. – Mark Gregston
We were proud to sponsor Pheasants Forever this year—supporting wildlife conservation and youth development in a truly hands-on way. As part of our partnership, we donated 50 pheasants raised with care by students at Yellowstone Academy at the Ranch through our Vocational Agriculture (Voc-Ag) program.
Building Responsibility & Life Skills Through Voc-Ag
At the Ranch, our Voc-Ag program gives youth the opportunity to raise pheasants from egg to maturity. With support from staff, students learn how to care for the birds throughout every stage of life—feeding, monitoring, and preparing them for release into the wild. Along the way, they build responsibility, confidence, and life skills that will serve them far beyond the classroom.
This hands-on experience also fosters a deep connection to the natural world and instills a lasting sense of pride in giving back—both to their community and to Montana’s wild places.
Partnering with Pheasants Forever to Support Conservation in Montana
Partnering with Pheasants Forever reflects our commitment to service, stewardship, and creating opportunities for youth to build skills for life. The organization plays a vital role in preserving wildlife habitats, promoting outdoor education, and ensuring that future generations of Montanans can experience the outdoors.
By contributing student-raised pheasants, we’re not only supporting local conservation efforts—we’re empowering youth through meaningful, real-world learning that benefits both people and the land.
It’s an honor to support Pheasants Forever’s mission while helping our students grow, give back, and make a lasting impact.
Let’s be real—parenting can feel overwhelming. With advice coming from every direction, it’s easy to get lost in the noise. When things feel especially tough, these positive parenting keys will help you refocus on what truly matters: connection, calm, and collaboration.
Below are three strategies that can bring clarity and intention back to your parenting—even on the hard days.
3 Positive Parenting Keys
🗝️ Relationship Comes First
Rules and structure matter—but without relationship, they often fall flat. When kids feel emotionally connected and seen, they’re more likely to cooperate and trust your guidance. If that connection breaks down, you’ll often see it show up in their behavior.
Try this: Slow down. Listen without jumping to fix. Make time for small moments of connection. When your relationship is strong, everything else becomes easier.
🗝️ Co-Regulate to Calm Emotions
Big emotions are contagious—and so is calm. Kids don’t learn to regulate their emotions on their own. First, they borrow our calm presence until they’re able to build that skill for themselves.
Try this: Take a deep breath together. Get down on their level. Offer your steady presence. This kind of co-regulation is a core piece of positive parenting and helps build emotional strength—for both of you.
🗝️ Work Through Solutions Together
Is your child facing something challenging? Work through it with them, not for them. This teaches problem-solving, encourages trust, and builds their confidence over time.
Try this: Ask, “What do you think we can do about this?” Collaborating like this supports kids in building skills for life and can turn moments of conflict into connection—helping kids feel capable and seen.
Keep the Keys Close
You don’t need to have all the answers. On the hard days, come back to these three positive parenting keys:
🗝️ Build connection 🗝️ Co-regulate emotions 🗝️ Solve problems side by side
Let go of perfection—and stay focused on what matters most.
This free event is especially designed for leaders and members of faith communities—but is open to all. Join us for a powerful morning with keynote speaker Tony Cloud, a nationally recognized trainer and former social services professional, as he shares insight on:
What the Bible says about mental health
Common myths and misunderstandings
How to recognize and respond when someone is struggling
Plus, connect with local faith-based and community service providers at our resource fair.
Here are the details:
When:
Thursday, May 8th, from 9:30am – 1:00pm
Where:
Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch Chapel 1732 South 72nd Street West Billings, MT 59106
Event Schedule:
🕗 8:00am – Event & Resource Exhibit Set Up 🕤 9:30am – Resource Exhibits Open 🕙 10:00am –11:30am – Keynote Presentation: Safe Sacred Spaces 🕦 11:30am – 12:30pm – Resource Exhibits Open 🕐 1:00pm – Event Close
Want to Attend?
Reserve your spot by emailing HHSOFCBS@mt.gov.
Interested in Tabling?
Faith-based & community service providers can reserve free exhibit space. Email info@tonycloudcommunications.com to get a spot.
What a match! April 2nd marked the end of volleyball season at the Ranch, and our youth wrapped it up in style—with a spirited game against staff. In a close and exciting match, the staff team edged out a win with a final score of 25–21.
More Than Just a Volleyball Game
While the scoreboard showed a staff victory, the real wins this season came to the kids through the lessons learned on the court. Throughout the season, our youth practiced teamwork, communication, strategy, and perseverance—skills that extend far beyond the game.
From learning to collaborate with peers to encouraging each other through challenges, our volleyball season offered more than just physical activity. It created space for connection, growth, and a whole lot of fun.
We’re incredibly proud of the heart, hustle, and positive spirit our youth brought to every practice and game. And we’re grateful to the staff who stepped up—not just for the final match, but for encouraging and supporting the kids all season long.
🏐 Here’s to a season full of memories, movement, and moments that matter.
In today’s world, caregiver burnout is more common than ever—especially for those juggling parenting, work, and the endless demands of life. Whether you’re a stay-at-home parent or balancing a full-time career with caregiving responsibilities, the emotional and physical toll adds up fast.
In fact, an article by Investopedia reports that stay-at-home parents work an average of 98 hours per week—and for working caregivers, that number only increases.
Without a strategy to manage stress and prevent caregiver burnout, it’s easy to run on empty. Here are six practical tips to help you recharge, protect your well-being, and bring your best self to those who depend on you.
Tips to Combat Caregiver Burnout
Connect with others.
Social support is a must for parents! Studies show that when caregivers are connected and have an open dialogue on stress and burnout, it serves as a buffer against it. So, carve out time for friends, family, and build a tribe you can lean on.
Re-evaluate your stress.
Mindset is a critical component of navigating stress. The truth is, how we look at our circumstances directly affects how they impact us. So, explore areas of your life that make you grateful. And if you’re confronting parenting challenges, ask yourself, “How can I use these as opportunities to grow?”
Make small changes.
Do you feel trapped by your parenting responsibilities? If so, make small changes to help you manage stress over the long haul. For example, try delegating tasks among family members, cutting down on commitments, or scheduling carpools with other parents.
Let go of perfectionism.
No one’s perfect. And when we shoot for such an unrealistic mark, we put unnecessary pressure on ourselves—creating stress and fostering feelings of shame when we don’t live up to our expectations.
So, drop the “should” statements and swap them for “it would be great if I had more energy to…” instead. Reframing like this will help you deal with your current reality rather than what you think it should be.
Take microbreaks.
Self-care is a critical component of managing stress and burnout recovery. Yet, being a caregiver is a full-time job, so taking long breaks or vacations for yourself isn’t always realistic. But you can take tiny moments throughout your day.
Try sitting in your car to listen to a guided meditation after grocery shopping or going into the bathroom for five minutes to practice deep breathing to enhance your resilience.
Find meaning.
Has stress brought you to the point of detachment? If so, take the time to re-explore and connect to your values.
What are the meaningful aspects of parenting? Don’t get lost in the drudgery of your role. Instead, dive deep, and don’t forget the purpose behind your work.
YBGR Shelby recently joined Logan Health’s CycleMT fundraiser, rallying behind a powerful cause: raising funds for Montana children facing serious medical hardships.
The high-energy stationary bike relay brought community members together to support youth across the state—kids whose needs aren’t fully met by traditional funding sources.
YBGR Shelby in Action for Montana Kids
For YBGR Shelby, CycleMT was more than just a fun competition—it was a mission in motion. Funds raised during the event directly support children and families facing the overwhelming costs of medical care, including travel, lodging, and other essentials. These efforts ensure more Montana kids have access to the resources they need to stay healthy.
Events like this create a ripple effect of hope and healing, and we’re proud that our team showed up, heart and soul, to be part of it.
Living the Mission—At Work and Beyond
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR), our commitment to kids doesn’t end when the workday does. We believe in living the mission—at work and beyond—and that means stepping up for our communities in meaningful ways, like volunteering time and energy to causes that align with our values.
Our Shelby team’s participation in CycleMT reflects that spirit of service. It’s a powerful reminder that the same values guiding our work with youth extend into every corner of our lives. We’re proud to support efforts that make Montana a better place for children and families, one ride at a time.
Thank you, Logan Health, for leading the charge. We’re honored to ride alongside you for a cause that matters.
Got grit? By grit, I mean the stubborn refusal to quit: the mindset—the mental fortitude to navigate even the most challenging circumstances.
The truth is that the discipline and attitude we bring into each day are critical—they determine our ability to succeed in our endeavors, resilience in the face of adversity, and even play a key role in our mental health.
So, what exactly is grit? It’s a unique blend of passion and perseverance. Below are eighteen quotes illustrating the path to being gritty.
18 Quotes Exploring Grit
Quote 1: At its core, the idea of purpose is the idea that what we do matters to people other than ourselves. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 2: Purpose is the reason you journey. Passion is the fire that lights the way. – Anonymous
Quote 3: Passion begins with intrinsically enjoying what you do. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 4: Our potential is one thing. What we do with it is quite another. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 5: As much as talent counts, effort counts twice. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 6: Without effort, your skill is nothing more than what you could have done but didn’t. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 7: The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is: I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be outworked, period. You might have more talent than me. You might be smarter than me. You might be more attractive than me. You might be all of those things; you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on a treadmill together, there are two things: You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple. – Inspired by Will Smith
Quote 8: It was passion and perseverance that made high achievers special. In a word, they had grit. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 9: It soon became clear that doing one thing better and better might be more satisfying than staying an amateur at many different things. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 10: Life is more about consistency than about intensity. Intensity steals the limelight. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 11: Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day-in, day-out. Not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years. And working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 12: Grit is having the courage to push through, no matter what the obstacles are, because it’s worth it. – Chris Morris
Quote 13: To be gritty is to keep putting one foot in front of the other. To be gritty is to hold fast to an interesting and purposeful goal. To be gritty is to invest, day after week after year, in challenging practice. To be gritty is to fall down seven times and rise eight. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 14: Grit is choosing to hang on when you desperately want to let go. – Anonymous
Quote 15: Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you thought you could not. – Rikki Rogers
Quote 16: True grit is making a decision and standing by it, doing what must be done. No moral man can have peace of mind if he leaves undone what he knows he should have done. – John Wayne
Quote 17: Use mistakes and problems as opportunities to get better — not reasons to quit. – Angela Duckworth
Quote 18: Grit is about having what researchers call an “ultimate concern,” a goal you care about so much that it organizes and gives meaning to almost everything you do. And grit is holding steadfast to that goal even when you fall down. – Angela Duckworth
Curious to dive deeper into the science behind grit?
Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance is a must-read. It’s packed with powerful research, real-life stories, and practical insights on how grit shapes success—not just for adults, but for kids too. Highly recommended for anyone passionate about personal growth and resilience.
Are you familiar with labeling theory? Sociology buffs probably are. It proposes that people come to both identify and behave in ways reflecting the labels we place on them— Essentially, how we label people impacts their behavior.
The theory helps explain changes often occurring in individuals diagnosed with mental health conditions—suggesting cultural ideas associated with mental illness become personally relevant for those struggling.
Labels, and the stigma associated with them, lead to internalized negative self-beliefs, resulting in secrecy around diagnosis, reluctance to seek treatment, and social withdrawal.
Diagnosis is frequently necessary for kids to access treatment. But that label need not define them.
Instead, there’s a more robust approach. Everyone has a unique set of strengths that, when illuminated, helps them shine!
A Different Perspective—Focus on Strengths!
Want to know the secret to engaging kids and families in behavioral health services? It starts with focusing on strengths! Studies show positive outcomes happen when we build on competencies instead of concentrating on deficits.
Below are nine guiding principles of a strength-based approach:
Shining a Light on Strengths! How to Leverage a Strength-Based Approach
Interested in learning more about how you can use a strength-based approach to drive excellent outcomes in your work with kids? Check out the tips below!
#1: Emphasize positive outcomes
Focus on positive and healthy treatment outcomes for kids, such as self-confidence, connectedness, and healthy relationships with their family, friends, and community.
And don’t forget to highlight positive traits like strong character or being caring and compassionate.
#2: Involve kids in decision-making
Kids and caregivers should be able to voice their opinions and reason through decisions with their mental health providers.
#3: Emphasize collaboration
Echoing the previous recommendation, give kids every opportunity to collaborate regarding their treatment! To engage kids in their strengths, they need to feel empowered and supported.
#4: Provide stability
Long-term involvement builds trust and helps children understand how to develop and maintain supportive relationships. Avoid frequent treatment team member changes and discontinuing support services before kids are ready.
#5: Connect kids to their community
Make sure kids have lots of opportunities for community involvement. Link them to local committees, school activities, youth groups—whatever lights their fire and keeps them connected!
Below are seventeen quotes on childhood trauma and the journey to healing.
Quotes on Childhood Trauma & Healing
Quote 1: Childhood trauma doesn’t come in one single package. – Dr. Asa Don Brown
Quote 2: Behavior is the language of trauma. Children will show you before they tell you that they are in distress. – Micere Keels
Quote 3: Nine times out of ten, the story behind the misbehavior won’t make you angry; it will break your heart. – Annette Breaux
Quote 4: Children don’t get traumatized because they are hurt. They get traumatized because they’re alone with the hurt. – Dr. Gabor Mate
Quote 5: Students with childhood trauma don’t have faulty brains. They have minds designed in threatening environments to help them survive. – Inspired by Peggy Leigh
Quote 6: Repeated childhood trauma causes a child to live in a constant state of hypervigilance, always alert to impending perceived danger. – Unknown
Quote 7: Kids with trauma history don’t need more punishment. And quite frankly, they don’t need more stickers. – Dr. Ross Greene
Quote 8: A child who has experienced trauma will sometimes show they feel connected to an attachment figure by releasing all their big emotions in their presence. What may appear as disconnection may actually be a sign of trust. – J. Milburn
Quote 9: People raised on love see things differently than those raised on survival. – Joy Marino
Quote 10: Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That’s why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people. – Ryan North
Quote 11: Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory. – Bessel Van Der Kolk
Quote 12: A trigger is anything that sets you off emotionally and activates memories of your trauma. It’s particular to you and what your experience has been. Triggered, we revert to the feelings and behaviors we had in the traumatizing situation. – @healingfromtrauma
Quote 13: As traumatized children, we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed that it would, in fact, be ourselves as adults. – Alice Little
Quote 14: When it feels disheartening to learn that trauma changes the brain, remember that healing changes the brain, too. – @howhumansheal
Quote 15: Trauma is a result of an overwhelming sense of danger, powerlessness, and fear. Healing is a result of feeling safe, empowered, and supported. – Unknown
Quote 16: People start to heal the moment they feel heard. – Cheryl Richardson
Quote 17: There’s a saying that goes, “Hurt people will hurt people.” But I rarely hear the opposite, “Healed people heal people.” Get healed. Then, go heal. – Unknown
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR), we’re committed to meeting kids where they are—and for many, that means providing support right inside their schools. Through partnerships with 24 school districts across Montana, YBGR delivers school-based mental health services that help students stay engaged, build resilience, and thrive both in and out of the classroom.
What Are School-Based Mental Health Services?
School-based mental health services integrate therapeutic support into the daily school experience. Led by therapists, our teams of behavior specialists work directly in classrooms to deliver targeted interventions and counseling tailored to each child’s needs.
Support doesn’t end at the school doors—our services extend into homes and communities, creating wraparound care that provides stability and consistency for youth and families alike. This model keeps kids in school, reduces disruptions, and builds strong foundations for emotional and academic success.
A Statewide Effort to Support Students in Schools
From small rural communities to more populated school districts, YBGR’s school-based teams are making a meaningful difference across the state. These caring professionals play a vital role in early intervention, helping students navigate challenges before they escalate.
To our school-based community care teams: thank you. Your compassion, skill, and dedication are empowering Montana kids with the tools they need for life.
Below are twenty-one quotes illustrating how to raise kids with grit.
Quotes on Raising Kids with Grit
Quote 1: My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived and let me watch him do it. – Clarence Budington Kelland
Kids don’t learn grit through lectures—they learn it by watching how you respond to challenges. If they see you keep going when things get tough, they learn that perseverance is normal—not something special or rare. They model their mindset after yours.
Quote 2: The attitude you have as a parent is what your kids will learn. They don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember who you are. – Inspired by Jim Henson
You don’t need the perfect words. Your tone, your reactions, your effort—all of that teaches your kids how to handle life. If you stay calm during stress or keep trying after a failure, your kids pick up on that. Grit is caught, not taught.
Quote 3: Children have this way of becoming who we tell them they are. If we tell them they are strong, they become strong. If we tell them they are kind, they become kind. If we tell them they are capable, they become capable. Speak life into your kids, so they will have what it takes to tackle their own life one day. – Amy Weatherly
A child’s sense of identity forms early, and it shapes what they believe they can handle. If you consistently speak strength and capability into them, they begin to believe they can face difficulty. Kids who see themselves as capable are more likely to persist through setbacks.
Quote 4: My teacher once told me, “You’re going to do big things.” It made me feel 10 feet tall. I’ve remembered his words during the darkest lows and the highest highs. I always knew he believed in me—and that helped me believe in myself. Never underestimate the power of words. – Leslie Means
Encouragement doesn’t just boost confidence—it builds a child’s narrative about who they are. One meaningful comment can echo in a child’s mind for years, especially during hard times. That belief becomes a foundation for grit.
Quote 5: Don’t tell your kids, “I’m proud of you,” tell them, “You should be proud of yourself.” – Kristen Welch
If a child only works for adult approval, they’ll stop trying when no one’s watching. But if they learn to feel pride in their own effort, they develop the inner motivation that keeps them going—even when it’s hard and no one’s clapping.
Quote 6: Don’t waste a lot of time and money pushing kids in directions they don’t want to go. Instead, find out what weirdness they excel at and encourage them to do that. Then get out of the way. – Seth Godin
Passion drives perseverance. When kids are forced down a path that doesn’t fit, they resist. But if they’re encouraged to pursue what they love, they’ll stick with it through struggle. Grit is more likely to grow where there’s natural interest.
Quote 7: Instead of focusing on making your child’s life easier, help them recognize they are capable of handling hard things. – @dr.siggie
It’s natural to want to protect your child from struggle, but doing so sends the message they can’t handle it. When kids are trusted to face hard things—with your support—they learn to believe in their own strength, which builds resilience.
Quote 8: Self-esteem can’t be given or received. It’s developed through a sense of capability and the self-confidence gained from dealing with disappointments, solving problems, and having lots of opportunities to learn from mistakes. – Inspired by Jane Nelson
Real confidence doesn’t come from praise—it comes from doing. Each time a child faces something hard, learns from a mistake, or bounces back from disappointment, they gain proof they can handle life. That’s how grit and self-esteem grow.
Quote 9: If we’re not preparing our kids for the small challenges while they are young, how will they ever be prepared for the larger challenges and losses we all face as adults? – Brandon & Pace Verner
Struggles in childhood aren’t just bumps in the road—they’re training grounds. When kids are allowed to work through minor issues now, they build the emotional muscles they’ll need to handle bigger ones later. Grit grows in layers.
Quote 10: If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach them to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves to praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence. – Carol Dweck
Kids who are obsessed with praise often avoid challenges—because failure feels like the end. But if we teach them that effort matters most, they’ll start to value learning over looking good. That shift is at the heart of grit.
Quote 11: By loving them for more than their abilities, we show our children that they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments. – Eileen Kennedy-Moore
When kids feel valued only for their accomplishments, failure becomes terrifying. But if they know they’re loved no matter what, they’re more likely to take risks, try again, and keep growing. That emotional safety is key to building grit.
Quote 12: When we give them permission to fail, we give them permission to be brave. – Karen Young
Kids can’t be brave if they’re afraid of disappointing you. But when you normalize failure, you give them the freedom to take risks. Grit isn’t about never falling—it’s about learning to get back up without shame.
Quote 13: When we shield children from failure or choreograph success for them, we’re distorting the experiences they need in order to grow. – Madeline Levine, Ph.D.
Struggle is how kids develop coping skills. When we step in too often, we deny them the practice they need to manage stress, problem-solve, and build confidence. Protecting them from all hardship actually makes them more fragile.
Quote 14: Let them fail. Life is not always going to be kind, and they won’t always reach their goals or achieve what they want but learning how to deal with these failures is a critical life lesson. They have to develop the internal drive and grit to not let these setbacks permanently undermine them. When they fail but then dust themselves off and get back up to face their next challenge, it helps them recognize their own strength and resilience. – Parenting Teens & Tweens
Failure teaches grit, but only if kids experience it firsthand. When they learn they can survive disappointment, it builds strength and a sense of control. Each time they rise again, they become more resilient.
Quote 15: Teach your kids that: Success is not final; failure is not fatal; it’s the courage to continue that counts. – Winston A. Churchill
Grit isn’t about one big win—it’s about staying the course. Kids need to know that setbacks don’t define them and success isn’t a finish line. What really matters is showing up again tomorrow.
Quote 16: Got a 2.4 GPA my first semester in college. Thought maybe I wasn’t cut out for engineering. Today, I’ve landed two spacecrafts on Mars and am designing one for the moon. STEM is hard for everyone. Grades ultimately aren’t what matters. Curiosity and persistence matter. – Ben Cichy
Early struggles don’t mean kids aren’t cut out for something. Grit means sticking with a goal despite early failure. What predicts long-term success isn’t talent—it’s determination and a willingness to keep learning.
Quote 17: It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings. – Ann Landers
Doing things for your child might help today—but teaching them to do it themselves builds long-term grit. Kids feel more capable when they can take ownership of their world, one step at a time.
Quote 18: Most of us will perform best at any job or role when we are entrusted with it rather than over-managed, doubted, or nit-picked. Children are no different. – Janet Lansbury
Micromanagement signals, “I don’t trust you.” Autonomy says, “You’ve got this.” Grit flourishes when kids are trusted to try, fail, and try again—without fear of being constantly corrected or doubted.
Quote 19: Raise your kids with the strength to know what they stand for, yet the humility to listen, learn, and grow. – Unknown
Grit doesn’t mean being stubborn. It means knowing when to stand firm and when to learn something new. Kids need both courage and curiosity to grow into strong, adaptable adults.
Quote 20: Strong-willed kids become adults who change the world as long as we can hang on for the ride and resist the temptation to “tame” the spirit out of them. – Unknown
That intensity you see in your child? It’s not a flaw—it’s fuel. Gritty kids often start as spirited ones. The key is helping them channel that energy, not squash it.
Quote 21: If I get one thing right in this parenting gig, I want my children to understand how their actions impact others. I want them to always think about what they can offer the world instead of what they can get from it. And I hope they always remember they are a part of something bigger than themselves. – Whitney Fleming
Purpose gives grit its direction. When kids believe they matter—that their actions affect others—they’re more likely to keep going, even when life gets hard. It’s not just about achieving. It’s about contributing.
Today, six months later, we’re not just marking a milestone—we’re seeing real momentum and measurable impact.
That goal isn’t just taking root. It’s reshaping how care reaches kids across Montana.
Before joining forces, YDI and YBGR each served around 2,000 kids a year. Today, together, we’re reaching that many every day.
Integrated Care in Action
Here’s what we’ve accomplished since Youth Dynamics joined the YBGR team:
Expanded Access and Increased Capacity
The majority of our therapeutic group homes are now at full capacity, with efforts underway to reopen additional locations across Montana. This growth allows more youth to receive care closer to home in an environment that bridges higher levels of treatment and community-based support.
Integrated care is reducing delays and strengthening transitions between different levels of service. In our second month as a unified organization, nearly 800 youth entered care under YBGR—a milestone made possible by shared systems, strong collaboration, and the combined strengths of both teams.
Youth now move more seamlessly through the continuum—from case management to group homes to residential treatment—receiving timely, connected support with fewer disruptions.
Increased Responsiveness
Our ability to respond to shifting needs has increased significantly with aligned teams and shared systems. Integrated care allows us to move quickly and deliver the right care at the right time.
When 13-year-old Jason’s needs escalated last fall, that responsiveness made all the difference. After transitioning from residential care at the Ranch to a previous Youth Dynamics group home, it became clear he needed more support.
In the past, moving him to a higher level of care could have taken weeks—time he didn’t have. But one call from Program Manager Jennifer Hawks was all it took to get him the help he needed—without hospitalization or disruption.
“Unifying as one provider allowed us to act fast and provide the care Jason needed when he needed it most.”— Jennifer Hawks, Group Home Program Manager
Across Montana—from Billings to Boulder, Glendive to Great Falls, Malta, Colstrip, and beyond—youth are getting help faster, more consistently, and in environment built for healing.
“With the addition of YDI into our ranks, I’m so grateful that YBGR is able to expand more in the Great Falls area!” — Stacey Sullivan, Therapist, Great Falls
Our progress reflects the strength of a unified mission and the dedication of the people carrying it forward. It shows what happens when two teams come together around a shared vision—and lean in to do hard things for the right reasons.
And we’re just getting started.
This progress is only possible because of the people behind it.
To our teammates across the state—thank you for showing up, embracing the vision behind this new path, and helping carry our mission forward: “Caring people, preparing youth for life.”
March’s delivery from Amazon brought more than just snack bags to the Ranch—it brought joy, excitement, and a wave of gratitude from the kids we serve. As part of a generous donation, Amazon provided individually packed snack bags for every child on campus.
The response? Pure happiness. The smiles, laughter, and energy in the lodges made it clear—this simple gesture made a big impact.
Supporting Youth with More Than Just Snacks
We’re incredibly grateful to Amazon for their continued support of our mission. Donations like these go a long way in making our kids feel cared for and seen. While the snack bags were a hit, the real impact was in the message behind them: you matter.
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, we know that meaningful experiences like this can leave a lasting impression. When kids experience generosity and community support firsthand, it helps reinforce their sense of worth and belonging.
From all of us at YBGR, thank you to Amazon for investing in the well-being of youth at the Ranch. Your support helps us continue our work in preparing them for life.
Get Involved
Want to learn more about how your organization can support our kids? Visit Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch Foundation at yellowstonefoundation.org.
Why do some kids bounce back after setbacks while others seem to struggle? The answer lies in resilience—a child’s ability to adapt and grow stronger in the face of adversity.
In psychology, resilience is often defined as the ability to adapt well during stress, trauma, or hardship. And in today’s world, nurturing resilience in kids is more critical than ever.
The 7 Cs of Resilience
Developed by pediatrician and resilience expert Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, the 7 Cs are key building blocks that help children develop the strength they need to navigate life’s ups and downs. Here’s how you can support each one:
#1: Competence
Developing competence builds the foundation for resilience. When children recognize their strengths and abilities, they begin to see themselves as capable of handling whatever life throws at them.
You can help your child feel competent by nurturing their unique talents, praising effort over outcome, and giving them space to try—and sometimes fail—on their own. These experiences boost self-esteem and encourage them to step outside their comfort zone, growing new skills in the process.
#2: Confidence
Confidence empowers kids to explore new challenges and bounce back from failure. It gives them the belief that they can face hard things and keep going.
Support confidence by giving children opportunities to try age-appropriate tasks on their own. Celebrate effort, not just results, and remind them that mistakes are a natural part of learning. Confidence is essential to building long-term resilience.
#3: Connection
Connection is one of the most powerful protective factors when building resilience. Feeling supported gives children the emotional anchor they need to face tough times.
Help kids develop a sense of belonging by connecting them with peers and mentors through clubs, sports, youth groups, or school activities. A child who feels seen, loved, and accepted is more likely to weather emotional storms with strength.
#4: Coping
Healthy coping skills help kids manage stress, solve problems, and regulate emotions—all critical components of resilience.
You can support coping by modeling calm responses to stress, teaching kids healthy tools like deep breathing, journaling, or movement, and giving them chances to practice. When children have access to these tools, they’re better prepared to face life’s inevitable challenges.
#5: Control
Kids who believe they have some control over their lives are more likely to engage, make decisions, and take ownership of their outcomes. This sense of agency is a major contributor to resilience.
Give your child choices and involve them in decisions where appropriate. Creating opportunities for kids to problem-solve and make meaningful decisions builds critical thinking skills and increases their sense of capability.
#6: Character
Character is shaped by knowing what you stand for and choosing to act in alignment with your values. It’s the moral compass that helps kids stay grounded, even in tough situations.
You can help your child build character by talking about your family’s values, recognizing acts of kindness and integrity, and emphasizing empathy. Kids with strong character are better able to make decisions that reflect who they want to be—even under pressure.
#7: Contribution
When kids feel that they matter and can make a difference, they’re more likely to believe they have a place in the world. This belief reinforces confidence, connection, and a resilient mindset.
Encourage contribution through volunteering, helping others, or simple acts of kindness. When we thank kids for their efforts and highlight the good they bring to others, we show them they’re not just recipients of care—they’re capable of giving it, too.
Building Resilience—One Day at a Time
Resilience isn’t something kids are born with—it’s something we build together, through daily actions, encouragement, and trust. By focusing on the 7 Cs, we create the conditions where children not only bounce back—but soar.
For some, the topic of childhood trauma is still taboo. If we told you experiences growing up could impact your long-term health, would you believe us?
Understanding the Long-Term Impact of Childhood Trauma
For those of us working in human services, the idea that trauma can affect your mental and physical health is nothing new. But for those outside the field, it may sound unfamiliar—or even far-fetched.
The ACE Study: Groundbreaking Research That Changed Everything
In the mid to late ’90s, the link between childhood trauma and adult health came into the spotlight. In collaboration with the CDC, Kaiser Permanente conducted a study with over 17,000 participants that shook the medical and mental health communities.
Yes—research shows that the body remembers. Chronic stress in childhood can alter brain development, hormone levels, immune response, and more. Over time, these changes increase the risk for a wide range of physical and mental health conditions.
But Trauma Doesn’t Define You
Here’s what’s important: trauma may increase risk, but it doesn’t guarantee poor outcomes. Protective factors can dramatically change the trajectory of a child’s life.
These include:
A child’s individual strengths and unique personality traits
Our time with children is critical. Your steady presence matters whether you’re a parent, grandparent, teacher, or mentor. Watching a movie, making dinner together, or simply showing up can be healing.
If you work in the helping field, your impact is real. You’re building stronger families and creating a safety net for vulnerable youth—shielding them from the weight of trauma.
Want to Help? You’re Needed More Than Ever
If you’ve been thinking about getting involved, this is your sign. We’re always looking for caring adults to become mentors, foster parents, mental health workers, and more.
See the signs that Jennifer Bauman and Stacey Sullivan, Therapists, are proudly showcasing at our Great Falls Community Office? They’re among the first in a statewide signage rollout happening now through early summer.
These new signs represent more than a visual update—they bring a clean, consistent, and unified face to the brick-and-mortar spaces where caring people at YBGR prepare youth for life.
From our community offices to group home campuses, the fresh new look ensures each site is easily recognizable and welcoming, reinforcing our commitment to youth where our mission hits the pavement in the areas we serve.
As installations continue across the state, keep an eye out for new signs going up in a community near you. Each one is a visible reminder of the hope, healing, and connection happening within.
“There are no shortcuts to excellence. Developing real expertise, figuring out really hard problems—it all takes time—longer than most people imagine. Grit is about working on something you care about so much that you’re willing to stay loyal to it. It’s doing what you love, but not just falling in love—staying in love.” – Angela Duckworth
What if doing well in school and life depends on much more than just our ability to learn quickly and easily?
Well, that’s just what Angela Duckworth, Ph.D., found in her groundbreaking research on grit over a decade ago! She studied everyone from grade school students to West Point Military Academy cadets—even partnering with private companies to explore who stayed and excelled in challenging roles such as sales.
Her work found that the most significant factor for success across settings wasn’t IQ, physical health, social intelligence, or good looks. It was grit!
In one study done with Chicago public school students, Angela found that kids scoring high on a grit scale questionnaire were significantly more likely to graduate—even when matched against characteristics like:
Family income
Standardized achievement test scores
And even how safe kids feel when they are at school
Angela’s Ted Talk, featured at the beginning of this article, was filmed in 2013. Today, we know much more about grit and how to foster it in kids, adults, organizations, and communities.
Earlier this week, students at Yellowstone Academy participated in the ACT exam—a crucial academic milestone and a step forward on the path to college and future opportunities.
ACT Prepares Youth for What’s Next
The ACT, administered on the Ranch campus in Billings, helps students explore post-secondary options and set goals for what comes next. For the kids we serve, it’s more than just a test. It’s a chance to think beyond today—to imagine possibilities and take tangible steps toward them.
Education is provided through Yellowstone Academy, working hand-in-hand with the therapeutic support students receive through YBGR. This experience highlights the strength of that partnership—helping kids stabilize, heal, and re-engage with learning in a way that prepares them for life, not just school.
A Shared Commitment
Moments like this bring our mission to life: Caring people, preparing youth for life. They also align with Yellowstone Academy’s mission: To provide excellence in education through trusting, positive, and supportive relationships.
We’re proud of our kids for showing up, setting goals, and stepping into their future with purpose.
Do you have experience navigating stress? I bet your answer’s yes. I mean, who doesn’t? It’s unavoidable in today’s world. But there are things we can do to mitigate it.
Below are thirteen quotes on the journey through stress and how to traverse it successfully.
13 Quotes on Navigating Stress
Quote 1: I am so emotionally drained. I can feel myself shutting down. – Unknown
Quote 2: I will simply breathe, and it will be okay because I don’t quit. – Unknown
Quote 3: Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is rather than as you think it should be. – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Quote 4: Stress acts as an accelerator: it will push you either forward or backward, but you choose which direction. – Chelsea Erieau
Quote 5: Stress is not what happens to us. It is our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose. – Maureen Killoran
Quote 6: The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. – William James
Quote 7: It’s not stress that kills us. It’s our reaction to it. – Hans Selye
Quote 8: It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it. – Lou Holtz
Quote 9: Stress is the inability to decide what’s important. – Unknown
Quote 10: You can do anything—but not everything. – David Allen
Quote 11: The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities. – Stephen Covey
Quote 12: In stressful times, it’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to cut yourself some slack. Because right now, you might not be your best self. But you are growing, and you are trying your best, and that is good enough. – Ashley Hetherington
Quote 13: I will breathe. I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not stress myself out about things I can’t control or change. – Shayne McClendon
Here are a few ways that trauma can affect children’s overall well-being:
The impact of trauma can range widely, depending on many different factors, including a child’s relationships with caring adults, social supports, and unique personal characteristics.
And often, childhood trauma can even influence children’s ability to form healthy, trusting bonds with caregivers.
Here are a few tips to help you build the trust you need to guide kids with trauma history and help them heal.
Provide structure
Create a routine and ensure that your child understands rules and expectations clearly. Doing so will create a sense of safety and help them thrive.
Use positive discipline
Punitive, physical, or inconsistent discipline can be a trigger for kids with a history of trauma and be counterproductive to your ability to guide them.
Here are some positive discipline methods you can leverage:
Ignore mild misbehavior
Praise good behavior
Frame things as incentives versus pointing out negative consequences
Trust in any relationship is built on consistent positive interactions. Show warmth towards your child, even during conflict and discipline. And if you slip up, make sure to repair the situation with an apology and good communication.
Be sensitive to trauma
Be mindful of a child’s background and avoid putting them in a position where they feel cornered or threatened. For example, if children have a history of sexual trauma, be mindful of their physical boundaries and unexpected touch.
Below are eight indicators of childhood depression that every parent needs to be familiar with.
Signs of Depression in Kids
Deep & Persistent Sadness
Children with depression experience sadness that persists for two or more weeks. And it can be profound! They may have thoughts of suicide or talk about hurting themselves.
Have you recently noticed a decline in your child’s school performance? Kids confronting depression often have a hard time concentrating, making decisions, and can be quicker to anger or emotional outbursts.
Be on the watch for a sudden drop in grades, school refusal, and new behavioral issues cropping up.
Changes in Weight or Eating Habits
Has your child recently lost or gained weight? Significant fluctuations in body size or sudden changes in eating habits may signify depression.
A Shift in Sleep Patterns
Have you noticed a change in your child’s sleep patterns? Maybe they’re struggling to fall asleep, waking in the middle of the night, or even sleeping far more than usual?
Depression can impact kids’ rest and wake cycles. So, pay attention to sudden shifts in your child’s sleep routine. It may be a sign that something more is going on.
Changes in Mood & Behavior
Does it feel like your child’s demeanor changed overnight? Take notice if they’ve suddenly developed a more negative attitude or are expressing feelings of hopelessness, guilt, or worthlessness. And if they seem more agitated, irritable, or are quicker to get upset, it could also be a sign of depression.
Decrease in Self-Esteem
Does your once confident kid now seem to need frequent reassurance? A marked decrease in self-esteem is frequently an indicator of depression. Children with the condition tend to think negatively and very critically about themselves.
Withdrawal
Kids experiencing depression will frequently withdraw socially from friends and family. So, pay attention if your child no longer wants to participate in activities they once enjoyed.
Physical Pain
Depression is more than emotional pain—symptoms can frequently manifest physically. So look out for persistent fatigue, frequent headaches, stomach aches, or any other sudden unexplained discomfort. And remember, it’s essential to rule out underlying medical conditions with a doctor.
We’re Here to Help!
Do any of the signs and symptoms above sound familiar? Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR) provides a wide range of wraparound mental health services designed to help kids heal. Contact us online to get a child support today.
Big changes are underway at River’s Edge, one of our therapeutic group homes serving youth in Billings. With generous support from the Charles M. Bair Family Trust, renovations have officially begun—starting with brand-new, energy-efficient windows.
River’s Edge provides essential mental health support and safe housing for youth in need of stability, structure, and care in a family-style environment. These renovations are part of a more significant effort to strengthen the environment where healing happens every day.
Investing in the Future of River’s Edge
Thanks to HB 872 grant funding through the State of Montana, the next phase of improvements at River’s Edge includes new roofing, siding, and doors. These upgrades enhance safety, reduce energy costs, and support long-term sustainability—ensuring the home can continue to serve Montana kids for years to come.
Renovations like these reflect our commitment to building safe, welcoming environments where youth can thrive. As we continue improving our facilities across the state, the work at River’s Edge marks a meaningful step forward in strengthening access to care.
How much do you know about the history of Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR)? The timeline above brings it to life.
Tucked behind the dining hall, the Ranch library holds more than just books—it showcases a powerful visual display of our history. This timeline reflects decades of impact, growth, and transformation.
In the photograph above, Jake Mullins, HR Recruiter, stands beside this timeline, underscoring its significance. More than just a collection of dates, it tells the story of the mission that has guided us for over 67 years. Through challenges, growth, and change, our commitment to youth and families has remained steadfast.
More Than a Timeline—A Legacy of Caring That Stands the Test of Time
Much has changed over the years, but our historic slogan continues to ring true. Still painted on the back of the sign above the entryway to campus, it serves as a lasting reminder: “It sure makes a difference to know someone cares.”
We are grateful for the many caring individuals across YBGR who continue to carry our mission forward: “Caring people, preparing youth for life.”
Your work makes a lasting impact—just like the history we continue to write every day.
Recognize this little lady? It’s Laurie Moore, Program Manager at the Ranch! Last month, Laurie celebrated an incredible 43 years at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR).
When asked for a photo, Laurie opted for a baby picture over a recent one—so we’re rolling with it! But don’t let that sweet face fool you. Laurie is tough as nails when it comes to serving kids with integrity and standing by her team. She embodies our mission: Caring people, preparing youth for life.
A Lifelong Commitment to Kids and Community
Laurie’s dedication runs deep. Over the years, she has not only invested in the lives of countless youth but also mentored teammates as they grow into caring professionals. She has watched YBGR evolve—from a small refuge in Billings to a statewide network delivering mental health care across Montana.
Thank You, Laurie!
Laurie, your commitment to our mission, your crewmates, and the kids we serve is nothing short of inspiring. Your work has shaped lives, strengthened our purpose, and left a lasting impact on countless youth.
Words can’t express our gratitude for your sacrifice, service, and loyalty over the years. We are so fortunate to have you on our team!
What’s active listening? You close your mouth and let the other person speak. Right?
Not quite. There’s more to it than that.
How to Practice Active Listening
Here’s a guide to active listening inspired by the book, The Empathetic Workplace by Katharine Manning, that you can draw on for trauma-informed conversations in and out of the workplace.
Encouragement
Make brief and gentle sounds such as “ahh” & “got it” to encourage the other person to continue their story, ensuring it’s subtle and keeps the focus on them.
Eye contact
Where we focus is what we care about. That said, read the other party—if they refuse to make eye contact, it could signal they are uncomfortable, and you should follow suit.
Mirroring
We mimic the body language of the person we’re speaking with when we are fully engaged. Doing it too much can be creepy, but a subtle nod to it will create ease in a conversation.
Looping
Repeat what the other person says as closely as possible to their exact words.
Clarification
Seeking clarification shows the other person you are listening, and ensures you understand what they’re saying.
Ask open-ended questions
Typically, open-ended questions begin with what, where, when, and why and are a great way to kick-start a conversation if the speaker peters out or, conversely, get it back on track if they are heading off on a tangent.
If they’re triggered, you will notice they either become emphatic, and the conversation will become less productive, or they will shut down and stop talking altogether.
Read demeanor
Be mindful that when someone shares a story of trauma, it can be re-traumatizing—back off if it appears that responding to questions is difficult and allow a break if needed.
Body language
Keep body language loose and calm, maintaining an open stance while facing the other person. Be careful not to look down, out the window, or at their hands.
At the heart of our work lies a deep commitment to healing—not just in mind, but in body, spirit, and community. This morning, youth in our Wellbriety program at the Ranch created a powerful symbol of their journey: a Medicine Wheel.
More than just a recovery program, Wellbriety integrates culture, spirituality, and personal growth. Each week, youth participate in smudging ceremonies, talking circles, and reflection—fostering balance, strength, and long-term sobriety.
These traditional practices reconnect them to their roots while providing a strong foundation for lasting wellness.
The Power of the Medicine Wheel in Recovery
The Medicine Wheel is a sacred symbol in many Native traditions, representing balance and the interconnectedness of life. The four directions (North, South, East, West), are often used as a guide for living a balanced life and achieving spiritual harmony.
In Wellbriety, it serves as a visual guide to healing, mapping emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being across all four directions. By incorporating these teachings, youth gain a deeper understanding of their journey toward sobriety and personal growth.
At Yellowstone Boys & Girls Ranch (YBGR), preparing youth for life means more than academics—it’s about building the skills, confidence, and opportunities young people need to excel in the real world. That’s exactly what Elizabeth Campoy, Supported Employment Supervisor, and Erica Kern, Supported Employment Specialist, are passionate about.
Building Skills That Last a Lifetime
Every day, Elizabeth, Erica, and their team make a difference by helping youth gain the tools they need to thrive—not just in the workforce but in life. Their work goes beyond job placement. It’s about building confidence, independence, and resilience.
Career coaching to help explore strengths and interests
Resume writing guidance that gives a competitive edge
Interview preparation to boost confidence
On-site job support to help youth succeed long-term
It’s all about making sure youth are prepared—not just for their first job, but for everything life throws their way.
Partnering with the Community
A big part of the program’s success comes from strong partnerships with local employers in Yellowstone County. These relationships open doors, connecting youth with meaningful job opportunities that fit their interests and strengths.
By working closely with businesses, Elizabeth and Erica make sure youth aren’t just placed in jobs—they’re set up to succeed in them.
The Impact Speaks for Itself
The results say it all:
337 youth served through the Supported Employment Program
Over 500 jobs filled in Yellowstone County
The numbers above, tallied in December 2024, represent lives changed, futures brightened, and young people stepping confidently into adulthood.
It’s About More Than Jobs
What sets YBGR’s Supported Employment Program apart is the focus on long-term success.
It’s about:
Building confidence so youth believe in themselves
Teaching resilience so they can overcome challenges
Providing life skills that serve them well into the future
Because at the end of the day, it’s not just about the job—it’s about preparing youth to take on the world.
Thank You to the Team Making It Happen
A huge thank you to Elizabeth Campoy, Erica Kern, and the entire Supported Employment team for living out our mission of “Caring people, preparing youth for life.”
Because of your dedication, hundreds of young people are stepping into the future with the tools and confidence they need to build successful, meaningful lives—and that’s something worth celebrating.
Have you met the therapy dogs who are making a difference daily at the Ranch? Meet Luca, Elvis, Cooper, and Emmy Lou!
These four aren’t just beloved companions—they’re four-legged therapists helping youth heal, build trust, and regulate emotions in Billings. Their presence provides comfort, connection, and stability for kids who need it most.
Meet Our Canine Team and Their People
Therapy dogs do more than bring smiles—they play a key role in supporting the emotional well-being of the youth in our care.
Dr. Taylor Clark, Occupational Therapist, with her therapy pup, Luca
Mackenzie Warren, Equestrian Specialist, with her therapy pup, Elvis.
Cooper and Emmy Lou with Lisa Frazier, retired Director of Recreational Services
For many kids, therapy dogs offer something people sometimes can’t—a calming, judgment-free presence that makes it easier to open up, build trust, and regulate emotions.
We see the impact of our four-legged therapists firsthand every day out at the Ranch. Their support goes beyond the moment—helping kids feel safe, seen, and supported as they navigate their healing journey.
We want to thank Lisa, Mackenzie, Taylor, and our incredible therapy dogs—Luca, Elvis, Cooper, and Emmy Lou. The work you do matters, and the difference you make is lasting.
Investing in the caring people who invest in our kids matters. Over the weekend, YBGR staff from across Montana participated in Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM) training, gaining tools to help teammates process secondary trauma after delivering crisis care to youth.
CISM Training Equips Staff to Support Each Other
At YBGR, we know that a strong team means stronger support for youth. Our work with kids is meaningful and comes with heavy moments, too. No one should carry that weight alone.
CISM training equips staff with the tools to recognize signs of stress and process crisis events with others—so they can continue providing the care kids depend on.
Strengthening Our Team for the Work Ahead
This training is one of the many ways we’re building a culture of care and resilience—ensuring our team has the support needed to keep showing up for Montana’s youth.
Join Our Community of Caring People, Preparing Youth for Life
Looking for a job where you can make an impact while being part of a strong, supportive community? Visit our Careers page today to learn more about our open positions.
See the crafts above? On Friday, the kids in our Butte community-based services celebrated Valentine’s Day with our local team. Their time together went beyond fun—it was an opportunity for connection, creativity, and growth, reflecting our mission: Caring people, equipping youth for life.
Through activities like the ones pictured, kids build relationships and gain skills in creative expression that serve as coping tools they can lean on throughout their lives.
A big thank you to our Butte team for making Valentine’s Day therapeutic and special!
Did you hear the news? Renovations at McVay Lodge are complete—with new bathrooms, thanks to HB 872 grant funding.
While this may seem like a small upgrade, facility improvements like this are critical to expanding our capacity to care for kids who need the structured treatment we provide at the Ranch. These updates allow us to put an additional lodge to use, increasing the number of kids we can serve.
Built to stand the test of time, the new bathrooms are easy to maintain and give the lodge a warm, inviting feel. They help create a space residents can call home—a clean, cozy environment where caring people can prepare youth for life.
Last Thursday, McVay Lodge reopened, welcoming boys from Jessie Grant Lodge while their space undergoes similar renovations.
Expanding Access to Care for Kids
Why does this matter? Because kids deserve access to care in a comfortable place they can take pride in that’s close to home.
Too often, youth needing higher levels of treatment must travel out of state for support—or don’t receive the care they need at all. Through HB 872, the State of Montana is helping change that—allowing providers like us to expand access to care right here in Montana.
By enhancing our facilities, we’re strengthening our ability to provide a structured, supportive environment where kids can stabilize, heal, and grow—without the added burden of being far from home.
Want to Learn More?
Stay tuned for more updates on how we’re working to strengthen care for kids—because they deserve family, support, and hope for the future.
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health challenges children face—impacting roughly 10% of kids in the United States. As a parent or caregiver, knowing what to look for can help you step in early, offer support, and get your child the help they need to thrive.
Below are six signs of anxiety in children that are easy to miss but important to recognize.
Signs of Anxiety in Kids
Excessive Worry
Kids with anxiety often worry more than what seems reasonable for the situation. They might constantly fear getting sick, being separated from a parent, or doing poorly in school—even when there’s no clear cause for concern.
These worries can feel overwhelming, and your child may not be able to turn them off, no matter how much reassurance you provide.
Physical Symptoms
Anxiety doesn’t just live in the mind—it often shows up in the body.
Stomachaches, headaches, fatigue, muscle tension, and even rapid breathing can all be signs of underlying anxiety, especially if your child experiences them frequently or in response to stressful situations.
Avoidance Behaviors
Kids sometimes cope with anxiety by avoiding the things that trigger it. This might look like refusing to go to school, avoiding social situations, or quitting an activity they used to enjoy. While avoidance can bring immediate relief, it reinforces the fear in the long run and can make anxiety worse over time.
Sleep Disturbances
Anxiety can interfere with sleep in many ways. Kids may have trouble falling asleep because of racing thoughts or wake during the night from bad dreams.
Over time, poor sleep can worsen anxiety and affect mood, concentration, and behavior during the day.
Irritability
It’s not always obvious, but irritability can be a symptom of anxiety. Kids who are anxious may seem cranky, easily frustrated, or quick to anger. These emotional outbursts aren’t just about behavior—they’re often a sign that your child is feeling overwhelmed and unsure how to express it.
Difficulty Concentrating
When kids are anxious, it can be hard to focus. They might struggle to stay on task, follow instructions, or finish homework. You might notice they seem distracted or forgetful, especially when stress is high.
These challenges can be especially tough in school, where performance anxiety can feed into a cycle of frustration and self-doubt.
When to Get Help
If you’ve noticed some of these signs and they’re starting to interfere with your child’s daily life, it may be time to reach out for support. Anxiety is treatable—and with the right tools and guidance, kids can learn to manage it and feel more in control.
See these tiles? They’re part of the incredible Yellowstone Academy student artwork collection—painted by past students during art class. It’s just one way the school fosters creativity and connection.
Yellowstone Academy provides K-12 education and vocational classes for kids in residential care at the Ranch and its Day Treatment program. With small classes and personalized support, the school helps students overcome emotional, educational, and behavioral challenges—empowering them to thrive.
As one of the West’s few accredited public schools located on a residential treatment campus, Yellowstone Academy combines learning and healing on our historic 410-acre ranch, nestled in the countryside of Billings.
These tiles are just a glimpse of the Yellowstone Academy student artwork showcasing the creativity and growth happening daily with the kids.
Learn More About Yellowstone Academy
Visit our Yellowstone Academy tab to learn more about the creative, therapeutic, educational programming they deliver daily.
And the road to resilience is a profound one. Below are thirteen quotes illustrating the path from hurt to healing.
Quotes on Hurt & Healing
Hurt people, hurt people. Only healing ends the cycle.
Quote: If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you. – Tamara Kulish
The pain we carry makes it difficult to trust and form healthy relationships.
Quote: I push people away because I’m afraid I might not heal again if I get hurt. I push them away and paint my walls so good they can’t recognize me anymore. I don’t give people a chance. – Inspired by Bisma Ijaz
Left unaddressed, it can lead to sadness and manifest as anger towards ourselves and others.
Quote: Someone said, “anger is sadness that has had nowhere to go for a very long time,” and I’ll never forget that. – Unknown
And that anger, fueled by hurt, can creep out in some unsavory ways.
Quote: A person begging for their humanity to be acknowledged can sound an awful lot like rage. – Kalen Dion
Pain clouds the lens we use to interpret the world around us.
Quote: Heal so you can hear what’s being said without the filter of your wound. – Unknown
But it doesn’t need to harden our hearts. We can choose another way.
Quote: I admire people who could have turned cold after everything they’ve been through but still choose love anyway. There’s strength in that. – Keneilwe Dr. Mhlanga
We can heal. While painful temporarily, it’s the only way to stop the hurt.
Quote: Healing doesn’t have to look magical or pretty. Real healing is hard, exhausting, and draining. Let yourself go through it. Don’t try to paint it as anything other than what it is. Be there for yourself without judgment. – Unknown
Healing means being vulnerable. But there’s strength in that.
Quote: Vulnerability is about being brave enough to show up again and again. Even when it’s hard. Even when there’s been hurt. – Lauren Fortenberry
Because it’s the battles that we face that shape us and make us strong.
Quote: She never seemed shattered; to me, she was a breathtaking mosaic of the battles she’s won. – Matt Baker
And in the path from hurt to healing, we can grow.
Quote: If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow. – @MasteringLawofAttraction
We can find meaning.
Quote: Healing never came when I clawed in search of it. Instead, it came when I was willing to listen to the lesson the pain was here to teach me. – Lauren Fortenberry
And while there are no easy paths for solving the hardest in life.
Quote: There are no easy answers. No quick solutions. No clear paths for resolving the hardest in life. But we can choose forgiveness. We can choose grace. No matter what, we can still choose love. – Lauren Fortenberry
You will one day heal from the hurt. And in the journey to that healing, you will become strong.
Quote: You let time pass. That’s the cure. You survive the days. You float like a rabid ghost through the weeks. You cry and wallow and lament and scratch your way back up through the months. And then one day, you find yourself alone on a bench in the sun, and you close your eyes, lean your head back and realize you’re okay. – Cheryl Strayed
Who hasn’t experienced a bit of confusion and even frustration when their kids display challenging behavior? Behavior that seemingly comes out of nowhere.
Why is my child throwing tantrums, acting out, or refusing to listen?
In these moments, it’s time to put on our detective hats and investigate—there’s always a “why” behind children’s actions.
When we understand the underlying needs driving behaviors, we gain valuable insights—making it easier to address them effectively and navigate difficult moments with empathy.
Unmet Needs, Behavior, & Solutions
Remember, a need met is a challenging behavior solved! Below are possible unmet needs, behaviors stemming from them, and potential solutions.
🤝 Connection
Kids who feel lonely or disconnected may seek attention by interrupting, talking out of turn to connect with others, or acting out negatively.
Pro Tip: Dedicate daily quality time with your little one. Create special rituals, such as reading together before bed or having regular family meals.
📅 Structure
Children who lack structure or routine may struggle with impulsivity or disorganization, leading to problematic behavior.
Pro Tip: Create a predictable daily schedule with regular mealtimes, study or play periods, and a consistent bedtime routine. Use visual cues like charts or calendars to help your child understand and anticipate what comes next.
🛡️ Safety
Kids who don’t feel safe may exhibit clingy or anxious behavior or act aggressively to protect themselves.
Pro Tip: Create a nurturing, physically and emotionally safe environment. Encourage open communication—validating feelings, and reassuring kids when they express worries or concerns.
We foster a trusting relationship by being available, responsive, and supportive.
💪 Autonomy
Children who feel powerless may resist authority by being defiant or oppositional.
Pro Tip: Offer choices within appropriate boundaries, allowing kids to make decisions about their clothing, activities, or chores to give them a sense of control.
Give children age-appropriate responsibilities and recognize their efforts + achievements. And foster a collaborative approach by listening to their perspectives and involving them in problem-solving.
Recognize this outstanding woman? It’s Lisa Frazier, retiring Director of Recreational Services. And after 42 years of dedicated service, her impact will be felt for many years to come.
Lisa Frazier’s 42-Year Journey of Recreation and Healing
Lisa joined us in 1982, and from the beginning, she embodied our mission: “Caring people, preparing youth for life.” Her passion for investing in kids was evident.
From spearheading our dog therapy program to teaching recreational activities that help youth develop healthy coping mechanisms, Lisa played a key role in shaping the wellness initiatives we hold dear today.
Lisa is deeply ingrained in Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch’s long legacy of care. Her wealth of knowledge and countless memories of the youth she’s helped along the way make her a true historian of our journey over the decades.
Lisa Frazier’s Impact on Youth at Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch
Lisa’s favorite memories during her career at YBGR? Each surrounded time spent with kids at the Ranch:
Camping in Yellowstone National Park
Trips to Hedges Lake in the ’80s
Outings to Box R Ranch in Wyoming
Biking trips to Red Lodge
When asked what she loved most about YBGR, Lisa shared it was her work with kids and the team approach to care. She saw the value of getting youth outdoors and engaging in healthy activities as part of holistic wellness—mind, body, and spirit.
Lisa enjoyed watching youth travel the path of healing toward resilience—seeing them learn, grow, and begin to thrive.
Lisa—thank you for your unwavering commitment to our mission and the youth we serve. Your work has shaped countless lives, leaving a lasting impact on generations of Montanans. We wish you all the best in your well-deserved retirement.
Pictured is Lisa through the years at YBGR, along with some snapshots from her retirement party on campus and her beloved canine therapy pros.
See the handprints on this tipi liner? Each represents a child who has successfully graduated from our Native American Services Program at the Ranch, marking their journey of healing, growth, and resilience.
Josie Brady, Native American Services Coordinator, began this project in January 2024, and as the year comes to a close, we want to take a moment to reflect on the magnitude of our work.
Over 3,600 Kids Served in 2024
Through our mental health programming statewide, we provided care to more than 3,600 children this year—helping them build resilience and equipping them with the skills to thrive. Every life we impact creates a ripple effect, shaping not just the youth we serve but their families and communities for generations to come.
Looking Ahead to 2025
As we celebrate an impactful 2024, we look forward to the year ahead with a renewed commitment to serving Montana’s kids and families.
Thank you to our staff, partners, and supporters for making this work possible. Here’s to another year of hope, healing, and transformation!
Did you know that in 2024, we reached a peak of 91 kids in our care at one time at the Ranch in Billings? That’s our highest census in years. It reflects the growing need for therapeutic residential treatment (PRTF) in Montana and our teams’ critical role in delivering lifesaving care.
Providing Hope When Families Need It Most
Families seeking PRTF treatment are often in crisis, looking for a safe, healing environment for children struggling with unsafe behaviors stemming from trauma and mental health challenges. With limited in-state options, families are often left with impossible choices—send their child out of state, far from home and family, or go without the care they desperately need.
At Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, we work to ensure Montana kids have access to high-quality mental health treatment close to home.
Breaking Barriers to Care
This year’s census peak is a testament to our collective commitment to breaking down barriers and providing trauma-informed, wraparound support for youth who need it most.
To our residential teams—your dedication makes a difference every single day. Thank you for going above and beyond to ensure kids in crisis find hope, healing, and a path forward.
Looking Ahead
As we move into 2025, we remain committed to expanding access to lifesaving mental health treatment for Montana’s youth—because every child deserves the care and support they need, right here at home.
Governor Greg Gianforte and First Lady Susan Gianforte took time away from the campaign trail to visit Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch (YBGR), where they toured the campus and engaged in discussions about youth mental health in Montana.
During their visit, the Governor and First Lady participated in a panel discussion with YBGR team members, who shared their experiences working with youth at the Ranch:
Natalie Nickisch, Lead Mental Health Worker
Jake Mullins, HR Recruiter
Juletta Gilge, Director of PRTF
Lacey Jones, Therapist
Skyler Carroll, Program Manager
These caring professionals highlighted success stories from their work, emphasizing the impact of mental health support on youth and families across Montana. Their insights showcased the critical role of YBGR in providing mental health care to youth in need.
A Commitment to Montana’s Youth
YBGR has been a leader in children’s mental health care in Montana since 1957, offering PTRF residential treatment, therapeutic group home care, community-based services, and school-based programs with locations across the state. The visit from Governor Gianforte and the First Lady reflects the importance of supporting mental health initiatives that help children build brighter futures.
We appreciate Governor Gianforte and the First Lady for their time and interest in learning more about the mission of YBGR. A special thank you to our dedicated team members for sharing their passion, expertise, and the purpose behind their work in youth mental health.
Did you hear the news? Youth Dynamics and Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch are joining forces to address the growing mental health needs of Montana’s kids and families.
With a vision of a seamless, comprehensive children’s behavioral health continuum, our union will bring together 100+ years of combined experience, over 3,600 children served annually, and nearly 800 caring individuals delivering our mission.
Expanding Mental Health Care Across Montana
Operating as Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, we’ll offer tailored care to meet each child’s unique needs across nearly every county statewide. From community and school programming to therapeutic group homes and PRTF residential treatment, we’re committed to providing the right service at the right time—at the lowest level of care possible.
Together, we’ll enhance our capacity to serve and provide efficient, trauma-informed, wrap-around care that ensures better outcomes for kids.
Learn More About Our Partnership With Youth Dynamics
Visit our YBGR Partner Facts page to learn more about how Youth Dynamics and Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch are working together to strengthen mental health care for Montana’s kids and families.
Teen suicide—It’s terrifying. I mean, as a parent, there’s nothing more frightening than the idea of something happening to my kids. Especially something as tragic as one of them taking their own life.
Kids are struggling at epic proportions right now. Surveys reveal that over 40% of teens show signs of severe depression—feeling sad or hopeless daily.
And it’s reason for concern. It’s more critical than ever for parents to understand the warning signs of suicide and how to intervene.
Below are teen suicide indicators that every parent needs to know.
Warning Signs of Teen Suicide
Talking or writing about suicide
Has your child suddenly started talking or writing about suicide? If so, take it seriously! Examples include making statements such as “I’m going to kill myself” or “I won’t be a problem for you much longer.”
Social withdrawal
Have you noticed your teen is isolating? Do they no longer seem interested in hanging out with friends? Are they finding excuses to avoid school?
If your child is a social butterfly and suddenly seems disinterested in spending time with others, it may be a sign they’re considering suicide.
Changes in mood
Marked changes in your teen’s mood indicate something isn’t right. And frequently, pronounced bouts of sadness are a precursor to completed suicide.
Acting bored all the time, and/or dropping out of activities
Difficulty with relationships, including changing peer groups or becoming more isolated
Risky behavior
Persistent physical complaints such as headaches or stomachaches
Fatigue
Pay attention to any atypical mood swings, up or down. Even a sudden elevation in mood after a bout of sadness is something to note. Suicide survivors often report a feeling of relief and raised spirits after deciding to end their life, seeing it as an end to their suffering.
Alcohol or drug use
Has your teen started using drugs or drinking? If so, it’s not something to ignore! Often, youth who are struggling use substances to cope. And intoxication increases impulsivity, making it a dangerous cocktail for teens grappling with thoughts of suicide.
Feelings of being trapped, hopeless, or helpless about a situation
Frequently, people who attempt suicide report feelings of being trapped or hopeless. And for teens, it’s something to particularly pay attention to because their concept of time is different than adults’.
As a result, life outside of high school may seem like an eternity, with an end to painful emotions, at the hands of a breakup or friendship conflict, being hard to grasp.
Changes in eating or sleeping patterns
Has your child’s eating or sleeping patterns changed? Both are common indicators of mental health struggles and frequently coincide with suicidal ideation.
Risky or self-destructive behavior
Teens are impulsive. And risk-taking behaviors? They’re a staple of adolescence. But if you notice your teen has suddenly started engaging in destructive behavior that’s uncharacteristic and beyond what’s safe or age-appropriate, it’s a clear indicator that they need help.
Giving away personal possessions
Before completing suicide, people often give away their possessions, making final preparations to end their life. So, if you notice that your teen is giving away prized items, it might be a hint that they are considering suicide.
Personality shifts
Does it feel like your teen’s personality has shifted overnight? Maybe your child was once confident and upbeat and now seems consistently anxious, angry, or agitated. If so, take note! It’s often a warning sign something else is going on.
How to Prevent Teen Suicide
Listen.
Never assume that statements like “nobody cares if I live or die” are just drama. Too often, parents think that and worry if they ask directly about suicide, they’ll plant the idea.
Here’s the thing, though. The only way to know if your child is suffering and get them the help they need is to ask. By inquiring, we show that we care.
Get help.
This piece is crucial. Call your doctor, call a mental health professional, call a suicide hotline, or take your child to a local emergency room. If a professional recommends treatment, be sure to pursue it and make sure your teen sticks with it.
Take precautions.
Do you suspect that your child might be thinking of suicide? If so, take action to limit access to lethal means.
If you have a gun in your house, lock it up along with ammunition, secured separately. And note any prescription medications or alcohol in your home that your teen could use for self-harm and either get rid of it or be sure it’s stored safely.
Final words
Remember, when it comes to suicide, it’s always better to be safe than sorry. So, ask the questions, take the precautions, and reach out for help.
Depression is heavy. If you’ve felt it, you know the weight—how it lingers, pressing down in ways that can be hard to put into words. For many, it’s a silent struggle carried alone, hidden by shame or stigma. But silence doesn’t have to be the norm.
Depression is more common than we think. Millions of people face it every year, and chances are someone you love is quietly navigating its depths right now. That’s why opening up the conversation matters—it helps break down barriers and reminds people they’re not alone.
Here are thirteen quotes that illustrate depression and raise awareness about the condition.
Quotes Illustrating Depression
Quote 1: A human being can survive almost anything as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. – Elizabeth Wurtzel
Quote 2: It’s so difficult to describe depression to someone who’s never been there because it’s not sadness. -J.K. Rowling
Quote 3: People think depression is sadness. That it’s crying and dressing in black, but people are wrong. Depression is the constant feeling of being numb. It’s being numb to emotions, being numb to life. You wake up in the morning just to go back to bed again. – Unknown
Quote 4: You don’t understand depression until you can’t stand your own presence in an empty room. – Unknown.
Quote 5: Having anxiety and depression is like being scared and tired at the same time. It’s the fear of failure, but no urge to be productive. It’s wanting friends but hating to socialize. It’s wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely. It’s caring about everything, then caring about nothing. It’s feeling everything at once, then feeling paralyzingly numb. – Unknown
Quote 6: If you feel everything intensely, ultimately, you feel nothing at all. – Elizabeth Wurtzel
Quote 7: There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. – Laurell K. Hamilton
Quote 8: Depression is like a heavy blanket. It covers all of me, and it’s hard to get up. But there’s comfort in it too. I know who I am when I’m under it. – Unknown
Quote 9: I wanted to talk about it. Damn it. I wanted to scream. I wanted to yell. I wanted to shout about it. But all I could do was whisper, “I’m fine.” – Unknown.
Quote 10: Sometimes, all you can do is lie in bed and hope to fall asleep before you fall apart. – William C. Hannan
Quote 11: Depression is living in a body that fights to survive, with a mind that tries to die. – Unknown
Quote 12: It’s not always the tears that measure the pain. Sometimes it’s the smile we fake. – Unknown
Quote 13: I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless, and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that. – Robin Williams
Are you struggling?
If you’re having a hard time, know that there are people out there who care! Reach out to a friend, family member, or seek out a mental health professional.
If you’re in crisis, here are a few resources to help:
School anxiety is a common experience, especially at the start of a new academic year. Nervousness can intensify when kids are faced with a new environment, where making new friends and adjusting to fresh expectations become part of the daily routine.
How to Tame School Anxiety
The good news? With a little preparation, open communication, and intentional connection, we can guide kids through the anxious feelings that often accompany the back-to-school transition.
Set the Stage for Success
Preparation is a powerful tool in easing anxiety.
Start by building a connection with your child’s school. Attend events, meet teachers early on, and talk with kids about the school year ahead. Focus on both upcoming challenges and opportunities.
It’s important to reassure children that feeling nervous is normal—these emotions are just part of growing and stepping into new beginnings.
Identify + Address Fears
Encourage kids to openly share their worries while steering the conversation in a way that emphasizes the positives.
Subtle shifts in language, as illustrated above, help kids concentrate on the positive aspects of their new environment while still allowing space for their concerns.
Identifying fears early on gives you the chance to address them directly, offering both comfort and clarity.
Highlight the Positives
Help kids focus on the aspects of school that excite them.
Take some time together to list out fun activities, favorite subjects, and friends they’re looking forward to seeing. This simple exercise can shift their focus from what they’re worried about to what they love about school.
Another helpful activity is creating a “worry jar.” It allows kids to separate their anxieties from positive thoughts, helping them see that there’s balance in their experiences.
Staying connected throughout the school day can do wonders for easing anxiety. Simple gestures, like slipping a comforting note into your child’s lunchbox or giving them a small item from home to carry with them, provide reassurance.
Small acts show kids that they’re supported and loved, even as they navigate new situations.
Have you heard of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)? It’s a mental health condition that can develop in response to highly stressful, traumatic events.
As parents, it’s critical we know how to support children experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder and create an environment where they can feel safe and heal.
Recognizing Behavior Stemming from PTSD
Trauma affects children’s bodies, brains, emotions, and behavior. And each child is different based on age, history, and unique personal characteristics. For example, toddlers may be clingy, middle schoolers may withdraw, and teenagers may react with aggression.
Your actions, words, or even an item in your home may trigger traumatic memories. Pay attention to what distracts or scares your child or emotions that don’t seem to fit a situation.
Be present.
Offer encouragement, reassurance, and attention in whatever way your child needs at the moment. If they want to talk about their experience, be available to listen.
Control your emotions.
When your child escalates, remain calm, lower your voice and listen. Don’t take their behavior personally or use physical punishment.
Create consistency.
Regular routines are vital to helping children feel stable and secure.
Encourage and empower.
Create positive experiences to boost self-esteem, teach relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and allow age-appropriate choices to help your child feel in control.
“I say I am sick. They say no, you’re an inspiration. How could I not fall in love with my illness? With becoming the kind of silhouette people are supposed to fall in love with.” — Blythe Baird
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and we’re exploring eating disorders—some of the most pervasive and deadly mental health conditions.
Eating disorders slowly erode the body. Yet, they often go untreated—swept under the rug and even glorified until reaching a crisis point.
Often appearing in adolescence, they impact roughly 29 million people in the United States at some point during their lifetime.
Check out the Crash Course video below for an overview of eating disorders and their impact:
Exploring Eating Disorders
The physiological effects of eating disorders are devastating.
“If you are not recovering, you are dying.” — Blythe Baird
Impacts on the body include:
Slowed heart rate
Loss of bone density
Fatigue
Muscle weakness
Hair loss
Severe dehydration
Very low body mass index
Eating Disorder Subtypes
While there’s a variety of different eating disorder diagnoses, including some not listed in this article, all share either the restrictive or binge/purge behaviors.
Restriction
Marked by an extremely low-calorie diet, excessive exercise, and purging via vomiting or laxatives
Binge/Purge
Involves episodes of binge eating combined with restrictive behavior
Common Eating Disorder Diagnoses
Below are the three most commonly diagnosed eating disorders.
Anorexia Nervosa
Marked by restrictive behaviors, those struggling with anorexia have an intense fear of gaining weight, a distorted body image, and a significantly low body mass index. And it’s thought to kill more people than any other mental illness.
Common symptoms of anorexia nervosa include:
Rigidness as a means to obtain control amidst feelings of powerlessness characterize anorexia.
Bulimia Nervosa
Bulimia is distinguished by binge eating followed by purging behaviors such as vomiting, using laxatives or diuretics, or excessive exercise. And it often goes unnoticed because those afflicted tend to maintain a normal or minimally healthy body weight.
Common signs of bulimia nervosa include:
While those grappling with bulimia aren’t always dangerously underweight, it damages the entire digestive system. Irregular heartbeat, inflammation of the esophagus and mouth, tooth decay, irregular bowel movements, stomach ulcers, pancreatitis, and organ damage all stem from the condition.
Binge Eating Disorder
Binge eating disorder is characterized by recurrent episodes of eating large amounts of food, losing control during these episodes, and experiencing shame or guilt afterward.
Getting to the Roots of Eating Disorders
Eating disorders have strong individual, gender, cultural, genetic, environmental, and upbringing components.
Individually, they are often rooted in a need for perfection, low self-worth, fear of falling short of expectations, and concerns with others’ perceptions. Gender and culture also have a significant role, with beauty ideals varying widely.
Genetics plays a hand—eating disorders tend to run in families. But more than simply biology, environmental factors, and upbringing are crucial pieces of the puzzle.
Children watch their caregiver’s relationship with food and the behaviors surrounding it. And learning unhealthy values around weight from family and peers has a powerful effect.
Did you know that World Schizophrenia Day was May 24th? It’s true! And to celebrate, we want to spread a little awareness! You see, the condition affects 1 in every 100 people, yet it is one of the most misunderstood mental health disorders out there.
So, what exactly is schizophrenia? It’s a beast! Really, there’s so much to the diagnosis!
Check out the video below for a general overview of the condition and its causes.
Positive symptoms of schizophrenia are disturbances that are “added” to a person’s personality. These can include:
Delusions
These are false ideas an individual may believe. Common examples include the belief of being spied on or of being a famous or religious figure.
Hallucinations
Hallucinations involve seeing, feeling, tasting, hearing, or smelling things that don’t exist. The most common experience is hearing imaginary voices that give commands or comments to the individual.
Disordered Thinking and Speech
Disorganized thinking and speech can look like moving from one topic to another non-linearly. Individuals struggling with schizophrenia may make up their own words or sounds, rhyme in ways that don’t make sense, or repeat things.
Disorganized Behavior
Disorganized behavior can range from having problems with routine behaviors like hygiene or choosing appropriate clothing to unprovoked outbursts and impulsive or uninhibited actions. A person may also appear anxious, agitated, tense, or have constant movement without any apparent reason.
Trouble Concentrating
An example of trouble concentrating might be someone losing track of what’s going on in a TV show they’re watching.
Movement Disorders
Some people with schizophrenia can seem jumpy. Sometimes they’ll repeat the same movements over and over again. But sometimes, they might be perfectly still for hours at a time; something called being catatonic. Contrary to popular belief, people with the disease usually aren’t violent.
Negative Symptoms
Negative symptoms are capabilities that are “lost” from someone’s personality due to the disorder. In schizophrenia, this appears as:
Social withdrawal
Extreme apathy (lack of interest or enthusiasm)
Lack of drive or initiative
Trouble with speech
Emotional flatness
Schizophrenia Spectrum & Related Disorders
Often referred to as a spectrum disorder, medical professionals used to breakdown schizophrenia into the following subtypes:
Below is a list of conditions closely related to schizophrenia.
Schizotypal Personality Disorder
People with schizotypal personality disorder have difficulty developing close relationships and may hold beliefs not shared by others in their culture. They may also have unusual behaviors and learning difficulties.
People with paranoid personality disorder suffer from paranoia, an unrelenting mistrust and suspicion of others, even when there is no reason to be suspicious.
Delusional Disorder
People with delusional disorder believe things could happen that are highly unlikely. For example, they may think they have cancer despite several negative test results. More so, they have no other psychotic symptoms except those related to their delusion and can function in daily life.
Schizoaffective Disorder
Symptoms of schizoaffective disorder mirror those of schizophrenia but include episodes of depression and mania.
Schizophreniform Disorder
Symptoms of schizophreniform disorder are similar to those of schizophrenia but are present for less than six months. Additionally, people with this disorder often don’t struggle as much to get along with others.
Treatment
Treatment for schizophrenia is a lifelong process. It’s complex, requiring medication, skill-building therapy, social supports, and frequently community based services. Hospitalization is often needed to ensure the personal safety of individuals during times of peak symptoms.
Common Misbeliefs About Schizophrenia
Perform a simple Google search, and you’ll find a ton of misinformation out there! Here a few common misbeliefs about schizophrenia and people who struggle with the condition.
Years ago, we believed that parents were responsible if their child developed schizophrenia. While there is a genetic component—the disorder tends to run in families—there is no evidence that it is caused by bad parenting. In fact, even if you have a parent who has schizophrenia, your chances of getting it are less than 25 percent.
People with schizophrenia are stupid.
Some people assume that those with schizophrenia aren’t intelligent, but this isn’t the case. Many times, people with the condition are brilliant. Consider the mathematician John Nash. He was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and won the Nobel Prize in economics for his scholarly work on game theory.
One reason for the assumption that those with schizophrenia aren’t intelligent is one of the disorder’s symptoms, alogia. Alogia disrupts an individual’s thought processes and leads to the absence of speech or verbal fluency. Those affected may have disorganized speech or memory, but that has nothing to do with their intelligence levels.
“If you hear nothing else today, please hear that there are no schizophrenics. There are people with schizophrenia. And each of these people may be a parent, your sibling, your neighbor, or your colleague. ” – Inspired by Elyn Saks
Have you heard of schizophrenia? It’s a chronic mental health condition that, when active, is characterized by symptoms of delusions, hallucinations, disorganized speech, trouble thinking, and lack of motivation.
The disease’s complexity leads many to misunderstand, fear, and stereotype those with it. Consequently, individuals often confront significant stigma.
We’re spreading awareness by sharing the words of those who confront the condition. Below are twenty quotes that illustrate living with schizophrenia.
Quotes on Living with Schizophrenia
Quote 1: I was diagnosed with schizophrenia 14 months ago. And I was happier pre-diagnosis. I’ve not felt normal since that day. – Unknown
Quote 2: Schizophrenia cannot be understood without understanding despair. – Unknown
Quote 3: I have schizophrenia. That means everyone thinks I’m a monster. – Unknown
Quote 4: My mom doesn’t know how to deal with me since we found out I had schizophrenia. Whenever I tell her a problem, she freaks out and then pretends as if I never said anything. – Unknown
Quote 5: I don’t tell many people I have schizophrenia because I’m afraid of having nobody. But sometimes my problems get the best of me, and people think I’m being terribly mean to them or being weird. – Unknown
Quote 6: From the outside looking in, it’s hard to understand. From the inside looking out, it’s hard to explain. – Unknown
Quote 7: Imagine being bombarded with voices from invisible forces and stripped of your ability to understand what is real and what is not. You discover you cannot trust your senses, your mind plays tricks on you, and your family or friends seem part of a conspiracy to harm you. – Unknown
Quote 8: I know what it’s like to be afraid of your own mind. – Spencer Reid
Quote 9: Every thought is a battle. Every breath is a war, and I don’t think I’m winning anymore. – Unknown
Quote 10: I had people saying, “it’s all in your head.” Do you honestly think I want to feel this way? – Sonia Estrada
Quote 11: There is no difference between acute schizophrenia and a world at war. – Gary Zukav
Quote 12: The word schizophrenia means “split mind,” referring to disruptions or “fractures” in how a person thinks, feels, and perceives reality when symptoms of the disease are active. – Unknown
Quote 13: The schizophrenic mind is not so much split as shattered. I like to say schizophrenia is like a waking nightmare. – Elyn Saks
Quote 14: I often felt like I was watching everyone else live out in the real world while I was trapped behind a glass wall, stuck in a bad movie with too many plot holes. Life didn’t make sense. – Unknown
Quote 15: You can’t see it, but I can definitely feel it. You don’t understand it, but it’s what I know. I deal with it on a daily basis. You either think I’m lazy, or you feel sorry for me, but I’m stronger than you’ll ever know. I fight every day. I don’t want your sympathy—I just want to be treated with respect. – Unknown
Quote 16: Treat me like a person because that’s what I am. I am not a stereotype. – Syretta Clark
Quote 17: You are not your illness. You have an individual story to tell. You have a name, a history, a personality. Staying yourself is the battle. – Julian Seifter
Quote 18: I have schizophrenia. I am not schizophrenia. I am not my mental illness. My illness is a part of me. – Jonathan Harnisch
Quote 19: I have schizophrenia. My eyes do see. My ears do hear. I am still me, so let’s be clear. My memory may fade, my walk may slow, but I am me inside. Don’t let me go. – Unknown
Quote 20: As well as being one of the worst things that can happen to a human being, schizophrenia can also be one of the richest learning and humanizing experiences life offers. – Mark Vonnegut
Are you familiar with bipolar disorder? It’s a chronic mental health condition characterized by periods of mania (intense high energy and reduced need for sleep) that frequently occur alongside periods of severe depression (low energy and mood).
We’re spreading awareness through the words of those who confront condition. Below are seventeen quotes that illustrate living with the bipolar disorder.
Quotes Illustrating Life with Bipolar Disorder
Quote 1: One of the things so bad about bipolar disorder is that if you don’t have prior awareness, you don’t have any idea what hit you. – Unknown
Quote 2: Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough. – Unknown
Quote 3: Mania starts off fun—not sleeping for days, keeping company with your brain, which has become a wonderful computer, showing 24 TV channels all about you. That goes horribly wrong after a while. – Carrie Fisher
Quote 4: And suddenly, I felt really tired, like the world had drained me of everything that I had. – Unknown
Quote 5: I yearned to get better. I told myself I was getting better. In fact, the depression was still there, like a powerful undertow. Sometimes it grabbed me, yanked me under; other times, I swam free. – Tracy Thompson
Quote 6: The mania is like wasps under the skin, like my head’s going to explode with ideas. – Alice Weaver Flaherty
Quote 7: And sometimes I just need to be alone, so I can cry without being judged, so I can think without being interrupted, so I don’t bring anyone else down with me. – Unknown
Quote 8: Do I fear the sleepless nights? You have no idea how long the dark lasts when you cannot close your eyes to it. – Tyler Knott Gregson
Quote 9: The mania started with insomnia and not eating and being driven, driven to find an apartment, driven to see everybody, driven to do New York, driven to never shut up. – Patty Duke
Quote 10: Depression is a painfully slow, crashing death. Mania is the other extreme, a wild roller coaster run off its tracks. – Unknown
Quote 11: It’s having the motivation to change the world one moment, then not having the motivation to wash yourself. – Unknown
Quote 12: I am good for a while. I’ll talk more, laugh more, sleep and eat normally. But then something happens, like a switch turns off somewhere, and all I am left with is the darkness of my mind. – Unknown
Quote 13: At night, I used to lay in bed crying. Now, I just lay there with a blank expression on my face. I never thought I’d get used to feeling this way, but I did. – Unknown
Quote 14: Sometimes, even to live is an act of courage. – Seneca
Quote 15: Suicide too often results from the impulsive nature and physical speed of mania coupled with depression’s paranoid self-loathing. – Unknown
Quote 16: I’m fine, but I’m bipolar. I’m on seven medications, and I take medication three times a day. This constantly puts me in touch with the illness I have. I’m never quite allowed to be free of that for a day. It’s like being a diabetic. – Carrie Fisher
Quote 17: Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It’s a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life. – Carrie Fisher
“It’s a disease that both kills and gives life. Fire, by its very nature, both creates and destroys. Mania is a strange and driving force—a destroyer—a fire in the blood.” — Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison
Frequently referred to as manic-depression, bipolar disorder is characterized by prolonged periods of marked “highs” (mania or hypomania) followed by depressive “lows” (depression) and often periods of symptom remission between cycles.
The presence of mania or hypomania distinguishes bipolar disorder from unipolar depression.
Manic Episode
“Restless, fiery, aggressive, visionary, and impatient with the status quo.” — Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison
A manic episode is a period of at least one week when someone is extremely high-spirited or irritable most of the day for most days, possesses more energy than usual, and experiences at least three of the following changes in behavior:
Some people experiencing manic episodes also experience disorganized thinking, false beliefs, and/or hallucinations, known as psychotic features.
Hypomania
A hypomanic episode is characterized by less severe manic symptoms that need last only four days in a row rather than a week. As a result, it doesn’t lead to the significant problems in daily functioning that mania commonly causes.
In fact, hypomania is often associated with increased productivity and other positive characteristics. But left untreated, it can result in full-blown mania, which may become dangerous and require hospitalization or be followed by long bouts of depression.
Major Depressive Episode
“Passive, sensitive, dependent, and with limited aspirations.” — Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison
A major depressive episode is a period of at least two weeks in which a person has at least five of the following symptoms, including at least one of the first two listed:
Characterized by extreme highs alongside lows (full-blown mania that may require hospitalization).
Bipolar 2
Involves briefer, less extreme periods of elation (hypomania) interspersed with long periods of depression.
Treatment Outcomes
With medication, bipolar disorder is treatable but not cured.
Therapy centered around education on identifying mood episode triggers, and lifestyle adjustments, such as regular exercise, can help those with the illness navigate symptoms. However, neither are a substitute for medication.
May’s about mental health, and we’re on a mission to bust stigma through spreading awareness. And today, we’re taking a closer look at depression. Below are sixteen powerful quotes that portray living with the condition.
Quotes Portraying Life with Depression
Trigger warning: These quotes touch on the topic of suicide.
Quote 1: You say you’re ‘depressed’ — all I see is resilience. You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective — it just means you’re human. – David Mitchell
Quote 2: What does depression feel like? You don’t want to live, but you don’t want to die. You don’t want to talk to anyone, but you feel very lonely. You wake up in the morning and simply wait for the night to come. – Unknown
Quote 3: And something inside me just broke. That’s the only way I could describe it. – Ranata Suzuki
Quote 4: Depression is such a cruel punishment. There are no fevers, no rashes, no blood tests to send people scurrying in concern, just the slow erosion of self, as insidious as cancer. And like cancer, it is essentially a solitary experience, a room in hell with only your name on the door. – Unknown
Quote 5: Depression is feeling like you’ve lost something but having no clue when or where you last had it. Then, one day you realize what you lost was yourself. – Unknown
Quote 6: I wanted to write down exactly what I felt, but somehow the paper stayed empty, and I could not have described it any better. – WTM
Quote 7: Nobody ever tells you that emptiness weighs the most. – Unknown
Quote 8: I don’t feel sad. I don’t feel anything. – Unknown
Quote 9: Depression is a lot like drowning, except that you can see everyone else around you breathing. – Unknown
Quote 10: I think I’m afraid to be happy because whenever I get too happy, something bad always happens. – Unknown
Quote 11: Nothing is more depressing than having everything and still feeling really sad. – Unknown
Quote 12: Depression is a prison where you are both the suffering prisoner and the cruel jailer. – Dorothy Rowe
Quote 13: The difference between your mind and my mind is this: Your mind wants to keep you alive, and mine wants to kill me. – Unknown
Quote 14: What’s wrong? I’m ugly. I’m fat. I’m a failure. I’m depressed. I’m suffering. I hate this world. I hate myself. I’m imperfect. I can’t do anything right. I’m disgusting. I’m just not okay. Nothing, I’m fine. – Unknown
Quote 15: My brother died from depression. He also frequently exercised, had supportive friends/family, was successful in school and work. He had goals that he was constantly reaching—he still completed suicide. People who are depressed are not weak-minded—they are sick – Maddie Rawrk
Quote 16: If you rearrange the letters in Depression, you’ll get “I pressed on.” Your current situation is not your final destination. – Unknown
Are you struggling?
If you’re having a hard time, know that there are people out there who care. Reach out to a friend, family member, or seek out a mental health professional.
If you’re in crisis, here are a few resources to help:
“A human being can survive almost anything as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.” – Elizabeth Wurtzel
What’s depression? It’s a complex illness categorized as a mood disorder. And everything from nerve cell connections to the brain’s physical anatomy play a hand in it.
Hallmark symptoms of the condition include prolonged bouts of sadness and the absence of pleasure from activities once enjoyed. But there’s more to depression than that.
Check out the video below:
Symptoms of Depression
Depression is bigger than just feeling blue. To be diagnosed with it, five or more of the following criteria must be met for two consecutive weeks, with symptoms of depressed mood or loss of interest or pleasure in activities present.
People experiencing depression may also present with irritability, obsessive rumination, anxiety, phobias, excessive worry over physical health, and complaints of pain.
Depression is Common
A snapshot of U.S. Census Bureau data in February 2022 showed that nearly one-third of Americans struggled with at least one of the symptoms of depression. And when it comes to youth, the number is even more staggering.
Dopamine: Helps regulate emotion, memory, thinking, motivation, and reward
Norepinephrine: Makes your heart rate and blood pressure soar during a “fight or flight” response or stressful time
Serotonin: Helps regulate mood and plays a role in your overall sense of well-being; known as the “feel-good” chemical
Researchers continue to study the causes of imbalances, and neurotransmitters acetylcholine, GABA, and glutamate are also thought to be linked to the disorder.
Depression is a sign of weakness.
Depression affects people from all walks of life, indiscriminate of age, gender, race, education, or social class. And it’s more than mindset. There are clear differences in the structure and chemistry of the brain in people with the condition.
The key is to look for significant changes, such as becoming more argumentative, hopeless, or less social. Shifts in weight or eating habits can also be a good indicator of the disorder.
Anxiety. Have you ever experienced it? Racing thoughts, sweaty palms, heart pounding out of your chest. It feels like every worst-case scenario is playing out in your head at once.
It’s an overwhelming, dreadful emotion. And for those of us who confront it regularly—it’s exhausting.
Here are sixteen quotes that illustrate life with anxiety.
Quotes Illustrating Life with Anxiety
Quote 1: Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal. – Albert Camus
Quote 2: Living with anxiety is like being followed by a voice. It knows all your insecurities and uses them against you. It gets to the point when it’s the loudest voice in the room-it’s the only one you can hear. – Unknown
Quote 3: Every day is a struggle, even when I’m at my best. My anxiety is always with me, and my panic taps me on my shoulder a few times a day. On my good days, I can brush it off. On my bad days, I just want to stay in bed. – Unknown
Quote 4: It is very hard to explain to people who have never known severe depression or anxiety the sheer continuous intensity of it. There is no off switch. – Matt Haig
Quote 5: I get nervous about everything. Sometimes, I don’t even know why I’m anxious. I just am. And no one seems to understand that. – Unknown
Quote 6: Anxiety is not being able to sleep because you said something wrong two years ago and can’t stop thinking about it. – Unknown
Quote 7: I overanalyze situations because I’m scared of what might happen if I’m not prepared for them. – Turcois Ominek
Quote 8: I have to remind myself all the time that being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right. – Unknown
Quote 9: Anxiety is nothing but repeatedly reexperiencing failure in advance. What a waste. – Seth Godin
Quote 10: Fear is interest paid on a debt you may not even owe. – Unknown
Quote 11: Free time is death to the anxious, and thank goodness I don’t have any of it right now. – Jon Stewart
Quote 12: I feel busy, but nothing gets done. I feel tired, but sleep doesn’t help. I feel anxious, but I’m not sure why. – Unknown
Quote 13: I am very strong. But sometimes, while I’m being strong, I’m also hyperventilating—my heart is pounding out of my chest. Also, I might cry and swear a lot. That’s just how I roll. – Nanea Hoffman
Quote 14: If there’s an adrenaline rush, I will find it. If there’s an anxiety attack, I will have it. – Bert Kreischer
Quote 15: A panic attack goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. It’s halfway between feeling like you’ll faint and feeling like you’ll die. – Unknown
Quote 16: Mantra for anxiety: Anxiety is not you. It’s something moving through you. It can leave out of the same door it came in. – James Clear
“Every day is a struggle, even when I’m at my best. My anxiety is always with me, and my panic taps me on my shoulder a few times a day. On my good days, I can brush it off. On my bad days, I just want to stay in bed.” – Unknown
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. To honor it, we’re exploring common mental health conditions. And today, we’re taking a closer look at anxiety disorders.
Check out the video below for a brief overview of anxiety disorders and how they impact those afflicted.
We all experience anxious feelings from time to time—it’s part of being human.
However, two things generally separate an anxiety disorder from simply being anxious:
For people who experience anxiety disorders, excessive and persistent worries often don’t go away, even when there’s nothing to stress or worry about. And those who struggle frequently try to avoid situations that might be triggering.
Have you ever felt like there’s a weight pressing down on you? Like you’re stuck in a hole with slippery walls, and no matter how hard you fight to climb out, you sink deeper?
We all face days like that—days when getting out of bed feels impossible or when our thoughts won’t quiet down. But when those days start stacking up, it can grow into something more. That’s when learning healthy ways of coping with depression becomes essential.
Understanding Depression
Depression doesn’t always announce itself with tears. Sometimes it shows up as anger, irritability, anxiety, or exhaustion. Sometimes it hides behind a smile. It can be triggered by big life changes—a loss, a move, retirement, a new baby—or it can creep in slowly without a single cause.
Depression doesn’t always look the same for everyone. Here are some indicators that what you’re feeling may be more than sadness:
Persistent low mood or emptiness
Loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed
Fatigue or low energy
Trouble sleeping or oversleeping
Appetite or weight changes
Withdrawing from family and friends
Irritability, anger, or restlessness
Feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness
If you or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of self-harm, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 right away.
6 Practical Ways of Coping With Depression
Below are six small but powerful steps that can help with coping with depression.
Move Your Body
Exercise may feel like the last thing you want to do, but movement boosts endorphins and shifts your brain chemistry in ways that can lighten your mood. Start small—even a 10-minute walk can help.
Get Daylight (Vitamin D)
Sunlight helps regulate mood. Step outside for a few minutes each morning, or sit near a window to enjoy the fresh air. If you live in an area with limited daylight, consider consulting your healthcare provider about vitamin D supplements.
Build a Simple Routine
Depression thrives on a lack of structure. A predictable routine—like waking up, showering, getting dressed, and eating breakfast—signals to your brain that the day matters and you do too.
Make and Keep Small Plans
Isolation fuels depression. Set one plan each day: call a friend, grab coffee, or tackle a small task. Following through builds momentum and gives your mind a break from negative cycles.
Stay Connected
Even when it feels draining, human connection is powerful medicine. Answer the phone, reply to a message, or open up to someone you trust. If that feels too big, consider a support group or a counselor who can walk with you.
Seek Professional Support
Therapy and, in some cases, medication can be life-changing. Neither is a quick fix, but together with lifestyle steps, they form a strong foundation for recovery. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Final Thoughts
Depression narrows your view until it feels like there’s no light ahead. But small, consistent steps can open that tunnel and remind you that healing is possible. If you’re struggling, know you’re not alone—and you don’t have to carry the weight by yourself.
Coping with depression takes courage. Every small action—moving, reaching out, getting sunlight, making one plan—all are a step toward hope.
If You’re Struggling
You don’t have to carry the weight alone. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member, and don’t hesitate to call 988 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Support is just a call away.
